There's this guy that sometimes acts like he likes me but I'm not sure. Should I give it a shot or just give up? Flirting advice welcome.

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• I'm just worried that it's just that he's a bit of a flirt and doesn't actually like me.. But nothing ventured, nothing gained.
  Any tips on "going for it?"

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  by Tall Girl on December 27th, 2009

• Be confident. You are beautiful. Know that the true love of your life will always say yes. So you have nothing to fear. If he is not your true love you will know and be able to move on to your real love.
  
  Ask him for coffee or a movie. "I'd like to go for coffee so we can get to know each other better."
  
  Go slow become wonderful friends, best friends and let the relationship develop on its own.

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  by SoulFire on December 27th, 2009

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• I've never felt pretty, I used to be quite chubby and a huge dork, I still have quite a distorted body image so that makes it even harder.. It just scared me that if he did like me, he would be too embarrassed to do anything...

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  by Tall Girl on December 27th, 2009

• The way you talk about him and the way he acts around you he does not love you for your shell, though I'm sure he thinks it's beautiful. He loves you for you, who you truly are. For that wonderful "dorky" fun person you are.
  
  I am 220 pounds, love star trek and video games and I'm addicted to facebook. But my man loves me for all those things. Even at my heaviest he told me I look beautiful in his eyes and that no woman was more beautiful then me. Now I look at the movie stars and models and know that their bodies are healthier and more athletic then mine. But he still loves me and my body, because my inner beauty shines through the fat and stretch marks.
  
  He smiles at YOU. He moves other peoples stuff just to sit by YOU! Yo play different instruments yet he insists on sitting by YOU! He texts you without you texting him first. He HUGS YOU!!!
  
  He wants YOU!!! girl, go get him. Tell him, "We have a lot in common and I'd like to know if you would like to go out for dinner with me. I think we would be good for each other. How do you feel about that?"
  
  It will tell him you like him and that you want to go out with him. It will give him the opportunity to tell you how he feels. And if he is not interesting in dating, well you will make a close friend who knows that you care for him. Trust me you will not loose him at a friend. If he says no just say. "That's cool, thought I'd give it a try. Good friends?" He will stay your friend maybe even be a better one.
  
  You are beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The one who will truly love you will see that beauty. Trust me... I found the love of my life and he can see nothing but the best. It is how I see him as well.

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  by SoulFire on December 27th, 2009

• Wow, I really wasn't expecting a response like that. Thank you. :)
  
  I think I might say something to him, subtle though.

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  by Tall Girl on December 28th, 2009

• Most men do not get subtly. So you know. You could beat a guy over the head with something and he will ask you "What do you mean by that?"
  
  You could say "Your the type of person I would date. To bad you haven't asked me out yet."
  
  Good luck with your man and bringing out your inner beauty for all to see.

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  by SoulFire on December 28th, 2009

• Haha. Well, I'm just as oblivious to flirtatious acts as most guys so I can relate. :P
  I'm going to start out with smiles and eye contact I think. I don't want to scare him away!
  
  Thanks for the advice.
  I'll let you know if anything ever happens. ;)

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  by Tall Girl on December 28th, 2009

• Smiles and eye contact is what is already happening. You are not going to get him asking you out with that. It would scare him off if you said you want to marry him and bare his children. You will let a wonderful opportunity walk away if you are subtle. I just don't want to see you dance around love only to lose it.
  
  But I will shut up now. :-)

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  by SoulFire on December 28th, 2009

• I guess you're right. I'm really bad at this boy stuff. :P I relate to them really well as friends, but if there is a romantic attraction, it's really hard for me.
  I just need to do it. Let him know I'm interested. Mabey let him catch me looking at him..
  
  I liked your advice. :)

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  by Tall Girl on December 28th, 2009

• I was horrible when I was in high school. Its why me and my friend never dated. 8 years we wasted because we were to scared. But I did find the love of my life, not my old friend. I was set up by a friend. He said he was terrified to call me and ask me to go on our second date cause he wasn't sure if I liked him. We have been together for 15 1/2 years. Nothing risked nothing gained.
  
  You will find your strength.

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  by SoulFire on December 28th, 2009

• Oh, I will. It's just really hard. Rejection scares me more than anything. Alas, you are right, nothing ventured, nothing gained
  
  I just got to put myself out there and not wuss out..

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  by Tall Girl on December 28th, 2009

• Just remember he fears rejection just as much as you do. Honestly the way it sounds is that you will not be sorry. If he says no, then say to yourself. "I am so proud of myself for going for it. I have nothing to fear from a simply word. The only thing I have to fear is not saying anything and missing what could have been."
  
  This is help you increase your self worth. When your bravery pays off you will realize just how strong you are. Even if you find your strength in a no. You will learn how to handle rejection as it is going to happen in "real" life so you might as well learn to deal with it now. But honestly I'm sure he likes you. If not as a boyfriend, definitely a male friend.

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  by SoulFire on December 28th, 2009

• You really know how to make someone feel better. Thank you so much! :)
  
  You're right, it's just a word, it can't hurt me.. I would regret it would be more upsetting if I found out I missed my chance..

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  by Tall Girl on December 28th, 2009

• Experience. And a great relationship. I also used to have low self esteem in high school. But once I found my man, him and I constantly give each other self esteem boosts and now I have really great self esteem. I realized if someone one doesn't like me for me, they are not worth my time.

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  by SoulFire on December 28th, 2009

• Also, I think part of it was that last year, there was this guy who always told me how great I was and that this guy would be crazy not to go for me. I started liking him and considering that my main intrest was seeing someone at the time, I would go for this guy. He told me he liked me and that he could see us being together for a long time and that I was the first and only girl that he has felt truely comfortable around BUT he couldn't date me because I deserved better. We had a bit of a thing for about a month and then he just started ignoring me and got a girlfriend.
  It just makes it harder for me to open up and let my guard down.. :/

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  by Tall Girl on December 28th, 2009

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• Pardon? :P

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  by Tall Girl on December 27th, 2009

• I don't get it either, but I think the person is saying just ask and see.

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  by SoulFire on December 27th, 2009