Is it wrong of me to not go to a good friends baby shower when I recently lost my baby and feel that it should be my shower? I cried just opening the envelope, how do I explain to her its not personal just that I am still grieving?

Say exactly what you said in the question. I'm sure she'll understand.

Just tell her the truth honey ok! And your friend will understand if she is a real friend ok! God bless you ok!

If she has any empathy at all, she would understand. She should be comforting you.

Just be honest. Tell her that you aren't over what happened with your own child and you wouldn't have a good time at hers. Also, you could send a gift and tell her to open it and mention you and how you wish you could be there, maybe.

If she is any kind of friend, she already knows. She probably only sent the invitation because she didn't want to leave you out and and didn't know how to handle it. Just call her and tell her you aren't ready, but that you still love her.

she will completely understand. I had a family member that had a miscarriage around my baby shower and i didnt even want to invite her because i couldnt even imagine how bad she was hurting. Just tell her you are still not feeling well. that should be enough. God bless you.

You shouldn't have to explain. Give her a gift certificate so you don't have to shop. Send her the card and if shes a true friend she'll understand. I know how hard it is for you but it will get better. Good luck.

if her feelings are hurt from you not going, then she is not a real friend and she would be very selfish.
you have every right not to feel guilty for not going, and you have every right not to go.

i, too, would feel like it should have been my shower. i would feel robbed.



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