In such a complex society, nothing concerning interpersonal relationships is that simple. Empiricly speaking, having sex, for most primates, is a physiological/psychological commitment to procreate. For the lower species, there are no social stigmas for having multiple sexual partners, as it is often necessary for the survival of the species. For more advanced, noble species, those animals which possess more defined mating skills, such as lions, or many of the more colorful birds, they often assume one mate for life. As far as 3 dates, you became aquaintences. The sex made her part of your tribe, your clan, your pack, etc. If you understand that her desire was not of simple momentary pleasure, but of security, commitment, and appreciation, you will understand that what she wants, what you want, what I and everyone else wants, is a long-term relationship. It's what makes us human beings. But it is your choice to be a noble species, or simply a primate. She chose to be a primate, which is why you are having these second thoughts.

No, it's not too early because usually after the 1st couple of dates you can usually tell if you're compatible, or not. Clearly, since you're uninterested in her as being a long-term relationship, then since you've both engaged in pre-marital sex, then this will probably make it more difficult for you to explain this to her since many times, women equate sexual intercourse with love as opposed to something physical as many men perceive it. You should be forthright with her right now because waiting later will only complicate the relationship further. After all, put yourself in her shoes. If you liked a girl, and you had 3 dates with her, and she didn't want a long-term relationship with you, then wouldn't you prefer to know this ahead of time as opposed to waiting longer down the road? Of course, so you owe it to the present "girl" that you're dating the same respect. Clear communication is important in any relationship and it's important that you inform others about how you feel because that's the right thing to do. I hope this helps and good luck with your decision!

You'd be better off being honest about what you want now, or you could end up in a sticky situation later. If she's already decided, or is about to decide that she wants a long term relationship, she'd likely rather you let her know now, so that she can disengage herself sooner rather than later. She's more likely to feel cheated, used and led on if she finds out six months down the line that you weren't interested in what she thought you were- at least if she finds out now, then she doesn't have to waste her time on something that's not going where she wants it to go. Yes, she might be a bit angry at you, but that's nothing compared to how angry she'll be if you tell her in several months time when she's had time to develop much stronger feelings for you. On the other hand, you may find that she breathes a huge sigh of relief- men tend to assume that girls are always looking to get into a long-term relationship, but its definetely not always true (ever seen Sex and the City guys?) perhaps she sees you more as a casual thing and will be pleased that you feel the same way. I'm not saying you have to dump her, or to rule out the possibility of long term altogether. Just tell her that at the moment you're not really ready for a serious commitment and you'd rather keep things casual, or take it slowly to see how it turns out. Maybe in a few months time you'll start to feel differently- certainly many of my own long term relationships have evolved out of something I originally thought of as being fairly casual. See how it goes- but be honest about it. Incidently, the fact that she had sex with you is neither here nor there- it could mean she fancied you and was feeling a bit horny, it could mean she really likes you, different women attach different meanings to it at different times.

I think you should be honest from the start. This way she knows what is going on, and not to get her hopes up for a serious relationship, and she knows exactly what she's getting involved in. You are NEVER a jerk if you are always honest!

It's natural that you're not sure about having a long-term relationship with this girl. You barely even know her. Three dates is not enough time to gauge whether or not you feel a long-term relationship is possible with someone. I knew my boyfriend for 9 months as a friend before we started dating. Even then, I wasn't sure about him as long-term material. I had to get to know him more through dating, through spending quality time together. Honestly, the person I thought he was when I first met him is nothing like the person I know now, or even the person he was when we first started dating (and we've been going out for almost 8 months). Go out on some more dates and try to get to know her more. You like her -- that's already a great start. I suggest that you start thinking about long-term feasibility after 2 or 3 months. By then, I'm sure you'll have a more concrete grasp of her personality, positives and negatives. My boyfriend grew on me, and I'm not saying that it will happen to you too -- but it's possible that this girl you like will grow on you as well.

I really can't say as all the males I have been with, I have known for a long while before we started dating. You should always communicate your feelings to her, but don't do it in an insensitive way.

This is a prime reason for waiting longer before having sex the first time. I'd suggest taking each day as it comes but also find out just what she's looking for in a relationship. She might not want to get too serious either.

You're not sure about a relationship, but you've screwed the girl anyway. That makes you a sexual predator. Here, hang this sign around your neck. . I AM A SEXUAL PREDATOR

I don't think it was fair of you to have sex with her given your doubts. but that done. Don't have sex with her again. I suggest that you have an honest and open conversation. You might start by asking her how she feels about the relationship and be honest with her about how you feel.

Tell hernow that you like to hang out with her and she's cool and everything but as of now you don't want a relationship. Maybein the future but not now. Just so She isn't led on if she is, but emphasize to her that you don't mind being friends for now.

Basically, YOU SCREWED UP ! Literally. Why? Here's the skinny: Build-up ! Yes, build-up. When you meet a possible lover, if it's romance you're looking for, just like a good foreplay, you need a gradual escalation. Here's a question for you: Why do you think those couples starting out in the 20's - 50's produced more stable families than most relatonships today? Gradual escalation. If you jump directly in the sack after the third date, what in the world do you have to look forward to after that. BDSM sessions? Do you see my point yet? Start with a walk, continue with a night out, then a kiss.... Tease your heart. Coax it into a wanting, longing, desiring heart. It needs anticipation, it needs a little frustration, it needs all those things that... write a person's face into your blood. If you take it slowly, and gradually get just a little bit more, you'll be massively surprised what your heart can learn to feel for even the least interesting of the girls you see. On the other side, if you've already consumed it (emphasis on "consumED"), what else do you want? Where do YOU think the desire to spend a lifetime with someone comes from, her vulva? Basically, YOU're doing it wrong. There is such a thing as being to successful. And you, my friend, are it's victim. Dial down your blitzkrieg dating tactics a couple of notches and you might be very pleasantly surprised. Nutshell: long term desires come from longing. Strong love is tempered by pain, not sex. May you change your views and start romancing, not just humping. My two cents.

I think you should just let things keep going for a while. Be nice to her and everything, and if you have to break it off dont be mean about it. You never know it might turn around for the better.

Take thing as they come.