What do you do when you are a 50 yr old woman and the love of your life doesn't love you or treat you the way he should? Im White he's Black

should have gone with a white guy... what did you expect!!!

If a man is not treating you right or loving you like he should, there is something wrong. I'm gonna give you a little tough love (no, not like that awful vh1 series).

If he's not treating you right, it's because you've allowed him to. I understand that you love this man, but he's discovered that he can act this way with no consequences. Why would he stop when he has no reason to?

Do you feel like you're the only one giving in this relationship? Well, usually intuition isn't very far from the truth. Clearly this man is possessive and controlling.

And now we get to the whole race thing....oh boy.

He's said he doesn't like white people. I'm assuming this means excluding you. But what about your family? How does he treat them and vice versa? What about the friends you had before you began seeing this man? Interracial couples are incredibly commonplace nowadays, and you two are certainly old enough to escape the "young and stupid" label. America is supposed to be a land of freedom and tolerance.

I'm pretty sure you didn't sign up to give your life away when you began dating this man. If he's going to act like this, he doesn't deserve to have you all to himself. He has cut away all the ties you have, and that isn't okay. Be strong! You don't have to yell at him or start an argument. Simply say you'd like to talk, and that the way he's been acting is unacceptable. If his behavior continues, leave him.

Yes, I said it. LEAVE HIM.

One of two things will happen:

1. You will leave yourself available to find a man who loves you for who you are, no matter your race. Someone who treats you right because you will NOT accept a man who doesn't.

2. Your man will realize that he doesn't want to lose you, and clean up his act.


I'm sorry if I seemed a little harsh. I've just gone through something similar. Good luck!

It might have been kinder of him to tell you his reservations before he got involved in a relationship with you. It seems as if he is now using the Race Card as an excuse. Race possibly has nothing to do with it. Best to move on.

He is African from Kenya, I am white from America. We live in Florida. We have been together for the past 4 yrs, joined at the hip, at his insistence. We do everything together. The only friends we have are his Kenyan friends. He told me the other day he "doesnt like white people" because "they don't want to see us together" and he warned me to "keep away from them" or there would be trouble.

What would race have to do with anything? If you're having problems that you think are race related then specify. If not I don't see why you would feel the need to put that down. Why not put how long you've been together, if things were fine before etc.