I have been paying $850 mo for 9 yrs. My daughter wont have anything to do with me. I never did anything bad to her or her mother except divorce her. Why should I pay these ingrateful bastards anymore? They are disrespectful but take the money anyway

Because your daughter is still your child no matter what. Being a responsible parent is the right thing to do even if your daughter doesn't apprecaite or acknowledge your support.

I have no idea how old your daughter is, but it sounds like your ex-wife has done what no parent should do. That is to poison your daughter's mind against you. That isn't fair to you or your daughter.

Sad. Very sad.

It's a pain in the *ss, I know. But you DON'T shirk your personal honor because of it.

Get over it.

Hey, YOU helped make the kid, YOU have to help pay for her upbringing. It doesn't matter how much she might want to see you or not want to see you. It doesn't matter how much you dislike her mother, or how much you don't want to pay. You probably should have thought of these things before MAKING A BABY.

Why should they be grateful if they know they are going to get the money anyhow? Apparently that's all they care about. Cut back your hours at work or get "injured." Watch their attitude change when you have the power to affect their finances.

How often do you have visitation? Do you call your daughter on a regular basis? My parents divorced when I was 5. I would spend a month with him in the summer and get presents for birthday/Christmas. He never called me to just say "hi". We never developed that father/daughter bond which I really regret. Do everything you can to let your daughter know you love her and are thinking about her. It will pay off in the long run. I am in my 40's now and my dad only lives a hour's drive away and we still hardly see each other. Don't let this happen to you.

It must be upsetting that your daughter does not appear to want a relationship with you - have you tried discussing with her the reasons why she is distant or perhaps tried family counselling? Regardless of this though, support for your child should not be conditional. A teenage child is your responsibility regardless of that child's behaviour or feelings toward you. No child should have to show they are grateful for a parent financialing supporting their basic needs. It is good that you are not shirking this responsibility as many parents do, but it is your responsibility and should not be conditional.