Nope, you're doing the right thing. He's only after her for one reason. And you need to point out to Romeo that it's illegal and you will put his happy butt in jail if he continues to pursue your daughter.

There could be 2 different answers.... 1:: Maturity can differ from person to person. You should sit back and examine the situation before making any hasty decissions. I would suggest getting to know the young mans family and himself. Just because he's older dosent mean that the relationship is a bad idea. 2:: You should just trust your instincts. If you honestly feel that beyond a shadow of a doubt that this relationship is not in the best interest of your child then yes, I would end it...But try to be as kind as possible. I'm 17 dating an 18 year old...and I can honestly say that I wouldnt let my daughter date before she was 16 or 17. I have been with my boyfriend for a full year and some odd months. Both of my parents approve of him, and THAT has made the relationship much easier and a happy one.

There could be 2 different answers.... 1:: Maturity can differ from person to person. You should sit back and examine the situation before making any hasty decissions. I would suggest getting to know the young mans family and himself. Just because he's older dosent mean that the relationship is a bad idea. 2:: You should just trust your instincts. If you honestly feel that beyond a shadow of a doubt that this relationship is not in the best interest of your child then yes, I would end it...But try to be as kind as possible. I'm 17 dating an 18 year old...and I can honestly say that I wouldnt let my daughter date before she was 16 or 17. I have been with my boyfriend for a full year and some odd months. Both of my parents approve of him, and THAT has made the relationship much easier and a happy one.

People seem to thank that kids who are in their early teens are allowed to make decisions for themselves. This is why we have parents who guide or mentor their children from making the wrong decisions. You have every right to decide whats right in the best interests of your child. It may not be the popular one but you're sending a positve message that will be realized later in your daughters life. Nipping this in the bud is the right thing to do. Stick to your guns because what you're doing isn't easy.

Nope. I was asked to go to a winter formal when I was 15 by an 18 year old guy. My parents said I was too young to go and I didn't go. The guy ended up being a real jerk and I'm glad that I didn't go with him. He was too old for me and I might not have been able to handle him when I was that age. If you feel that your daughter is too young then she probably is. You have to do what you feel is right for your family.

In most States it is illegal to have "SEXUAL" or "SEXUALLY DEVIANT" relationships with someone 15 and under. I think you are absolutly right not to allow this. In PA, 16 is the age of consent. This senior will be out of school soon anyway and your daughter will be a thing of the past. he will get over it

No that in not wrong. Your are the mother and you know how mature she is and if she could handle a relationship with that age difference. I am sure she is a wise young lady but can the 18 year old be trusted with your 14 year old? I have a 14 yr. old daughter and I would not allow it to happen. She is no where near mature enough to handle an 18 year old male. Follow your gut instinct if you feel it is not a good choice for her I would stick with it. I tell mine she will have enough of that when she is a little older.

Thank you all for all your thoughts and i truely appreciate every answer. I am going to try to make a decision on this issue depending on the response to my last question. and that is a simple yes or no would be great should I just not let her go ?

My case is very rare, but I feel I should post it just to make aware that it is possible. I met my boyfriend when I was 14. He was 17 at the time. He is now my husband and my best friend. (we got married when I was 19 and he was 23 and now I am 32 and he is 36)

U have to ask urself what does a 18 yearold want with a 14 yearold. i'm 17 and my limit is 16 since in 4 months i'll be 18 wich would make a 14 18 couple eleagle..

I understand all the well meaning advice, but Miyaku has a point. How mature is this boy? I met my husband when I was 15 and he almost 19. My mother later confessed to being concerned, but didn't forbid the relationship. After spending time together at our house she realized that I acted more mature and he less mature--the rest is history :) If your gut says it's wrong, trust it and just tell her no. But maybe you could try to get to know the guy first? He could be a shy 18 year old virgin, but you won't know that if you don't try.

I would suggest to nip this in the bud asap. Eighteen year older is a man, while your daughter is legally a child. What would an 18 yr old man, want with such a young girl? If I were you I would not allow it, she is too young and if they ever became "involved" that would be statutory rape.

I would probably "nip the relationship in the bud" pronto.

I understand your mother instinct, and if you honestly feel past how you feel about the age difference that this guy is totally wrong then you need to speak to your daughter about it. Just don't become her enemy...she'll just sneak around anyway and there you'll be miles away from her world. I think we all know when we were 14, we were just sort of discovering things and its important to let your daughter experience a certain ammount without you getting involved. But when i was 14 and all my friends were, we were all hanging out with older guys. My mom knew and she said that as long as i was in a group hanging out with everyone it was okay. The thing is why not get to know him? Make sure your daughter has a curfew, and keep a very close eye on her. My mother never made the mistake of saying no all the time, but instead making boundaries. You may create a rebel, which was the majority of my friends, because there parents became so strict when sometimes it wasn't even neccessary. My opinion is no matter how much you want to stop it, you really can't, which i know many would disagree with by saying something like just lock in her room, or "ground her". You really can't stop love/chemistry/lust, some people do anything to be with the person they want. So my answer for you is yes it is wrong to just nip it in the bud. To be honest rarely highschool relationships work anyway, and you need to have faith in what you've taught her. If you've taught her, which i hope you have, to be a lady, save yourself for someone right, and to be have fun but be safe. Then you have no worries for her, you just need to guide her and be there for her. I tell my mother everything to this day. It's important to not loose your daughter at 14...because sometimes if you create enough drama between you two your relationship becomes rather weak and stressful. So all in all keep an eye on her, but if you feel like theres any danger to her and this guy is dangerous than thats a time when i would make sure you get involved. But if its age, then perhaps give her a chance and him...you never know right?

YOu are correct. stand your ground. your daughter is a minor and the senior is 18, an adult. You can bet he has other things on his mind, other than a trip to the mall. If the senior is really concerned for your daughter, he will wait until she is 18 and he will be 22.

You're absolutely right! First of all I wouldn't let my kid date till she's 16 but anyway dating a 18 yr old sounds like a VERY bad idea.

You are not wrong. 14 to 18 is a big spread. It's not 24 to 28. He is defiitely too old. what's wrong with him? That's what I'd like to know.

It is not wrong to want to protect her but think about it like this, the more you dissaprove of something, the more she will want to do it. this is coming from a 14 year old boy so it may be a little different but from what i see kids tend to do what there parents dissaprove of just because the parents don't aprove.

No you ARE in the wrong I met my fiancee when i was 15...he was 20, and in college...My mother and father never tryed to stop me from seeing him. HE never asked for sex, he was the perfect gentleman...ive been with him for 3 years were planning a family together and are living in our own house. I think you need to get to know this guy before jumping to conclusions...he may be the man of her dreams...you just wont know unless you try

I have a 14 year old daughter, and she can't even consider dating untill 16. Am I oldfashioned? Probably. But Who cares... Not Me! Is it wrong to nip the relationship in the bud? Hell No! Go with your instincts, Mothers instincts are rarely wrong.

My personal opinion is you should let her make that desicion. He oculd be a really great guy who happens to be a little older. I'm 15 and I have a wonderful boyfriend who's 20. You probably think he'll pressure her, but not all guys will. She probably has a good head on her shoulders and should be able to handle dating him. Shes lucky to have such a caring mom.

LISTEN i am a 14 year old guy, i know the guys who are 18 that go out with 14 year old girls, usualyy bad guys, usualy the ones who are to low for the girls their own age so they go for the younger ones, they also try to pressure sex alot more so i would say this is a bad ida, personaly

hang on gang on, for all you know, that 18 year old could be young ooking and at the same level as her, i knew this guy who was 18 but looked about 15, an he was dating a 14 year old.it worked out aswel

Yes. Leave it alone. It is only a four year difference which you would pay no mind to if she were 20 and he was 24. Eighteen is just conjured up number at which everyone is apparently "grown". Where is the science in that? Age is just the number of years that a person has been on the earth. Mental capacity is another concept entirely. You should base your decision on whether or not you believe that your daughter is intelligent enough to date anyone, regardless of age. You don't want her to resent you for the next couple of years. A fourteen year old girl and an eighteen year old boy are about on the same playing field anyways since girls mature faster. If you genuinely believe that her safety would be at risk, then deny her. Whatever your decision, don't be a bitch about it or the next couple of years will be hell for you.

to be honest your daughter will probely go behind your back and do it anyway, teenagers hate beening told about what they can and cant do, my advice is to sit her down and talk to her about it and warn her about what she might be getting herself into, make sure you dont lose your temper and listen to what she has to say. good luck

Give the boy a chance. :) thats all i can say.

I don't think that any dating before someone is ready to find a partner for life is wrong anyway, but I'm old fashioned. However I did meet my husband when I was 14 and he was almost 19. He arranged for big group of people, including several adults were going to go out for a movie and then he asked me if I would love to go with them. He did this whenever he wanted to go out because he knew it wasn't right for my parents to let a 14 year old go out alone with someone else. We sometimes did things in the daytime together, like go horseback riding or to the beach, but we didn't really date until I was over 16, close to 17. We were engaged at 17 and I insisted on being 18 to get married. I hadn't slept with anyone until that time because he allowed us to wait and be patient. So in some ways I think it helped that he was older and able to think clearly.And that's been almost 35 years ago. So what kind of dating is it? What kind of young man is he? How do they view dating? As something serious or as some sort of recreational activity?

An 18 year old has nothing but bad intentions when it comes to asking a 14 year old girl out. In most states that is illegal and can be punishable by jail time. As a parent, do you want your 14 year old daughter taken advantage of, pregnant and left alone by age 15? Not saying those are his intentions, but thinking back to when I was 14 and a 18 year old asked me out, all he wanted was sex. It is best to nip this relationship in the bud, so that your daughter don't end up hurt or worse!

I agree with you--there is a big difference between a 14 yr old and a 18 yr old. Usually the 18 yr old wants to take advantage of the younger person, whether they consciously know it or not. The only problem is, if you ban your daughter from seeing him, she may rebel and see him secretly. Hard to deal with.