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by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on November 23rd, 2009
I have done it and Im glad I did. But am very sad she found out. To this day she is still (I think) upset at me for it. She was running around with some bad kids and Im glad her diary helped me to become more aware of it.
All I can say is try not to get caught because it might test the trust that you have with each other. If you have a good, open, loving, relationship then nothing will tear that apart. ☼
by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on November 23rd, 2009
No. That is sinking too low. If she is giving me reason to fear for her safety I definitely would.
by Ocean Flower on November 23rd, 2009
Absolutely NO freakin' way!!! EVER!!! My mum did that to me...I just wrote dribbly crap...crazy poems...songs...and it was mainly fantasy...and my silly mum showed my dad...then they hammered me...and all it was...was silly crazy teenage stuff...I felt embarrassed...and my mum...well i never forgave her for her disrespect for my privacy!!! I would never do that to any of my kids ...EVER!!! Please dont do it! Its a diary...its private...have respect...Sorry...Im just so passionate about that kinda stuff!!!
by Gingerminx on November 23rd, 2009
Never. My mother did that to me and actually contacted people I talked about. It ruined any chances we ever had of a relationship.
by CaRbOnPrOdUcK is Baccuss on November 23rd, 2009
Yes, but I wouldn't tell her, she might keel over dead that I actually found interest with something she did....;+
by Questionbag on November 23rd, 2009
read it, but just remember she could of made some stuff up, and planted it for you to find.
by angus1 on November 24th, 2009
Yes. Only to ensure her safety, if I felt she was hiding something or leading a double life somehow. Some people don't know the difference between a buddy and a parent. Your buddy accompanies you to the abortion clinic whereas your parent keeps you from getting pregnant in the first place.
by pandora on November 23rd, 2009
Yes, but only if I had real reasons to suspect that she was doing something illegal or something that could ruin her life. Short of that the rest is not my business.
Shes allowed her own rants and ravings and fantasies. I wouldn't tell her what I did. But if I found that my fears were comfirmed I would try to get her help.
by AnnieB on November 23rd, 2009
No way. My kids tell me WAY more than I want to know already!
by Ubiquitous Name on November 23rd, 2009
Not likely - the only time I would invade anyone's privacy is if I had a really, really, really good reason to.
Other then that, her life, her business.
by christ1 on November 23rd, 2009
no
by tyladodds on November 23rd, 2009
NO, she deserves her privacy. Unless she does something that drives me to be an over obsessed parent and read through it then i will but no other reason.
by TWIST on November 23rd, 2009
You bet. It is for the higher cause, safety of my girl. The key is to act diplomatic, and pretend I didn't. (The lesser of two evils).
by VampTy on November 23rd, 2009
Hell yeah gotta know if my baby was being safe and make sure i don't have to kill anybody =)
Your daughter comes home from college. Do you allow her boyfriend to sleep in her bedroom, since he does when they're at college ?
by calmwaters1 on January 27th, 2012
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my son is married to a russian girl, how do i get them to divorce?
by motherxxx on February 5th, 2012
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my son is marrying a russian how do i get them to divorce?
by motherxxx on February 2nd, 2012
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If parenting were easy/all kids turned out great there'd be no need for child psychologists or folks to blame when you screw up, right?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker on January 29th, 2012
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Do you hate my parents?
by XT on February 2nd, 2012
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Thanks Sunshine! +
by RubyReds on November 23rd, 2009
Ruby, I'd like to add something else here. We all as parents have that "gut" feeling, that uneasy feeling of something just not being right. I wish I had followed that more when my daughter was growing up.
If you get that deep down "gut" feeling that you really need to page through your daughters diary..Then you must have a reason. You must have some reason because you posted this question.
Sometimes children will rant and rave in writing about how "Bad" Mommy and Daddy are. You have to just ignore that stuff because all kids do that (or some do anyway). You can just brush alot of that stuff off as kid stuff.
Some kids wont talk to parents and those are the ones that might need more checking up on. Im sorry to say these things...But I know from experence. I didnt follow my "gut" feeling very often. And I truly wish I had. I should have started early on but I didnt. Good Luck to you Ruby...And I hope you dont second guess yourself too much. Im sure you are a Wonderful, Loving, Parent!:) ☼
by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on November 23rd, 2009
Its not my girl, its my husbands girl (10) and she lives with her mom. She forgot the book at our home. Ive shown him some entries and he said that I werent suppost to have read it. But as a mom I would have been ver concerned if it was my girl....
by RubyReds on November 23rd, 2009
You did the right thing.
by Sunshine in a COAT of Sunshine on November 23rd, 2009