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by Kelly on November 16th, 2009

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I have a friend who wants to be my boyfriend but I said no. He buys me stuff - way too much. I've asked him to stop cuz I don't want to feel obligated. He says he does it because he likes to. Can't avoid him. He's my boss also. Why does he do it?

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  • by Kelly on November 19th, 2009

    Kelly

    Permalink: You are absolutely right! I feel guilty now though because I've allowed it to happen to this point. I have to share much of the blame. I've been trying to find another job but it's not that easy, plus I really like my job and MY PAY (which has nothing to do with my immediate supervisor - the pay is set by a higher entity). I've also told him that if he doesn't stop, I will find another job and he apologizes and backs off for a while, but then gradually starts up again.

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  • by Kelly on November 19th, 2009

    Kelly

    Oh and did I mention that he's MARRIED to a woman that works here too?

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  • by The Wraith of God is Coming on November 19th, 2009

    The Wraith of God is Coming

    Well URK is correct Tech.... That is.. He may like you a lot it used to be people got married at or from work. Now Urk's point again is correct.. But it is how you want to live life many people still do date at work.. This guy apparently likes you or at min. wants to have sex with you.. The matter is complex due to zero tolerance of many and so just wanting to live your life... All this from a guy who had a woman take me home and do the adulot thing who was half my age.. In other words you never know what it is that may be happening....

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  • by bagicide stayed 10 months too long on November 19th, 2009

    bagicide stayed 10 months too long

    Change jobs if you can. And definitely report him for sexual harassment.

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  • by urk on November 19th, 2009

    urk

    If he's your boss he's not your friend. At best he's a close acquaintance. If he worked at the same company but was not in your supervisory chain it would be a slightly different story.

    What he's doing is considered sexual harassment. You should be aware that the fact that he is doing this to you does not preclude another of your coworkers from filing a claim, specifying that both of you are creating an uncomfortable work environment.

    Distance yourself from him ASAP!

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  • by jaygee on November 19th, 2009

    jaygee

    You need to stop taking the gifts and look for another job. He is controlling you by giving you gifts. If you take them then he feels like he is allowed to step over the line.

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