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  • Surround yourself with blue tones, music, and good food.
  • Get a pad and pen or pencil. Write down what specifically you feel stressed out over. Just let it flow... When you are finished, jot down WHAT WOULD NEED TO HAPPEN...to resolve and remove each stress...don't worry about if you believe it CAN happen...just note what you believe would fix it for you. (no limits on this part...if "mary, your room mate, is stressing you out because she is a total pig and inconsiderate to boot, then what MIGHT fix it for you is that Mary announces she has joined CLEAN YOUR OWN DAMN MESS or that Mary announces she is moving out because YOU are so tidy she is stressed out..<instant Karma ON HER>) NEXT...start writing WHAT YOU CAN really, actually do ABOUT each stress. What change can you make, or could you make...even if you are not sure you can do it right now...that would solved and remove each stress item. (You TELL Mary, you are sorry, but you can't live with her mess, it's been discussed, and there have been no changes and you now want her to start looking for a new place to live. Because you need a roommate to make the rent, you put out several ad's to start actively interviewing new potential room mates. You also speak to your Landlord to keep them in the loop and so the new roommate can get on the rental agreement once one has been chosen!) Once you ARE FINISHED with all of your writing..look it over carefully. How many of the items might you be making into a bigger deal than you HONESTLY KNOW they really are? (Everyone is judging me!!! Ya think? Really? Is is possible that many of what makes up EVERYONE, may not be thinking about me AT ALL? At least the majority of the time, they may be thinking of their own problems, worries, joys, challenges and NOT me at all.) (I can't pass that damn test! or What if I don't pass that damn test? Well, that's a bummer, I'll have to study harder, and take it again asap. At some point I WILL pass it, because I have passed tests before successfully...<counter the stress with TRUE FACTS..I HAVE successfully passed different tests before! And if I don't, no one has died...I can just try again!) (My boyfriend/girlfriend is CONSTANTLY criticizing me and I'm sick of it. Alrighty then, I'm not having any fun here...MAYBE THEY ARE constanting criticizing me...so now that I realize how much it is stressing me out...I have a clear choice...Talk to them about it, see if they are willing to change something...and if they can not, or will not...then I CAN leave/dump them! I don't have to put up with their crap at all! There are many wonderful people out in the world who are NOT overly critical, not die-hard control freaks and I'm moving on to see if I can meet one of THEM!) As you "confront" each stress item and realize that you ALWAYS have a choice...even if the choice is to do NOTHING about it...you will most likely start to feel a lot more powerful, and in control of YOUR CHOICES! I have found this sort of thing VERY calming BECAUSE, while it means that I need to take responsibility for my happiness, it also means that I CAN.
  • Try to take a hot shower or something, and distract yourself, try to relax. thats what I do.
  • Lie down, close your eyes and go to your "happy place" right away, whydontcha? ;-)
  • watch ur favorite movie and eat ur favorite food.
  • Johnny Walker to the rescue.

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