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by Anonymous on November 2nd, 2009
My lady and I both reserve private meditation time each day. +5 Suby
by mtndewman44 on November 6th, 2009
Not often,I tend to live in the now as much as I can,the thoughts of the past haunt me enough,I really don't need to rehash those feelings.
by Dirty D on November 6th, 2009
Sadly I think too much and it causes me to worry a lot.
by RosieGHM Jetpacker on November 3rd, 2009
Daily. I'm very lucky! :)
by krsnaknows on November 2nd, 2009
Yes.Every moment is personal time and I meditate constantly on the Self! Even when I am doing some jobs(duties), they are happening on their own even the case of writing this answer!The most blissful period would be when teaching my students or talking to my Guru! He does all my problem solving so I do not have an onus of doership.+
by Whitehair on November 2nd, 2009
I think you know my answer already before you even read it: Those moments are precious to me and I create them if even possible. I have my husband around most of the time but being a diplomatic woman I have some errands to do where I can send him alone. Sometimes he reads a book and I can think or meditate - otherwise he likes to talk.....
by anonymous on November 2nd, 2009
I work at home, so I'm alone alot and get to think too much.
by tuvw on November 2nd, 2009
Every morning I get up before anyone else in my house does. I get about 2 1/2 hours to myself. It's my me time.
Do you get frosted/hot under the collar or are you one cool customer? If so, how do you do it?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker 16 hours ago
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If you're misunderstood does it bother you a lot or not? Why?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker 16 hours ago
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Does spending time researching/investigating the success of others help you in achieving your own? How?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker 17 hours ago
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Some go to great lengths to complicate everything. That's fine when it's on their dime/time..not when it's on mine. Why do they do that?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker 15 hours ago
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Will tomorrow be another Manic Monday for you? Will you be wishing it was still Sunday while you're in the middle of a dream at 6am?
by PrivateGomerSpooner 14 hours ago
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I am happy to learn you have given solitude and tranquility the due place in your lives as looking inwards with a purpose to realize our 'self' using meditation as a tool is perhaps the only mission with which we have taken birth as human beings.
Thank you very much for your answer, Major. +6.
by Suby the Coat on November 3rd, 2009
I admire your position in life Suby. I hope to be a "gentleman farmer" myself in a little over 2 years. :-)
by Anonymous on November 3rd, 2009
Start working on it from now on, Major. It took me 6 years to close the other business while setting up the farm. It is a most rewarding noble life, the life of a farmer, where you do not harm anyone, but help all.
All the best, Major.
by Suby the Coat on November 3rd, 2009
The farm's been in my family for almost 250 years. I inherited it 35 years ago. I'll be taking it over from a hired manager when I retire from the Army.
by Anonymous on November 3rd, 2009
That would make it all the more easier for you, Major. I had to buy the land, fence it, do the planting, arrange for watering of the saplings and wait till all the trees were grown and started yielding. You are lucky.
by Suby the Coat on November 3rd, 2009
Yes. I consider that I hold it in trust for future generations. Since Meg and I cannot have children, it will eventually pass to a niece or nephew, whoever shows the greatest interest in care for the land. In the land title is a clause that prevents it from being broken up or used for anything other than a farm.
by Anonymous on November 3rd, 2009
Thats a good clause. I will think about adding such a clause in my will, Major.
If my two sons are not interested in settling down in the farm for their retirement then I will say the farm must go to an Ashram. No change of land use will be permitted and the land cannot be sold. This sort of clause will make sure the trees I planted will stay alive and well. I will think about it and decide.
by Suby the Coat on November 3rd, 2009
Excellent choice. My great-grandfather put that clause in. I was able to buy back some of the land that had been sold off before that time; I added the same restriction to those deeds. What kind of tree crops do you grow? We have a commercial maple syrup/sugar business and an apple orchard. We are also growing some experimental oil-fuel crops (hybrid castor beans at present). We have a small-scale oil extraction and biodiesel conversion facility.
by Anonymous on November 4th, 2009
I have coconut palms, Mango and lemon trees mostly. Some rice paddy fields too. Then some milch cows.
I had first bought a small farm with a farm house.Then I bought up all available barren land around the farm and developed it. Its close to the river and an irrigation canal from the nearby dam runs on one side of the farm. So no water scarcity.
I have a small mini lake in the middle with wild trees planted around it. Migratory birds come here in winter from as far away as Siberia. We have some pelicans too coming here every year to breed. The birds have started arriving already and soon the trees will all have their nests. I stock the lake with live fingerling so that the birds don't leave in search of food.
A very pleasant way to spend the time in retirement.
I have a small private temple in the middle for my solitary moments. Can't imagine anything could be better for a post retirement life, Major.
by Suby the Coat on November 4th, 2009
Sounds serene and beautiful, Suby. :-)
by Anonymous on November 4th, 2009
It is. Only I must see that my health is at its best so that I could enjoy my retirement to my heart's fill. Major.
by Suby the Coat on November 4th, 2009
I hope my health holds out too, Suby. I've abused my body so much in the last 30 years.
by Anonymous on November 5th, 2009
Same problem, Major. I was drinking like a fish till 6 years ago. Then AA helped me arrest the alcoholism. Not sure how much damage has been done!
by Suby the Coat on November 5th, 2009
Good for you! I didn't need it to stop, then moderate my drinking, but many do. AA does good work. My damage was from constant physical abuse in training and military operations. I'm still trying to force my body, at 53, to do what men in their 20s have to be in good shape to do.
by Anonymous on November 5th, 2009
But that will be punishing your body, Major. Do consult your Army Doctor before you decide on any regimen.
Once you settle down in your farm in 2 years from now - your farm activities alone will be enough to keep you in good shape. And pretty relaxing too.
by Suby the Coat on November 5th, 2009
Meghan is gone.Killed by a bus about 5 hours ago.
by Anonymous on November 5th, 2009
True? Very sorry to hear that, Tom. Were you closeby? I can't just express my giref. Having to loose a life partner when you were palanning for a retirement with her in 2 years time is simply terrible. I am with you at this moment of sorry. May God Bless Meghan's Soul.
by Suby the Coat on November 6th, 2009
I have posted the information of your loss of Megan for all ABers, Major Tom. I do not know how to express my grief and sorrow.
AB users, your friends as well as those not known to you personally are sharing your moment of grief.
My condolences.
http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8205975
by Suby the Coat on November 6th, 2009
Hello Suby. The fact that I am on active duty is the only thing keeping me alive right now. A chaplain explained to me that no serving general officer has committed suicide in over 100 years. That is all I would be remembered for if I did it. The thought of that dishonor is the only thing keeping me from joining Meghan. I've put away the pistol. I need to take Meg home to put her in our earth that she loved so dearly. Some fool doctor forced a tranquilizer shot on me. It was supposed to knock me out for 12 hours. I woke up in 3. My aide just told me that I don't have to identify the body after all, he did it for me. I want to remember lovely Meghan as she was.
by Anonymous on November 6th, 2009
I am glad to hear this, Major. I will copy and paste this comment in the condolences page.
This is the time when you need to be strong. I know life changes a lot when we loose our life partner with whom we planned to spend the rest of our lives. But you are an army man strong in mind. Take care. What more could I say. Fate has a funny way of playing tricks on us. All that we could do is to remain strong willed. Remain strong willed, Major.
by Suby the Coat on November 6th, 2009
Did just that, Major. Posted both the comments in the page. It will bring a great relief to other ABers who are with you at this moment with their moral support. Take care. God is Great.
by Suby the Coat on November 6th, 2009
Thank you so much Suby. You are a true friend. I am staying on line right now only to keep my mind occupied and my hands away from the whiskey bottle and the pistol. Bless you my friend.
by Anonymous on November 6th, 2009
I'm keeping myself busy right now "un-subscribing" myself from all the controversial threads I was in. I never realized how much anger was in me until now. I no longer wish to dispute controversial issues or spread any more anger around.
by Anonymous on November 6th, 2009
Best thing to do, Major. Stay away from the bottle no matter what. It will only worsen the situation. You are a brave man. You will overcome the grief and will have the pleasant memories of Megan with you all through your life.
Do feel free to post a comment here inviting me to chat. I am online mornings and evenings. I am sure you have enough people to help you out with the remaining things that must be done. Take it easy, Major. For want of nothing better to do for an option.
by Suby the Coat on November 6th, 2009
Tom, I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
by Amorphous Blob on November 6th, 2009
oh, Major Tom, sending you an Army Mom ((((((((((((hug))))))))) right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you! Take one minute at a time right now.
by Sherri on November 6th, 2009
Major Tom! GREAT BIG (((HUG))) Lean on all of your fellow ABers for support! We are here for you!! Sorry Major Tom.....truly sorry for your loss!
by -NUNYA-- on November 6th, 2009
Major Tom: Here is the text of my appeal to AB Admin.
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To: Answerbag Administrators.
Major Tom, AB user, lost his wife Meghan to an accident on the 5th Oct 2009.
I posted the condolence message in question & answer form which has received 139 condolence message answers and everyone who posted an answer is eager to see the Major through his tough trying times extending all moral support.
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1796707
The Major who was initially contemplating suicide upon his wife's demise has been brought around to a much stabler state of mind by fellow ABers by engaging him in continuous dialog in AB comments threads.
The Major himself thanked and commented on all comments to the answers that my question received.
He also posted his own answser to the question on 7th November 2009 which too received numerous comments in condolence and encouragement.
http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8217532
The Major is taking his wife's body by a USAF aircraft to the US on the 9th Nov 2009.
He wishes to stay in touch with all ABers who helped him overcome his initial depression and suicidal tendencies during the long flight from Guam to Hanover NH. He has posted a comment to this effect.
"Avatar Major Tom Nov, 07 2009 at 10:20 AM
It can even stay in touch while in the air. Satellite uplink from radio operator. I'll update the GPS coordinates and my thoughts as we go."
For the purpose of communication with Answerbag friends he wished to set up a fresh comments thread and for that purpose he asked this question.
http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8221214
Now we see that the question has been flagged 'nonsense' by someone and stands 'rejected'.
It is the wish and desire of all the 139 ABers who offered him support at the time of Major Tom's trying moments that the question is reinstated so that we could stay in continuous contact with him as he flies half way across the globe to US with his wife Meghan's body.
I appeal that the Answerbag Administration considers this appeal favorably and reinstates this question by Major Tom.
Suby the Coat.
by Suby the Coat on November 7th, 2009
Everyone on this thread: Please give the link to this question to Major Tom so that he could read my appeal to AB Admin to reinstate his question.
Thank you.
by Suby the Coat on November 7th, 2009
Thanks Suby! I have posted a new question for the Major: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8224477 and emailed this to our dear friend so that if his original question/comment does not get reinstated, he can use my question as his thread.
by Sherri on November 7th, 2009
Thats fine, Sherri. I posted copy of my appeal here because AB always deletes copies of appeals to them if they find out. I have posted another copy under another question he answered. But in none of the main comments threads. I am hopeful the question will be reinstated. If not, your new thread could be used.
I think the Major has gone to bed. He has had no posting done in 4 hours.
Lets wait!
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I saw your question, Sherri. If Major Tom's question was flagged by some troll as 'nonsense' yours too could be, as you have given details of the 'nonsensed' question in yours, Sherry.
Reinstatement of the original question could save the situation best, I supose. Or you will have to post a totally innocent looking question on aviation with only Major Tom's name and no links, to be on the safeside.
by Suby the Coat on November 7th, 2009
Sherri: Copy and paste my appeal to AB Admin and email that also to the Major. He has not been active in the AB for over 4 hours now. Your keeping in touch with him by Email is our best bet so that we could let him know the thread over which he could contact us.
by Suby the Coat on November 7th, 2009
Apparently the morons at AB Admin have "nonsensed" Sherri's question, too. I only get "404 error" when I try to access it. I'll make my commentary on my answer to the condolence question. I don't want anybody to get PBed over this. I don't care if they kick me off, but I don't want to be responsible for anyone else being harmed.
by Anonymous on November 8th, 2009
AB Admin, in my experience, can be quite stubborn and vindictive.
by Anonymous on November 8th, 2009
AB Admin does nothing on its own, you could take my word for that, Major.
Someone deliberately flagged the question for the measly 5 points the flag will earn them. Otherwise the Admin has no way of keeping track of the thousands of questions being posted everyday.
It could possibly be the one person, whose answer to my question, I had flagged as offensive, because it WAS offensive. But do remember the answerer was Anonymous and is answer was removed by the AB staff in a matter of hours.
I am hopeful my appeal about your question will stay. Otherwise we will continue the chat under any one answer from the 139 of your choice. Or even this thread. Take your pick Major.
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How much time it will be before you board the aircraft?
by Suby the Coat on November 8th, 2009
Sherri's question has non been rejected, Major. I just checked. Pl click:
http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/8224477
by Suby the Coat on November 8th, 2009
It appears Tom's question has been reinstated, for now: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1799290
by BigDaddyBS on November 8th, 2009
Please accept my hearfelt condolences, Major Tom!!
by Chicago Lady on November 8th, 2009
And, rejected again. Sorry Tom.
by BigDaddyBS on November 8th, 2009
Did you read my appeal copied before submitting the the Admin and pasted here immediately after submitting. I had pasted it under the last answer the Major had posted at that time so that he would get to see it.
Now when it was reinstated where is the possibility of rejection again unless someone flagged it again? There was one answer to my question too which was offensive and I had flagged it spam/offensive. Is there any way you could find out who is repeatedly flagging that question?
by Suby the Coat on November 8th, 2009
Nope. And it can't be the same person. Once you flag a question or answer, it grays out, and you can no longer flag it.
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Personally, I wish that once a question or answer was reinstated, that it could no longer be flagged - at least in the manner that was "corrected". (Wrong Category should be available at all times, unless you've already done it.)
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And, yes. I read it. I also appealed to Rich via email. Who knows which one(s) caused him to reinstate it, but obviously, there's little communication between admins & moderators in matters like this. Besides, Read it, Suby. It's not a question. It's not even an IMPLIED question.
by BigDaddyBS on November 8th, 2009
Thats true, BigDaddy. It is not a question anyway we look at it. Still the moderators were kind enough to reinstate it. But they should not have entertained a second nonsense flag.
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I think a good number of moderators are part-time college students. How else we could explain the point asked in this question of mine?
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1790540
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A total of 17 flags moderating questions from 'outside the bag' to proper acceptable catergories were rejected. I appealed against the rejection by replying to the rejection slips. But no action taken this far. The questions continue to remain outside the bag.
by Suby the Coat on November 8th, 2009