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How do people separate sex and love? I just can't comprehend it!

By Kokoro Asked Oct 29 2009 7:02AM
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by Vaporeongirl on Oct 30, 2009 at 1:45 pm Permalink

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Don't get all confused, Kokoro. Sex is not love! People use sex for many different purposes; and 1 of those purposes is to express love. However, some people do like to just use it as a pleasure toy. I am somewhere in the middle: I would never sleep with someone I don't know well or don't care about for pleasure, but I don't really see sex as the ultimate expression of love. Different people see things different ways; that's all there is to it. I understand and respect your opinion.
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Avatar Vaporeongirl Nov, 01 2009 at 01:34 PM
What a SOB! Tell me this wasn't the guy you lost your virginity to! Men are ALL JERKS; that is what I've found.
Avatar Kokoro Nov, 02 2009 at 05:42 AM
Yes, it was. :( I thought he was different, but I was wrong.
Avatar Vaporeongirl Nov, 02 2009 at 10:53 AM
Poor thing....a lot of girls get burned by their 1st.

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by iBambi on Oct 29, 2009 at 9:34 am Permalink

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It the way you approach something. If you see a girl that you don't see yourself with but can see yourself messing around then it becomes just about sex with no emotion. And vice versa.
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Avatar Kokoro Oct, 29 2009 at 10:27 AM
I suppose so, but I personally could never have sex with someone I didn't love or wasn't considered my boyfriend.

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by Randy D on Nov 1, 2009 at 7:09 pm Permalink

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Sex is what women use as bait to get love from men.

Love is what men use as bait to get sex from women.
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Avatar Randy D Nov, 03 2009 at 06:25 PM
I'm confused, Nightrush. Who said " "men/women" can do anything . . . "?
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I certainly didn't.
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Next, my original response to Spirit's question was a generality. There's no way I can either know or chronicle the experience of every person alive or every person who's ever lived, so I can only speak in generalities.
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Lastly, isn't "hate" a pretty strong word? If you hate that women see "this" (a lot has been said here, and you didn't specify what you meant by "this") and actually agree with it, do you hate it because it's true, or because you disbelieve it to be true?
Avatar Nightsrush Nin Nov, 04 2009 at 05:51 AM
firstly, I didn't say >can< do anything. I said it is wrong to think that >"Men"< or >"women"< in any possible generalized statement will never and can never be true. It may be common, but still. You acknowledged this on your own in response to spirit, so why say it? It just doesn't help the problem of it.
and Hate is indeed a strong word, however I have strong feelings against people listening to generalizations and thinking its ok. Its not.
Avatar Randy D Nov, 04 2009 at 05:02 PM
Ok.

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by DudeLer 2 on Nov 5, 2009 at 6:34 pm Permalink

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they separate the lover from the sex.
no lover,
just sex...with something or someone else.
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by Nightsrush Nin on Nov 3, 2009 at 7:20 am Permalink

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Firstly, sex is to procreate. It is designed to work no matter if the person loves or not. However, personally I don't believe they should be seperate.


What a selfish thing to post kokoro, I know your ex boyfriend and the reason you two did it that night was because he thought you were going to be different. I know for a fact considering who I am that that is BS and youre here trying to get sympathy. The thing you don't share here is that not only are you lying, but youre slandering someone for your own pity. I thought you were better than this. You decided you thought best and made terrible, evil rash decisions and didn't even talk to him. you jumped to a huge conclusion and STILL havent decided to talk about it.

He was a jerk at the time and I'm sure he feels bad but he did not by any means do what you have described here. I hope you remove all that you can about this crap and do the right thing.

Vaporeongirl, wake up. ALL men are not jerks. I thought you were different as well, you have even commented on some of our posts. You know damn well you have no right to say something like that, just because you surround yourself (or are unfortunate to be surrounded by) assholes doesn't mean thats how life is or should be!!! And if you do well I am sorry you feel that way and hope you will open your eyes and find someone that treats you right, and hope you don't do what kokoro does.
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Avatar Kokoro Nov, 03 2009 at 08:18 AM
I have deal breakers. I will refuse to be with someone who talks to me the way that you have, going to be single and not feel guilty about looking. What a childish reaction/solution to a problem.
Avatar Nightsrush Nin Nov, 03 2009 at 08:36 AM
You think that it is the looking that is the problem, which is the problem. Its the pressure and stereotypes and insecurities you pool on me. thats all.
Avatar Kokoro Nov, 03 2009 at 09:12 AM
I think they're both problems, and that you should not have reacted the way you did.


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