I'm so sorry James, I really can't offer you any advice that's going to instantly make you feel better, but I do empathize with you......I am also having an agonizing time dealing with the abrupt end of my relationship. I'm seriously thinking about looking into hypnosis because I'm having trouble functioning and I've lost all joy in my life. I hope the best for you James.....really.

There is one thing and one thing only that i've found that allowed someone to successfully move past a relationship. Rediscover your individuality. The first things you are going to feel are loneliness, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness. You reason that because THIS person no longer wants you, then you aren't wanted by anybody. It's hard to be convinced of this at a times like these, but that is absolutely not true. Adopt a new philosophy: "I'm glad we broke up!...why would I want to be with someone who didn't want me in the first place?" What a waste of time that would be...and how many people would have passed me by who were REALLY good for me, while I was trying to figure out if this one was? Enjoy the single life. Hang out with the guys, reconnect with family...rent a stack of movies and some junk food and make an evening of it (no more prissy restaurants and shopping sprees. Save money...and dream of retirement. No more expensive dinners and things of the sort. Enjoy being able to do whatever you want, whenever you want to do it. I always take the end of a relationship as an opportunity to travel. I don't have to worry about the comfort of another person. I can go anywhere I want, do only what I want, eat only what I want to eat, and sleep only when I am tired. I also get to develop my skills, explore new hobbies, and experience more things. I find the time spent single is the time I most advance personally. You'll find another person...and she'll be a better person. You won't allow her NOT to be. The thing is though, you'll be enjoying your life so much, it'll feel like no time at all before she comes along!