There is really no easy way to break it to her "gently". Obviously she is directly stating her intentions with you so you really owe her the common courtesy of being straight forward with her and telling her that you are not ready to be married. A mistake that many people make in relationships is not being fully 100% open and honest. Its commendable that you know what you want (or dont want for that matter) and are willing to share that. It might upset her or hurt her feelings but thats a small price to pay now vs. all of the drama that you would experience down the road. After all, if she is ready to get married now, but you arent, then maybe you guys are just not right for each other.. or at least just for right now. But at least if she wants to be married now, she can move on and find someone else willing to marry her and you can find someone else down the road when you are ready. Don't allow yourself to be pressured into marriage.

well first you tell her that she may be rushing things a little and then if she gets upset by it propose to herbut dont get married for awhile just make her hapy for a little bit and the kid thing you can have sex but just pull out and dont tell her you didnt so she thinks you are trying to have kids

just tell her an if she really loves you she will wait till your ready some girls might just want to have a baby so that your always with her forever

That great that you got back together. Was it something that you had been thinking about or did she pressure you into that. First off i think she is trying to trap you if she is so bold to say that right after you got back together. CONDOMS use lots of them and either because chances are she is not on birth control. You are young and have so much life a head of you marriage and baby is only going to hinder those plans, espcially if you are not ready. You need to come right out to her and say something to her, most men would have run screaming. Why did you break up in the first place, think about that. Is this someone you really want to risk having babies with and have her pressuring you into getting married, that is not a way to live. Regardless she will try to get pregnant and you can not make er get on BC but you need to protect yourself as well. Not exactly a way to go threw a relationship, you can trust her

She may have some romantic ideas of having a family. The two of you are very young , and since you two just got back together, you need to take time to get to know eachother (again). Also, newly wed couples should spend a year or two to themselves before havign a baby. They need time to be alone and to get to know eachother as a couple, this can take awhile. Be aware that by having a babie you wont stop parenting until you die or your child dies. Newly weds in a marriage need to focus on eachother, and a baby will make it hard for that to happen and make it even harder to perfect the relaiotnship. I would go as far to say that it would put more stress on it. A baby means less time for you two, more time apart, sleepless nights, and sacrificing time/friends. The best choice I think for you two is to atart sating again, see how stable it will be and if you want to spend your life with this girl forever. Then get engaged (wait atleast 6 months or until you two are stable and have gotten where you wanted to in life). Then get married and wait until you can finically deal with a baby. If you dont want to marry her just tell her youd rather take it slow, it seems like she may be jumping the gun a bit.

by making sure that you always, always, always, wear a condom when you have sex (despite her being on the Pill). As for telling her, well just be honest about it (what else can you do). You have to say something because otherwise, she may assume you want the same things. No need to be brutal about it, just say (with as much tact as possible) 'I think the world of you but I am 18 and I do not want to get married and have a kid right now'. Be prepared for her not to like this, chances are she will not be a happy bunny and you may have to endure some whining (along the lines of 'if you loved me........ blah blah". Nevertheless, you must be honest about it. Whatever the response, know that your feelings about this are perfectly normal and understandable - and just as valid and important as hers. You have just as much right to not want to marry and have a child as she does to want the opposite. You are not being unreasonable in the least. She won't like it and this is a shame but not your problem - it's hers. And always wear a condom from here on - every time (just in case she forgets her Pill and accidentally falls pregnant. I know it sounds unlikely but it happens all the time).

Just tell her.

tell her straight.. you should be honest to her, man. and you're too young to do all that. and tell her to think about first what's she saying.. it's not that easy.

i think you should tell her you jus want to b in a relationship with her to c how it pans out over the years you have already split up once and got back together wots 2 say is not goin 2 b lyk that for years at the end ov the day if ur not redi ur not redi dont let her force u 2 marry her or hav kids wi er i dnt no who u or ur gilfriend r bt if u dnt want kids yet make sure YOU keep an eye on contriception sum women will do any thing 2 av kids wi da man they think they wanna b wi even decive them