First, apologize to your bfriend (and the other party, if that is appropriate)... and ask for some time and space before you or your partner make any important decisions about what to do with the damaged relationship. A good relationship can recover from a mistake, when the parties are able to let the passions of the moment pass. Rational discussion and resolution must follow, of course. It is a sticky situation, and I do wish you well. Please don't drink and 'drive' in the future...

When you are drunk, yes you say things that if you were sober you would not have said, but that doesn't mean that you didn't want to say them. Yes, you are more impressionable when you are not of your senses. Though, that does not excuse what you have done. If you really didn't want to cheat on your boyfriend, then even when you are drunk you wouldn't have done it. In the back of your mind, and you even admit that you wanted to see what it would be like with someone else. You knew the possible outcomes of your decision. You just used drinking as an excuse to go along with it without making you feel guilty. I would say though, that if you are sorry for what you have done, you should at least tell your boyfriend that. Tell him the truth. I am not saying that he will forgive you right away, or if at all. Though, at least you did apologize and really do feel sorry for what you did. Give him some time to think about what he wants to do from this point. Though, I don't know if you even want him back or not. Be prepared to be called things in anger and accussed of things. When you break someone's trust, that is bound to happen.

About being drunk: "vino est veritas." In wine there is truth. First of all, both you and your boyfriend should understand that it is not the most important thing about your relationship. Secondly, you have been with him for three years. That's a long time to go without antother relationship. You should do it when you are not drunk, and so should your boyfriend. Sex is a gift--to confine it to one partner for a lifetime is narrow and very sad. Pigeons mate for life. When humans do they are suppressing their natures. I am not saying to "cheat." I am saying that each partner has the right to have other relationships and that each partner should understand that it is going to happen. It works.

I did the same thing. Although I agree it was wrong, and it hurt him badly, I do believe it happened for a reason. We were missing something in our relationship and it has highlighted what we need to work on. He is still very angry and hurt, and I doubt he will trust me ever again, but I just wanted to let you know I understand your side of things. Good luck :o)

There is no hope for you or your boyfriend. Get rid of him so you don't have to justify anything. You hurt him because you want a secondary emotional pay off. You want new and exciting sex with someone else. Stop playing games with his feelings. Drunk or not you have no integrity and you are just buying time until you sleep with someone who keeps you comin back for more.

Oh leave him and embark on the chosen career....have fun slut!....

Shameless Whore. Leave him alone and move on spreading your vile diseases and immoral ways. You repulse me and all the other members of the congregation Fr Flaherty

What did you end up doing?