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by Anonymous on March 30th, 2007

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You meet someone. They present themselves as being [?]. You fall in love only to later realize they weren't the person you were led to believe they were. The person you now know isn't someone you'd normally even like. Why do u still feel love @ times?

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  • by anon on March 30th, 2007

    anon

    I suspect that you "still feel love at times" because you're acually in love with the fantasy of what you wanted to have happen, in love with the possibility of what you imagined could be. (Get in the present and feel love for what is, instead of desire for what isn't -- it's tough at first but worth the effort.)

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  • by Zibbys Mind Is In the Gutter Today on March 30th, 2007

    Zibbys Mind Is In the Gutter Today

    Because the mind sees what it wants and no matter if that person is the person you fell in love with or not, your mind is going to want to believe it. I was in a relationship like that, and that's when I learned first hand what people mean when they say "Love is Blind". The feeling will go away, mine was only replaced by anger. First the anger that was falsely put onto the other person, when I know damn well it should have been placed on me. I was the only one that let it happen. So, my advise for you, next time, keep your eyes open and don't believe everything you hear. Remember, you only know what that person WANTS you to know. Good luck I hope it works out for you :)

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  • by LoveSexMagic on July 3rd, 2009

    LoveSexMagic

    Wishful thinking. You're in love with the idea that "maybe he/she will change". You love the qualities that you saw in them when you first met. People have a hard time letting things go.

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  • by schmee2369 on April 7th, 2009

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    well...alot of people put on a front to get your attention...and to "woo" you. When this is done...the relationship WILL fail. know this. Becuase once they become comfterble around you the "true" them comes out...and that person isnt the person you thought you were getting involved with...infact it is usually the exact opposite. If they had to change themselves to get you to notice them...there confidence is low, and the thing they are "hiding"...isnt something you want. that is why you never go into a relationship being something you are not...becuase the TRUTH always comes out...by your own actions....and you still feel love at times...becuase you try to hold on to the "image" of the person you were led to believe WAS the person. But its not...so my advise...talk to em, explain...and then leave.

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  • by Anonymous on January 29th, 2009

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    you want what you had back but that doesnt happen. move on

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  • by Penal Colony is wicked marrying Andy on February 8th, 2008

    Penal Colony is wicked marrying Andy

    I think a lot of times we confuse love with habit or familiarity. When you're with someone for a while, you become attached to them as your S/O, something you can count on or depend on. Learning the truth about them is a bitter pill to swallow, but we often feel we can "work through it" or that the pros outweigh the cons. Sometimes this is delusional thinking, sometimes not.

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  • by fluffylucy on July 9th, 2010

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    once those neuronal paths are established there is a natural tendency for them to stay, unless you are overcome by lust again which helps form new pathways.

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  • by AnonymousGirl on February 8th, 2008

    AnonymousGirl

    Perhaps you want to hang on to the hope that the person is actually the person you thought he or she was. Chances are the person is good at putting on a front and hasn't really changed at all.

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  • by AnonymousGirl on May 30th, 2010

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    'Cause you were trapped.

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