by Imageslie on April 5th, 2007

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Hey! Common people i need advice!!!! Im 16 madely in love with a 24 year old, Im stuck i really want this guy because we connect,understand,Communicate and love each other but he dosnt know how i feel about him yet and were like the best of friends.

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by PrettyPirate on April 5th, 2007
Yes, well, I certainly hope this advice is worthy, considering it's coming from a common person.

He's 24. You're 16. I'm your friends age, and, no, I don't find anything attractive about a 16 year old. As far as I am concerned, the age difference, and the difference in many lifestyle aspects is too great for me to ever want to pursue something with someone still in high school. Many times, things present a problem, such as finding time inbetween work and school to spend quality time together. Not to mention that it is possibly illegal for him to enter into a sexual relationship with you. If you really do love him, then I suppose telling him would be an idea, but I would perhaps suggest you try to find someone your own age.
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- I agree. I remember being 24, and someone even 19 was not at all appealing. It has to do with interests, life experience, maturity level, etc.
  
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  by AntigoneRising on April 5th, 2007
- Exactly, AR. There's just too many aspects that pose a problem.
  
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  by PrettyPirate on April 5th, 2007
- Huzzah for PP, well said. In your thirties 8 Years will be a small difference but at your age (innocent and sweet I am sure) its a huge disparity. Men 24 are primarily interested in you but not a relationship with you. Please be careful and make good choices These choices you make now will define the rest of your life.
  
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  by ABnormally HappyVTguy moves to NH on April 5th, 2007
- i would do what common people would do ...
  
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  by bolilla on April 5th, 2007
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by Rinky Dinky Do on December 8th, 2008
So, you connect, understand, communicate and love each other, only he doesn't know it yet...Which, BTW, is a good thing because if he did, he would have Big Bubba loving him and connecting with him at the state penitentary a hell of a lot more than you ever would
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- haha, +3 for the bubba reference.
  
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by yoho05 reminds you to DYOH on April 5th, 2007
There's something in your question that I cannot get my head around. You say that you love each other and then you say that he doesn't know how you feel about him. If you communicate (your word), how is it that he doesn't know? It sounds to me like you are fantasising a bit too much into this friendship and that you really don't communicate very well.

By all means be friends, but just friends and not lovers or sexual partners. If it's meant to be any more than that, it will wait until you are closer in age and life experience.
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by Mephistopheles on November 5th, 2008
Great. Sucker him in, it'll be fun to watch him go to jail
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- He won't go to jail in most of the states.
  
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  by I Am Gone on December 10th, 2009
- AGE OF CONSENT 16: Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia.
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  AGE OF CONSENT 17: Colorado, Illinois, Louisiana, Missouri, Nebraska, New York, Texas.
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  AGE OF CONSENT 18: Arizona, California, Delaware, Florida, Idaho, North Dakota, Oregon, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming. (16 year olds can have sex with people under 30 in Delaware and less than 10 year old in Utah)
  
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by Mary Mary quite contrary on November 5th, 2008
When you're 16, it's normal to admire guys who aren't dorky and pimply like so many 16 year old boys. But getting seriously involved with someone while you're 16 is a bad idea, and chances are if you started a serious romance with him, he'd want something pretty serious. Chalk this one up to experience so you don't jeopardize your chances at having an education and a life.
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- Don't you dare down-rate me, you know it's true and the best advice you'll get >:-(
  
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  by Mary Mary quite contrary on November 5th, 2008
- +3 for giving honest advice.
  
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by Lysander on April 21st, 2008
Common people??? thats not a way to get advice. So you wont get any from me.
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by soule on December 8th, 2008
Well im not common so not sure if my answer will be of use to you:0P

At 16 you are going through alot of changes, the person you are today will not be the person you are when you are 24, because by then you will be working, you will see things differantly, you will be maturer .

Although you feel you love this guy, it will not be a relationship to hold onto for 2 reasons, first, you will have a complete differant outlook on life because of your age and the fact you would be at school etc.
secondly, a 24 year old will be able to drink and do activities that you will not even be allowed to do legally, this will cause a divide.

Lastly, and I am sorry to say this, but I would seriously consider why a 24 year old would be interested in a 16 year old? Not because there is anything worng with you, I am sure you are lovely, but ask yourself why he isn't with someone nearer his own age, and why considering all the hurdles you would face being together would he be considering this?

It is very appealing at your age to fall for an older man, but in reality he will be after more than you can offer him at your age.

I will let you into a secret about some men, they are very good at playing the perfect guy to get what they want and when they get it they change. I hope this isn't the case, but I would advise you invest in some ice cream and let this guy go, if this is genuine in a few years time when you have experienced a little more of life, if its meant to be it will happen.
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by SamPanther on April 22nd, 2008
Im 17 years old and I would never ever date a 24 year old. They are an adult and we are not. You don't realize that he knows that he should not feel that way about you. It is wrong. You don't understand that the maturity level is so different. Im not saying your immature or he is, but atleast wait till your 18. I mean you have no idea what your getting into. He could only want in your pants because your so young to him. Just really think about it and realize the differences.
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by Freddy Says remove all moderation points on April 21st, 2008
I am not common. Screw you!
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by headake on January 2nd, 2008
Honestly....i'm 20 and even I wouldnt date nor have any kind of contact other than "hello" with a 16 year old... and as a man im telling you it is a horrible idea....you WILL get hurt...
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by Anonymous on April 5th, 2007
i was in your shoes when i was 16 and he was 22. we had nothing in common except for sex. he brainwashed me for years and eventually left me for a women that he was going to marry. I thought that i loved him, but at your age you have so much going on, that you should waste your time with someone who will eventually break your heart and lie to you about everything!!! run girl, run!!! be strong!:)
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- I don't see anything wrong with you two being friends, but honestly, relationship wise, he is too old. For one, I know that you think you know what you want, but I did too when I was 16 and trust me, it wasn't! Also, a 24 year old should not have any romantic interest in a 16 year old. You two are in totally different places in your life right now. I would keep it a friendship and not ruin it with trying to take it further...
  
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by mole18 on November 22nd, 2009
Its nice to hear everything is good between you both. If you really want to find out his feeling towards you, sit down or go out somewhere so you can break to him how you feel. By the sounds of it, you both have a great friendship but you never know, he may feel the same for you but too afraid to tell you how he feels, move cautiously though, you dont want to ruin your friendship. Good luck
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by fearfulkitty on November 5th, 2008
You will keep him out of jail if you keep it to yourself until you are 18.
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- AGE OF CONSENT 16: Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia.
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  AGE OF CONSENT 17: Colorado, Illinois, Louisiana, Missouri, Nebraska, New York, Texas.
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  AGE OF CONSENT 18: Arizona, California, Delaware, Florida, Idaho, North Dakota, Oregon, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming. (16 year olds can have sex with people under 30 in Delaware and less than 10 year old in Utah)
  
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by shekabeka on October 13th, 2008
Hay..... I tHInk IF YOu LoVe EAcH OTHE r THAn Be ToGetHEr... BuT UR SayIn U are In LoVe WIth HiM YOU DiDn't SAy Anything about him being in love with u... even though yall are best friends...... u have to tell him in some kind of way that you have fellings for him in other ways than just friends because u cant hold a relationship on Imagination so i would ask him or talk to him about it.... because if you love him and u say he loves you u would of been with him by now.....
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by Anonymous on December 3rd, 2009
If yot really mad about this guy ,hey go out with him but be carefull he might just want sex .they say they love but there just fooling you be careful darling dont be no sket or slag.

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by JessicaMariexo on October 5th, 2009
I believe you should just tell him how you feel. Tell him that yes you're younge, BUT youve never experienced this feeling with anyone else and you need him in your life. You know the age difference, and you know that some people wont understand, but you know that you will. Talk things out alone and ask questions, talk to eachother. love is a very important thing to have, and not everyone will experience it. So please talk to him, and hold on to this feeling that you have. love conquers all.
-withlovejessicamarie.
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by Aricottone on January 27th, 2011
Listen I was your age when I fell in love with my husband who is 8 years older then me.... There is nothing wrong with it... But for one be careful nit all guys are true he might be just looking for a young hot " tight" girl but also he might not be 2 wait till ur 18 to do anything and I mean anything in public or announced because u will get in trouble with the police if one word gets out he will get arrested it's not a little thing!! Ur parents are still legally responsible for you and they have a say in pressing charges if they feel it's "rape"
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by lover`sguide on February 26th, 2011
Go ahead and get your love. But wait you should have some patience to become 18 for marriage.Age difference doesn`t matter
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by sazzycat09 on January 27th, 2011
well at 16 i can say your normal~ you like older guys~ lol

to be honest with you hun, hes 24~ he talks to you as a friend it sounds like and you are totally taken away with how mature and handsome he is. if your 16 and hes 24 im thinking he has a lot of friends that are closer to his age that he would consider his bestfriend~ and i dont say that to be hurtfull just being honest.

it sounds as though his "love" for you could be rather a sisterly way rather then a "lovers" way. you have a crush, he shows you attention it is normal~ look for a guy closer to your age who has some of the same charms you find in this guy, i think youll be much happier.
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by Gen.ButtNaked on September 14th, 2010
He probably knows already, but he is just being cautious, he knows the ramifications of dealing sexually with a girl your age, that outcome is never good. He may be smart enough to wait for you to get o the age of consent. You can date him, it is not against the law for you to date a guy 50 yrs old, he just can't have sexual contact with you, this does not include kissing, since it is non-sexual!!!!
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by extremewirehead on May 28th, 2010
Should age really be an issue. In my opinion, if you care, then say it, if it doesn't work, then move on, but most important of all, nothing is of importance outside of love.
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- It should not be, but for some reason our government saw fit insinuate themselves into our personal lives. Funny how they see fit to put minor children on trial for murder, but that same child can't consent to sex!?
  
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by LePoupon is a proper gander. on May 28th, 2010
Drug rape him, get pregnant. He's yours.
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by lover`sguide on February 26th, 2011
Go ahead and get your love. But be patient till you complete 18 years. And age difference doesn`t matter. Don`t bother about it.
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by MilitaryToopsPenPal on October 13th, 2008
nine times outta ten. the man will not care cuase u are a child and hes an adult and if u love him u will let him go. becuase if u are together and ur parents dont like it he can be sent to prison for 25 or more years..
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- AGE OF CONSENT 16: Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Connecticut, District of Columbia, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, South Carolina, South Dakota, Vermont, Washington, West Virginia.
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by BrandNewMommy on November 5th, 2008
Let me tell you from experience ...

Im 16 years olds and was very in love with a man who was 26 years old . We started as the best of friends .. i mean i told this man every thing there was to know about me ... i was just that comfortable .. then one niight our true feelings came out ... my fear was i didnt think he felt the same becuz of our age difference but it was not true its matter on maturity level! but be careful cuz now i have a month old beautiful daughter lol ... look at it like this .. society put a age limit on love .. not us .. who is it to say who and who we can not love .... look in the bible day .. in the OLDEN DAYS!!
follow your heart is the best choice cant no wrong come from the heart good always prevails !!
much love from some who really know how you feel
Lala
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- He must not have been that mature if he was irresponsible enough to get a 16 year old girl pregnant.
  
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  by raindancer on December 24th, 2008
- Society does not put an age limit on love it puts an age limit on sexual contact because as you proved, young people are not ready to handle it.
  
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- Yep, yep, Gingerminx.
  
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  by raindancer on December 24th, 2008
- Thank you Raindancer.
  
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  by Gingerminx on December 24th, 2008
- I agree with you, should have used a condom! How did you parents feel about that? How did they not know a 26 yr old man was sniffing around you? I was 32, when I married my wife at 17, met her when she was 15. He dad was crazy with hate, but her mom facilitated things so we could be together, because she was cool like that I guess. We had a first child 9 months after she graduated from college and our second after she finished law school, we have been together for 20 yrs now, her father still does not speak to me, nor has ever been to our home, but he loves his grandchildren. We are very lucky, because she was allowed to grow, and she decided to stay, having your baby at 16 is going to be a test for you, he at 26, thinks he owns you now and you feel as though he does!!! I hope you make it, my best wishes for you, do not have any more kids, finish school and get something for yourself and child!!!
  
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by Smile loves California on November 5th, 2008
You won't like this answer, but some of our biggest mistakes are made from the ages of 16 and 24. His friendship could be a great thing for you, but I have a feeling a more personal relationship won't be. Keep your cool. If he's right for you he will be there once you have established yourself in the world.
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by Dark_Reign on October 6th, 2008
im in love with a 23 year old..going out for 1 year and 4 months....hmm...lets see....well..it comes from the heart...he'll understand especially when it comes from the heart
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by Anonymous on July 29th, 2008
i think you should let him know how you feel and i am pretty sure he will understand if he feels the same way about you.
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by Indielauper on November 5th, 2008
wait until you are 18. You'll change your mind.
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by 232499 on December 24th, 2008
If he is 24 what is he doing hanging out with kids? He is going to jail!
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by mayva123 on May 28th, 2010
Look im 16 and im about to turn 17....im datinsg a 24 yr old and we live far away weve ben going out for 2 weeks now and i only saw him da day we went out...he texted me the first 3 days after that i havent heard about him...i see him in my apartments sometimes but i dont come out....and one of my homegirls called him and he tryed to hit on her and he knew she was 17...he also denied having a gf....and i heard his married with a kid ???? i asked him but he said no that he was single....who knows...but once i see him im defenatly gona break up with him this guys are no good trust me i regret even kissing him.
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