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by Desiderata on November 18th, 2009
My social problems are connected to my bad childhood. I have constantly been trying to fix myself, but its a long self-journey.
by Omar Little on November 18th, 2009
Because if we were all the same it would be a very boring world.
by sweetielowe on November 18th, 2009
I think childhood environments such as family and school influence future social skills very much.
If a child is bullied and is therefore already timid when they start school they are then more like to be victims of bullying throughout education and that i believe can make people fearful of social situations throughout their lives .
by Jewel on November 18th, 2009
Lots of reasons. Some might be:
-Depression.
-Introversion vs extroversion.
-Things like Asperger's syndrome and ADHD.
-Childhood emotional trauma.
-Growing up in a culture that is different from the one currently living in.
-Isolation during formative years.
-Some mental illnesses.
And I am sure there is a list as long as your arm of other reasons for this.
Interesting question!
by anywho is feeling pretty on November 17th, 2009
Maybe some want to be noticed and accepted, while others are scared of what others may think of them. At least that's how I feel. I am on the social phobia side in real life. I can't stand crowds, small or large, because I'm afraid of making a fool of myself.
by Daniel on November 18th, 2009
I think it's mostly genetic, although us shy types can learn to repress it when we have to...
by mrc on November 18th, 2009
Maybe because they're an introvert ..
by Nutsy_Rail on November 17th, 2009
Personality is dictated by a person's upbringing. Social phobia is caused by social insecurity.
by Anonomous on November 17th, 2009
In my case I used to be quite extavert as a kid (not worried about what people think), but different experiences have shut me up in the end,so the shine left. The way it started was when I moved country when I was a young, I wanted to get new friends, but everything I did seemed to be wrong, and I was put in the odd category insted, when I used to be quite popular before, then hearing about what people really think! from someone who became close, I did not really know people were so cruel in their judgements, because my parents never said a bad word about any neighbour or other people. It was a bit of a sad discovery. Also I have put my foot in it too much and had not enough manners, and due to having parents with NO manners at ALL, I'm still somewhat unsure what one should look out for, do not ???...
SO I think dissapointment and being let down also my own stupidity and being unsure of social etiqette have led me to have social phobias.
But the main reason is experiencing ostracism and bullying.
by Confuscious on November 17th, 2009
I think it must have something to do with some people being introverts and others extroverts.
I'm waiting to see what the others have to say.
Interesting question.
by awsom on January 14th, 2010
it completely depends on how they were brought up. if a person had a father who was mean to people all the time they could become that way.
i am a really shy person i didn't use to be but the teachers i had were mean to me so now i have trouble talking to people i dont know.
my brother is completly the opposite he used to be shy, but after being in karate he became a very confident person.
i used to be worse because i felt like i couldn't trust anybody.
everybodys different though soo for some people it takes a while to become socially skilled but it doesnt take that long.
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I'm in the same boat. It seems like some parents have kids because they personally WANT to have kids, like they WANT a new car. They don't realize they are putting a lifetime of responsibility on our shoulders
by Nutsy_Rail on November 18th, 2009
I feel for you. Hopefully it gets better soon. Life can be pretty cool. Jackstain, that's a great point you brought up.
by Don Gorgeous George on November 18th, 2009