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  • Maybe you should ask him what is wrong. Maybe he's depressed or maybe after 9 years, he wants you to himself instead of surrounded by friends. Maybe he's ready to settle down and thinks you still want more of a social life and he is ready to stay home and just be with you.
  • Find out why he is acting out
  • Are you serious.....? 9 years......I'm not 100% sure, but I'm 78% sure that he is mind numbingly tired of being in the same relationship, he's young and hasn't been out doing anything except seeing the same people for 9 freaking years......he's restless and bitter. That's what happens to men after being with someone for so long. This is just a guess though.
  • Try to find out the reason(s) for his change in behaviour. If he has not already shared with you, chances are he may be reluctant to do so now - may be embarrassed, get defensive, or not know how to open up about what he is going through. Do your best to approach him in a way that lets him know that you want to support and help him rather than showing anger or frustration with his behaviour. There are so many things that can effect behaviour - depression or other mental health issues, stress, the pressures of life, concern for a loved one, addiction issues.... It is also possible he is unhappy in the relationship and is having problems talking to you about it. Could be trying to sabatoge the relationship. It is good for you to be there to support and try to help your boyfriend, but if he is unwilling to talk about any issues and his behaviour doesn't change, you may have to make the difficult decision of ending the relationship. You could also try talking to his family and friends. Chances are others have noticed the changes and may have some insight into the reasons or how to help.

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