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by Answerbag Staff on November 7th, 2009

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How do I catch a cheating husband?

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  • by Genevieve Adams on November 7th, 2009

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    Infidelity within a marriage can be an extremely painful experience. The feelings of betrayal, insecurity and personal hurt are often overwhelming. If you think that your husband may be cheating, take some time to examine his habits and behavior to be sure. Knowing what to look for and how to get concrete evidence of infidelity can help you confront the stressful situation with strength and confidence.

    Changed Behavior

    If you are in a long-standing relationship or marriage, it is very likely that you and your husband have developed certain routines, both as a couple and as individuals. Unexplained changes to these habits could indicate that your husband has started cheating. Look for sudden changes in the way he grooms himself and the clothes he wears, as renewed concern about his appearance might mean that he is trying to impress someone new. Pay attention to changes in the way he relates to you, either more or less affectionately. Less affection can indicate an emotional withdrawal from you and your marriage, whereas a sudden increase in affection might be indicative of a guilty conscience. Other behavioral changes, such as a new habit of doing his own laundry--which could be a means of hiding things like incriminating stains or receipts in pockets--may also be warning signs. Pay attention to your gut instincts, and investigate behavior that does not feel right.

    Phone and Internet Use

    The phone and computer are both likely ways that a cheating husband would communicate with the object of an affair. Paying close attention to the way he uses these items can help you catch him. If he often closes programs or internet windows quickly when you enter the room, he may be hiding what he was doing. Check internet histories for dating websites or email addresses that you are not familiar with. If you find that the history has always been recently deleted, this could be evidence that he is attempting to cover his tracks. An increase in "wrong number" or hang-up phone calls to your home phone could mean that his new interest is calling him at home, but more likely communication would be taking place on his cell phone. If he never leaves his cell phone unattended or unexpectedly adds a password or lock-key to it, he may be covering up these communications. Also be aware of where he chooses to answer phone calls, as quickly leaving the room or moving to another area is suspicious.

    Suspicion and Confrontation

    Be careful about revealing your suspicions or confronting your husband too early. Website Truth About Deception notes that allowing your spouse to see that you are suspicious may actually help him continue cheating, as he will only work harder to conceal the affair because he is alert to the fact that you are on to him. Wait until you have concrete proof of infidelity before confronting your husband to minimize the possibility that he could lie his way out of it. Proof that you have a cheating husband might manifest itself in the form of cell phone bills that itemize calls, incriminating emails or text messages, unexplained credit card charges or ATM withdrawals, or unfamiliar women's clothing or accessories found among his belongings. Once you have evaluated his behavior and confirmed your suspicions with proof, confront your husband with what you have found.

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  • by BLACKCHOCOLATE on January 5th, 2010

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    If you think that your husband is cheating, just the thought of it, you have just caught him cheating.

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  • by Anonymous on January 28th, 2010

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    Usually if you feel that he is cheating, it is because he is. One usually knows, even without words having been spoken. He will somehow have changed. Maybe he squirts on a slight bit more deo or starts trying to look nicer for work. he may start going out a bit more after work, with 'the mates'. Another thing he may do is loose weight or start going to the gym even though you could never get him to go before. You may find that there is more/less sex or a change in his mood. Whatever it is that is making you think that he is cheating, may very well be exactly that.

    All those cellphone and computer spies are great, but at the same time, why go to all that trouble. If you cannot trust your man then your relatoinship is on the rocks anyway! You will need to deal with your trust issues. Even if your hubby isn't cheating or stops cheating, you still need to deal with it!

    My suggestion is sit him down and have a candid talk. Let him know how you feel and why you feel the way you do. Does he understand? does he want to help figure things out and go to marriage councelling? try that!

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  • by Bluemuun on December 23rd, 2009

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    By not letting them know you are on to them. They always mess up, it just takes time. I am sorry you are going through this.

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  • by good2know on November 30th, 2009

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    do you know who the other person is?if so you can always hire a P,I, to foloow him and see just like on the show cheaters if you were in virginia I could do it for you

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  • by AndyP on January 13th, 2010

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    You should catch him between the legs with your knee.

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  • by leonardbiblitz on January 13th, 2010

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    Look for sudden shifts in behavior, such as unexplained or poorly explained absences, credit card charges, phone calls, mood. Some guys suddenly want more sex. Some none at all. A tactful reminder on these occasions about STDs often cools hot thoughts. The threat that one may 'share' one's extracurricular, unexplained activities with non-participants - sometimes with legal consequences - has been known to droop Mr. Happy's upstanding outlook!

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  • by Mark on January 2nd, 2011

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    Define what you mean by cheating. If you mean what is historically has been, adultery, either follow him or have someone else follow him. You can check cell phone records and email, etc but that doesn't necessarily prove adultery.

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  • by xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx on August 24th, 2010

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    Keep a close watch where he is going and to whom he is meeting and also notice that what are the changes has taken place in that period , does he go out currently as he was not going before ,has stayed late nights and he was not doing the same before .

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  • by annav on January 19th, 2010

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    Catch a Man Cheating Using His Cell Phone
    If your man is cheating he is most likely using his cell phone to communicate with his lover. This will leave solid evidence!

    You need to: find out who he is calling and texting YOUR husband or boyfriend. To do this you need to get access to his phone.

    I know he is probably careful and are keeping the phone with him, but do you think you can get hold of his cell phone ones?

    If you can there is a great software called MobileSpy that you can install on your husbands cell phone, that will tell you everything he is up to. It will show you all text messages send and recieved all phonecalls and much more. This might be the one tool you need to find out the truth about your man, your husband or boyfriend.

    Catch a man Cheating If You Do Have a Suspicious Number

    If you do have a suspicious number all ready then it is easy to find out whom that number belongs to. You just use a Reverse Phone Lookup and it will give you the information you need.

    So why should you use a Reverse Phone Lookup?
    Here is 3 reasons why:

    1. In seconds, you will have your results, the name and address, along with other personal information.

    2. Is there a free way to find this information? Unfortunately, the answer is no. If you're looking for a complete, accurate guaranteed reverse cell phone directory you need reversephonedetective.com

    3. 9 Out of 10 Cheating Spouses Exposed by Cell Phone Use.



    Catch a Man Cheating Using the Internet
    In a lot of cases cheating men use their computer to communicate with their "new love". Do you suspect your husband or boyfriend of an online affair? The computer will leave solid evidence, emails, visited websites... Evidence that can not be denied!

    You need to: check what is going on, on his computer! The easiest way that will give you solid evidence is to install a computer spy ware on your husbands or boyfriends computer! For this purpose we find Web Watcher being the number one spy ware to use!

    Why should I use WebWatcher?

    -It will record emails, you will be able to read all send and recieved emails.
    -Web Watcher record chats, both sides of the communication.
    -You will be able to see all websites visited.
    -You can monitor websites from anywhere.
    -There will be screenshots.
    -It is 100% invisible.

    WebWatcher is the World's best software for tracking; Emails, visited websites, and instant messages all in real time.

    Catch Your Man Cheating Using E-mail Finder

    E-mail finder make it easy to find almost anyone's email address. They have organized the world's largest directory of email addresses available to the public through special data partnerships. With their service you can instantly:

    - Find current email, address, and phone information.
    - Search profiles from over 20 social networks at once.

    This will save you time and it can tell you a lot about your husband or boyfriend. Is he flirting, is he telling other people online that he is single...
    Results include photographs, information users have shared, and direct links to their profile pages. Networks include:

    MySpace
    Facebook
    Yahoo 360
    Bebo
    Flickr
    Friendster
    LinkedIn
    And over a dozen more!

    You can run a search by name or email address.


    Hope this helps I found the info at
    http://www.catchcheating.net/catch_cheating_man.html

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  • by limonida86 on November 14th, 2010

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    Hire a private investigator if possible.

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