Ask a Question
or
Create a Poll
  1. Home /
  2. Questions /
  3. Relationship Advice
  4. / What Does It Mean If...?

by ladyfreytes on November 19th, 2009

ladyfreytes

Question

Help answer this question below.

Today is our 1st anniversary and my Boyfriend asked me for time. Yesterday he asked me to get my stuff from his house. I do and then he says well I didnt tell you evrythg. He ask me to give him the weekend to think about us & his music n how to do both.

  • Like
  • Report
Share:
Other

Answers. 10 helpful answers below.

  • by HungryGuy on November 29th, 2009

    HungryGuy

    Your boyfriend just told you to get your stuff out because ne needs to think about his music? Sounds like your bf is a total jerk. Get your stuff out of there and don't look back...

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by Nemesis on November 29th, 2009

    Nemesis

    Well i wont want to miss anniversary with my gf (which probably will lead to sex :p) i mean we guys might not care about many things in a relationship but anniversaries are 1thing that we do care about.... i think he wants to breakup with you.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by Chigg on November 29th, 2009

    Chigg

    Annoy the hell out of him, by being really nice and easy going and laid back about this like you don't mind if you don't see him for a month or more - like he's just a pleasant friend.

    I don't usually suggest playing games but either:

    1. He really is worried about focussing on his music career and he just felt too guilty to have an anniversary celebration until he's sorted his head out and knows he isn't stringing you along. If that's the case, you don't want to make 'having both' look impossible and you don't want to give him any reasons to feel better about losing you.

    2. He is immature and feeling insecure, so he's testing your love and just setting you up to beg and cry and complain so he knows he has a bit of power over you (maybe he's not like that at all, but some guys are). Staying cool and casually pleasant with him will just turn those tables straight away.

    3. He is a coward who is trying to dump you by getting you to throw a hissy fit and dump him - so he can feel like he wasn't the bad guy. He can stick that idea! If you act sweet and caring but not that bothered, then you won't give him the satisfaction.

    Sorry, ladyfretes, but all your moves now are about coming out of this mess with the least damage possible.


    (By the way, its been ten days, is he toast, yet?)

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by iDeath on November 29th, 2009

    iDeath

    Find a real man. If you have to be alone for a while, do it. It ain't easy, but it won't be as hard as living with an asshole who mentally and maybe abuses you in other ways.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by Hellifino on November 29th, 2009

    Hellifino

    Sounds to me that he's trying to break up with you but he's too chicken shit to just come out and say what's really on his mind. I hate it when guys do that. Just come out and say what's on your mind.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by AnnieB on November 29th, 2009

    AnnieB

    The man wanted the weekend to himself to do what he wants to do. Give him more than the weekend to think...he's stringing you along.

    Time to move on and find someone who wants the same things you do.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by CatLover-The Original is Proudly Canadian on November 29th, 2009

    CatLover-The Original is Proudly Canadian

    What is the question here?

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by happiness on November 29th, 2009

    happiness

    It sounds clear to me he wants a break up. Just my thought though. Let see what others say.

    • Like
    • Report

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by ladyfreytes on November 29th, 2009

    ladyfreytes

    Well it has now been a lil over a week. And a lot has happen b4 I read any of these. I lost it over the weekend and had to see him on Sunday I checked his home in the am to see if he was with some one I needed to know the amswer was no. I was happy but not satisfied then I went to his job to see if he was with some one ( he drives an mta bus in nyc) and nada by the evening wheb he got out I couldn't help it I approached him to talk and see why and was he ok. His response was so laid back! I was like omg I'm a mess and he is ok??? He tells me I love u so much but I can't see how this would work. I then asked him what happened we was fine up to monday morning what happened?? Let's slow down see eachother on friday ( after thanksgiving) and then I would give him december to focus on his music and we would see eachother on xmas he originally said yes to friday and that could he have till wednesday. I agreed but on wednesday I text him goodmorning handsome miss you can't wait to see u later have a nice day and
    he responded with thank u have a nice day too but I didn't say we would see eachother today I said friday today we will talk. I was like wtf so he calls me in the am after the text and he said y are u so pushy? I was like cuz u said we would see eachother today and tlk not call I have the texts then u said yes to spending friday together. But then he was like I gotta go have to drive the bus tlk to you tonite. Well long story short I landed in the hospital for chest pain and he didn't come to check on me he only called , he was upset that my friends were all offwring to come and stay with me on facebook
    So he asked me if I was trying to make him feel bad and I was like no! He said the only reason I did not come is cuz I have to be at work in the mornoing it was 640pm !!! I was so distraught! I love this man woith all my heart why is he doing this??? I was in the er for like 10 hours on a ekg stress test and blood and then the iv and finally at 3am home he asked me at 11pm to wake him and I did at 530am I woke him he tells me I love you happy thanksgiving get some sleep I will call u later. Well at 12pm he calls me and tells me how are u feeling I said out of it. He was like well I have to tell u this I thought about it and I can't do this I love you and I don't want to bring u down.

    Later that nite I go to his house to get my stiff and I was a mess I cried my heart out. So when I got there he just said well y didn't you call first? I broke down crying and he holds me and twlls me think positive but. Love me enough to let him go and heal since he is still fighting demons from his former marriage and that this is so he doesn't bring me down in the process. I I said how could u y not talk to me. He said this something he nmeeds to do on his own so I went to get my stuff and this time it was all packed!:/ I took it but when I left it felt permanent even thou he said think positivbe that I find my way back to u. But don't put ur life on hold for me cuz I don't know if it will be 1 day or week or month or months or year/s. Or even at all. I love him and this happened out of the blue why is there anything thing I can do to fix this? Help!!!

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

  • by tookool4u on November 19th, 2009

    tookool4u

    Yah he prob wont talk to you again i know from experience

    No comments. Post one | Permalink

Want to attach an image to your answer? Click here.

Did this answer your question? If not, then ask a new question or create a poll.

More Questions. Additional questions in this category.

You're reading Today is our 1st anniversary and my Boyfriend asked me for time. Yesterday he asked me to get my stuff from his house. I do and then he says well I didnt tell you evrythg. He ask me to give him the weekend to think about us & his music n how to do both. - which can also be phrased in the following ways:

  • Today is our 1st anniversary and my Boyfriend asked me forTIME. Yesterday he asked me to get my stuff from his house. I do and then he says well I didnt tell you evrythg. He ask me to give him the weekend to think about us & his music n how to do both.

Follow us on Facebook!

Related Ads

Related Questions

Professionally Researched

ANSWERBAG BUZZ

Our 1st anniversary with my boyfriend
Today is the 1st anniversary
Boyfriend not bothered by anniversary
I said i dont want anything for my anniversary
Today is our 1st year anniversary

Answerbag

a Demand Media company