If your man is cheating on you, does he act nicer to you and cuddly more? Or if he's cheating does he ignore you and distance himself more?

I don't have much experience with cheating, but I think it depends on what caused him to cheat. If he's getting tired of you and is thinking about leaving you, then he'll probably turn cold to you. If he just fell to sexual temptation, then he'll probably be closer than normal in order to mitigate his guilt.

If it's relatively new, he feels guilty, hence nicer and cuddly. If it's been going on a while, chances are he's either falling in love or in love and will distance himself then in the end, end the relationship.

Sorry I am talking from experience - twice over!

I tend to alternate between both. It's more effective.

The only thing certain is he is cheating on you.

Around the time my last ex-boyfriend cheated on me, he would defend the girl he was cheating with A LOT. He would take her side for everything. Whenever I'd bring her up and how she wasn't helping and how things were getting worse, he'd get frustrated with and/or mad at me. He'd want to change the subject. He didn't believe anything that I said about her (about how she'd treat me behind his back and so on), even though I was telling him the truth. This hurt as he KNEW that I would not lie to him, but for some reason, I felt like he thought I was a liar. I fell into depression more and more after that and eventually stopped going to school because I started feeling sick (emotionally, mind you). It was hard to get his "positive" attention. It also bothered me a ton because I couldn't tell people what was wrong. I couldn't tell people why my grades had started slipping again. I didn't have ANY proof whatsoever that he was cheating at this time. I also tried to protect both of their reputations a lot, even when other people would talk badly about them to me. Later, he told me he felt that I didn't love him. (I loved him to pieces and I fell very hard for him. This seemed obvious to everybody except for himself and the girl he cheated on me with). He also felt that I only wanted to be with him so that I could have a boyfriend. (If this were true, I would have dumped him and went out with somebody else. There were other people who liked me who would have treated me a lot better). He also told me that I wasn't giving him much affection (Yes, I wasn't giving him much affection because he treated me like I was a LIAR when I wasn't lying and he gave too much of his affection to this other girl, which caused me to feel unwanted and like he did not need me. She seemed more important to him). I'm pretty sure he said more things than that, but I don't remember them all at this exact moment in time. At the time, none of this made any sense to me. I had a bad feeling about the whole thing and even warned him that his emotional closeness with her might lead to him actually cheating if he wasn't careful. HE DIDN'T BELIEVE ME! He was so sure of himself that he would never cheat on me. (Later on, he would tell me that he should have listened to me). This situation is all so complicated and I trusted him. I trusted the girl because he trusted her, not because I actually thought she was trustworthy. I had reason to believe that she wasn't. I now realize that I was blinded by this guy. When I was with him and when I was still talking to him, he was able to convince me of his innocence. Now, I will admit that I wanted to think of him as a good guy. I wanted to believe that that was out of character for him. How wrong I was about this guy who claimed to "love me". If he loved me, would he risk losing me for not just a few moments of his pleasure, but sex four times with this other girl? Sex was more important to him, just as I thought it was all along. That was the real reason my body rejected him a lot. Something wasn't right about the whole thing. My advice to people who are with someone who cheat on them is this: Take other people's opinions about him or her seriously. He or she is the one who betrayed you. Why would you trust him or her, knowing this? Being blind by your love for him or her is no excuse and may even hurt you more in the long run. There are times when the person you WANT to be with is not the person you SHOULD be with. This may be one of those times.