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by Anonymous on April 1st, 2007

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I have known this guy for 5 years, he was one of my best friends and was in love with me all through high school, didnt realize I loved him till it was too late.now he is married, but he always calls me and tells me he is not happy, how do I get over him?

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  • by annjjones on April 2nd, 2007

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    wow your story sounds so similar to mine, i met 2 guys when i was 15 i married one of them & we were together for 12 years & had 3 children, during this time the other guy was around as they were best friends, after our marriage ended the friend told me how he`d felt about me for years but in my eyes we were just friends, eventually i met someone else & after 9 years we parted, still the friend was around & he`d been in relationships & even married. now however we`re together & have a son of our own, it took us 21 years to be where we are now so dont give up, it can still happen for the two of you.

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  • by christina32907 on October 7th, 2007

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    I have been in this situation and decided to see him even though he was married, it was great for a while then I realized it was just the sex he wanted that he was really committed to his marriage so be real careful

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  • by A on January 31st, 2008

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    You should stop accepting his calls and tell him to go back to his wife because he is not treating her with respect. He should not have married her if he wasn't happy with her to begin with. That's his problem, isn't it? It's also his problem if he's too lazy to file for a divorce. He has nothing to complain about if he's doing nothing constructive about it because everything he is getting he is asking for by his own actions. If you keep calling him, the feelings will renew themselves over and over again and you will be drawn to each other more. Do you really want to help him cheat? I am certain that you might not be able to live with a guilty conscience nagging you how wrong the two of you are if you end up doing that. Keep your distance and don't give in to this guy.

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  • by Teasdale on January 30th, 2008

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    He's still married? Evidently he doesn't respect boundary lines since he's willing to cross them (and already has if he's calling you). I think it would be very easy to get over a guy who is cheating on his wife (and yes, even tho there is debate on this I'm sure, I consider 'calling another woman' cheating). Do you want him to do the same to you if the two of you get together? Ask him not to call until he's divorced. If you're still available then maybe the two of you can reunite.

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  • by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on January 30th, 2008

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    "I'm not happy wah wah wah".

    Well imagine he gets divorced and you two get married. You are gonna always wonder if he is calling someone else (maybe another one of his best friends) and telling that person he is not happy with YOU. He really should have quit whining, gotten divorced, and then pursued you.

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  • by Anonymous on January 30th, 2008

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    I know how hard it is for you but don’t lose your control and tell him that you can’t do anything about it and that because he has a wife already. Tell him that what he’s doing is wrong and he shouldn’t cheat on his wife no matter what. If he tries to call you again or millions time just ignore it and he will understand.

    Regards,
    Killing

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