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oh man this is one of the hardest things to do. you have to be really careful.
first thing you have to know the consequences. if you tell her up front she might not feel the same way and everything could go down hill VERY FAST! but there is a chance that she might have thought about you in that same way and maybe you two can hit it off but be careful that doesnt mean everything is going to be smooth sailing. things change fast and when i mean fast i mean FAST! there could be chance of a friendship being ruined.
bur ok the best way to do this is to get to it slowy. dont ever EVER!!! just go out and say it. im guessing both of you talk frequently so when you two talk think about what you say....there things friends say and things potential boyfriends say in certetain situations. i know this doesnt make a lot of sense but when this moment comes up you will know exactly what iam talking about.. it happens a lot mostly when shes asking for your opinion. in your case you need to slowly switch into the things a potential boyfriend might say...but i cant stress this enough..take it SLOW!!! I have been in the same position as you(well i think) ive been bestfriends with a girl for 4 years and we slowly became best friends then i liked her we went out and fell in love. for some reason she thought everything had turned sour but i didnt and she broke up with me and we had a huge fight and didnt talk for months! but now we are closer than ever. we dont talk about that point in our lifes for some reason i dont know but everything is good. but whatever happens be sure that you two will still end up being at least friends in the end. good luck!
If you confess your feeling to your friend and she has no romantic feelings for you, you run the risk of her feeling uncomfortable with you in the future. If you are unsure and think there may be a chance she is interested, I would ask her very casually if she would like to go out on a date (rather than as friends) sometime. If its a "no", then don't push it. Respect how she feels or you may lose a good friend. Good luck!
If she's said she feels like you're a brother, you need to consider the possibility she already has an idea of how you feel. This could be her way of letting you know she loves you but wants nothing more than friendship. If you are close friends and she's not totally ditzy, then she probably has at least suspected how you feel.
But if you are good friends, you can let her know, provided you are willing to move on and seek romance elsewhere if she's not interested. And if you are nuts about her, that may be harder than you think. I once watched a couple of close friends go through this, and it wasn't pretty. When one loves the other but not romantically, and the other can't be friends without wanting more, both suffer.
But hell, life is short and time heals all wounds, blah blah. Let her know how you feel. If you're heartbroken and you can't be friends, you will get over it. You'll find someone else, and you may reconnect with your friend when you've gotten over your other feelings for her. And that's better than always wondering if there was a chance she would say yes.
Yikes. I would fear making things awkard or a fool out of myself. I once was in a similar situation with my first teenage best friend. I would do "subtle" things to show interest like massages, paying for her burgers and stuff. You know the kinda things youd expect from someone you date rather a friend. One night I got the courage to spit it out, that I really dug her. She and I dated for 2 years. So I would just try to let my actions do the talking -
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well thanks alot for your answer and appreciated very much however I haven't act on anything and we haven't been contacting for sometime but now when I just accidentally meet her again I fell for her suddenly when she meet me she still calls me as her brother and she two year younger than me. I didn't really tried to talk to her yet I was scared to ruin our friendship. She didn't know that I am thinking of making our relationship grow closer. What should I do to tell her what i feel? Anyway thanks soo much and please accept my friend request.
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