Why do people stay in some relationships for too long?
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gtravels loves her life penguin
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I think one of the big reasons is security. It's better to live with what you know than to tread in uncharted waters.
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G'day gtravels, Thank you for your question. They have invested a lot in the relationship and don't want to admit it has been a waste of time. There can also be problems in the terms of options especially if they don't have many resources. Regards
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because the person doesn't want to become lonely. I'd say thats another big one.
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I think most people tolerate bad relationships because they don't want to be alone. Its easier to stay than to start all over. People don't engineer their lives. they would rather stay in the problem instead of the solution.
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Because even thought they might not feel happy with the relationship, it's familiar. Security, financial or otherwise. "For the kids." Because divorce might be viewed negatively and harshly by immediate family. Fear of change, having to start over, and getting back in the dating scene.
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I think sometimes it is because they don't know how to end a realtionship that has dribbled off to nothing. In the media there is a lot on information on 'getting' the girl/boy and maintaining the relationship, but you don't see too many articles on how to let go and leave, and on how to say - gee I think it's over how about we call it quits? People, I think, sometimes just don't know how to exit gracefully, without tears or recriminations or fights and drama, it becomes easier to stay. There is also a lot of personal reasons too, some people just don't want to hurt the other person, they may not want to be alone, they may not have anywhere to go, they may not want to face all the I-told-you-sos form parents or friends... heaps of reason to stay and drift.
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Fear of change and hope that things might get better.
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love is blind and people are for the most part uncontrolably stupid. don't get all mad I have stayed in relationships too long.
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People are afraid of hurting the other person. I stayed in a relationship with someone who I felt, in my gut, that I was not compatible with and who didn't treat me very well. There was something about him that made me want to say though. I wanted to give it an honest try. Later on he got better, but the damage was already done. I had check out long before he became the man I wanted him to be. I felt conflicted since there was positive change and he was truly in love with me, but I no longer cared. I tried to care and thought I was being too callous, but really I just didn't love him. It would have been cruel to keep it going longer than it had. I had stayed too long because I didn't want to hurt someone I felt close to. But it had to be broken off in order for both of us to heal, move on and find a partner who genuinely cared.
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