by penguin on December 5th, 2009

Question

Help answer this question below.

Why does a man who has been cheating for over a year keep photo's of his group sexual encounters. Is this a trophy? Did he want me to find them so I would leave? He seems quite proud of them as he skypes them to anyone new he meets on FB,is that to entice

Like
Report

Share:: Facebook; Twitter; Other

Answers. 8 helpful answers below.

by Stillme FBB on December 5th, 2009
He doesn't care one way or the other. He likes to admire himself. One thing that is for sure, he is sick! Best to move along.....
Comments
- You're definitely right about that, Stillme... it IS best to move on. +
  - Report
  by Ditto on December 6th, 2009
Add a comment...
- Like
- Report
1 comment | Post one | Permalink
by Anonymous on December 5th, 2009
Women are often attracted to men who can prove they have been successful with other women. So, yeah, it's a trophy.
Comments
- James - this has all happened in the last year. we have been married for 17yrs. why take pictures of himself and others in the act. The pictures are very graphic and often show him in group orgies. He has never told me, but I came across one and then searched everywhere for more.Did he intend me to find them, has he grown tired of me and wish I would leave? He is in his mid 40's
  - Report
  by penguin on December 5th, 2009
- The midlife crisis is caused by the age of the female partner, not the male's. It is instinctive in men to seek another mate if the one they have is past childbearing age. For the average woman it's 41.
  He may still love you but is seeking permission for more.
  - Report
  by Anonymous on December 5th, 2009
- James - I'm 37 and still very attractive, I still get a lot of male attention. I just remembered now that he suggested a threesome some time ago but I declined and was upset by the notion. I couldn't imagine sharing. He said it was fine and that he didn't have to have one, that it was just a thought. Do you think he is satisfying his desire now? What do I do now? I just want a man that wants me only, I thought I had that, but now I feel I have wasted 17 yrs of my life, that we are incompatible. Even if I speak to him and let him know that I have found out, he will do it again.
  - Report
  by penguin on December 5th, 2009
- Men are never satisfied sexually. Solomon had 1000 wives but was still looking for more. He must be persuaded that he is wasting his time, energy, and money. These whores will never give him anything except disease and an empty wallet. At least Solomon had many sons and daughters. He had something to show for it. What's your husband ever going to get?
  Men are greatly attracted to the idea of an orgy because their instincts tell them they could produce many offspring without having to support them. But is this the case here? Probably not. Ruin his fantasy by referring to these sluts as physically weak in some way. Diseased. If he says they're not then remind him of the cost of a child support lawsuit. Either way, all the joy is taken out.
  Another thing to try is peer pressure from other males. A man may want to fool around but its not in his best interests if other men do. That's why men invented marriage, to stop the other guys.
  - Report
  by Anonymous on December 6th, 2009
- James - thanks for explaining the psychology and genetic programming of men. Us women are supposed to find the strongest mate when ovulating.....if I haven't slept with another man, I must either think he is the strongest, or something is wrong with my radar - I think it's the latter. I'm going to move on, perhaps trust does not come into our programming - but it is extremely important to me, besides the obvious possibilities of infection with all the terrible std's in todays world. Thanks for your answer - it makes sense to me.
  - Report
  by penguin on December 7th, 2009
Add a comment...
- Like
- Report
5 comments | Post one | Permalink
by Pistachio on December 6th, 2009
He's a perv...dump him!
Comments
Add a comment...
- Like
- Report
No comments. Post one | Permalink
by Old School on December 6th, 2009
I think the "why" of his behavior is largely irrelevant at this point.

If he is engaging in orgies without your permission, he is violating the trust of your relationship.

Your main decision at this point is whether or not you are going to give him a chance to stop this behavior and rededicate himself to your relationship.

It the answer is "No", then it's time to leave and you need to focus on that.

I sympathize with your desire to understand, but I think that's something that needs to wait until the more immediate issues are addressed.

Good luck.
Comments
Add a comment...
- Like
- Report
No comments. Post one | Permalink
by N I C K on December 5th, 2009
Not a man, don't use that term so lightly
Comments
Add a comment...
- Like
- Report
No comments. Post one | Permalink
by Vintage... on December 5th, 2009
The guy is tacky and sleazy. Character is not his strong point.
Comments
Add a comment...
- Like
- Report
No comments. Post one | Permalink
by dinks205 on September 21st, 2010
Oviously he is a low life person who only thinks of himself with no regard or shame about how it makes you feel , the best thing for you would be to get rid of this horrid man and move on with your life , their are so many men who would not dream of treating you in this way . and if you continue to put up with this then you are heading for a very sad and lonley life . i wish you all the best
Comments
Add a comment...
- Like
- Report
No comments. Post one | Permalink
by Ditto on December 6th, 2009
He doesn't value the relationship he has with you. I think you'd be a fool to stay with him. Go find a man who will be what you need him to be. That IS the best thing you could do.
Comments
Add a comment...
- Like
- Report
No comments. Post one | Permalink

Question

Why does a man who has been cheating for over a year keep photo's of his group sexual encounters. Is this a trophy? Did he want me to find them so I would leave? He seems quite proud of them as he skypes them to anyone new he meets on FB,is that to entice

Answers. 8 helpful answers below.

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Did this answer your question? If not, then ask a new question or create a poll.

More Questions. Additional questions in this category.

Follow us on Facebook!

Related Ads

Related Questions

My husband is cheating after 17yrs of marriage.I have only now found some pics of his group sexual encounters.some are 1yr old, and with mutual friends.I'm hurt and want 2 do smthing with pics that will hurt him.How do I live after I leave?

My 25th birthday is coming soon and I want to find something fun to do with a small group of friends. I went to Dave and Buster's for my birthday last year, so that's out. Anyone have any suggestions for an out-of-the-ordinary celebration?

My mother just seems to want me married - no matter who they are, just so long as they are wealthy. For me, it's not just about money, I also have to be able to respect that person. There is one good rich man, but he is aloof and proud - reader, should I?

Do you think 10 sexual partners (intercourse only, not counting a few other encounters) is excessive for a 26 year old man?

Professionally Researched

What is the amount of money earned each year from selling flowers on Valentine\'s Day?

What year did most of u.s. retailers began to use plastic rather than paper bags?

What was the year that we last observed haley\'s comet?

What would a queen leaf cutter ant use as a food source for a new colony?

How do I use a tacking iron tool for photo transfers?

ANSWERBAG BUZZ

Answerbag.com
Your favorite Q&A site is on Facebook! Become a fan to connect with the ever-growing community of Answerbaggers, share your thoughts and find out what Answerbag's up to next!

Question

Why does a man who has been cheating for over a year keep photo's of his group sexual encounters. Is this a trophy? Did he want me to find them so I would leave? He seems quite proud of them as he skypes them to anyone new he meets on FB,is that to entice

Answers. 8 helpful answers below.

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Comments

Did this answer your question? If not, then ask a new question or create a poll.

More Questions. Additional questions in this category.

Follow us on Facebook!

Related Ads

Related Questions

Professionally Researched

ANSWERBAG BUZZ

Answerbag.com Your favorite Q&A site is on Facebook! Become a fan to connect with the ever-growing community of Answerbaggers, share your thoughts and find out what Answerbag's up to next!

Answerbag.com
Your favorite Q&A site is on Facebook! Become a fan to connect with the ever-growing community of Answerbaggers, share your thoughts and find out what Answerbag's up to next!