My girlfriend stopped answering my calls while out drinking with her friend and 3 guys. She said she couldn't remember the reason why she didn't answer my calls. She swore she didn't cheat. Should I believe her?
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Well if she has never gave you any reason to doubt her then you should trust her assuming you and her have a very serious relationship. if there has been doubts or suspicious activity in the past then you may need to investigate a little more into it. If she has been caught lying/cheating in the past then you shhould already know the answer to this one........but most people dont like to hear the truth.
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If she has never given you a reason to doubt her honesty, then by all means believe her. I used to do the same thing and I can assure you I never cheated. If I was having a night out with my friends, I did not answer any calls (including those from my boyfriend). I wanted to enjoy seeing my friends, not talk on the phone all night.
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Don't be too suspicious. If she's doing something without you, dont' constantly call her. That will just make her feel that you don't trust her. Give her some time alone if she wants it. If you can't trust her if you're not with her, maybe there's something wrong with your relationship.
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You already know the answer to this question by now. However, if you have ever went out drinking with your buddies and a girl, nobody ever gets the girl. See "A Beautiful Mind" for the logic behind this phenomenon. If she went out with one guy, then concern would be logical.
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No, she was doing something that she was not suppose to be doing. I know this b/c my bf of 5 1/2 years just did that to me and he slept with another girl! GOODLUCK!
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I am going to be really harsh here: I've been out with guys like you, and though I didn't cheat on them, whatever they may have thought, but I DID dump them because I couldn't deal with some clingy type who insists on speaking to me every five minutes and won't give me a chance to enjoy myself without him. The ironic thing is that when a guy acts posessive, paranoid and suspicious the temptation to cheat actually becomes stronger a) because you think "well, he suspects me whatever I do anyway, so why don't I just do it?" and b) to get a break from the opressive relationship. What are you doing calling her more than once when she's trying to enjoy herself with friends anyway? I'm not suprised she stopped answering your calls, you were probably ruining her night. Loosen up- I would doubt that your girlfriend was cheating on you, but if you continue to behave like this you may well find you push her into it.
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A good and mature woman wouldn't go out with other guys in the first place. If you are her boyfriend and she is serious with you, she would do whatever it takes to make you feel comfortable in the relationship. There shouldn't be any other men in between you and her in the first place. It's sad how society nowadays makes it look like it's ok when it's not. That's why there's so much mistrust and cheating nowadays. She shouldn't hang out with guys in the first place and you shouldn't hang out with girls. Period. Forget all the immature answers everyone here has entered and listen to this. Trust me. If your girl doesn't agree with this, by all means, dump her and find a good Christian woman who fears God. Let God be the center of your relationship, not man.
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Part 2 answer: Trust me on my answer. I've dated really good girls. In fact, I'm engaged now to a good Christian woman who doesn't drink, or take any illegal substances. We are very happy with each other. Your girlfriend will try to make you feel guilty for feeling uncomfortable with her hanging out with guys. Don't fall into that mind game brotha. Don't believe these players. Find a good mature minded Christian woman and enough with the games. Don't play along. You deserve a good woman who will love you and make you happy. There are women like that in this world. Respect yourself.
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Part 3 answer: People will disagree with my answer - watch! Don't mind them. They'll end up divorced. I know a lot of people who believe the same way I do and they have successful happy marriages.
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I think if you trust her to go out with 3 guys... you should believe her.
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First, why would you keep calling your girlfriend when she's out with friends? I probably would have turned off my phone, too. If you can't trust your girlfriend enough to go out and socialize with other men, then you have greater concerns than whether she's being unfaithful. A healthy relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust and the willingness in letting your partner freely express themselves in their lives. If a night out causes this kind of fear and mistrust, imagine what a real issue might do. I doubt your girlfrend was unfaithful, seeing as she was with a group of people. You two may want to sit down to talk and find ways to increase your faith in the relationship.
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I would say thats a little sketch that she is hanging out with 3 guys, im not saying she cheated on you but calling her a bunch isnt going to help things. I would have a talk with her and tell her that personally you have are not comfortable with her hanging out with a bunch of guys. You cant tell her what to do or control her behavior but you can control yours and that includes dating a girl who is gonna put herself in that situation
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maybe she got sick and tired of you phoning her ,thought you were checking up on her .all my friends are male and i wouldn't like being called all the time by boyfriend when out with them.
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YOur girl was having fun with her friends and she doesn't want to answer your calls .... maybe she want to tell you this but she can't for not making you mad... and if you don't trust you g.f so don't talk to her... you will bring uncertainty in your relationship...
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i think i am the same type guy as you, i know how it feels when your gf is not answering your phone, but i have to tell it everytime i keep calling her, and then she finally answer the phone, only bad thing will happend like you will get yelled and yourself will feel kinda regret about y did you kept on calling her if at the you feel really anger about she is not answer your phone you should play some games like me, that is how i release my anger
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i dont know. do you think she cheated? Sometimes girls just want to get out and have fun and not have to answer to their boyfriend.
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yes u should otherwise itll never work. ive been in your shoes it just pushes the girl away she feels like u dont trust her and it will push her away and prob into someone elses arms in most cases if she ever did do something she would constantly have a guilty feeling. but as long as u show u trust her and are not needy all the time she will come to u. Its just a sign of being insecure with yourself. Go out yourself have fun im a 29 year old guy who was like this constantly but learned from my mistakes theres ways to fix your behavior.
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i wouldnt!
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Why are you stalker-calling her when she is out with her friends? You called her numerous times. There is no reason for that. She stopped answering your calls becasue she was seriously annoyed and just doesn't have the guts to tell you now. Here's a hint. Unless it's an emergency, don't call her when she is out. Otherwise you are a douche.
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women my friend DO CHEAT but not as much.. but they do ...and those @$@#$%.... will lie and cry until you can't stand but to believe them...but with enough will power..you will win the fight and she will tell you she did or not..good luck...
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How many times did you call her? If it was more than once, or twice even - she was totally justified in not answering the calls. It's really annoying when you're out with friends and your phone won't stop ringing. If you knew she was out, and busy with friends, why'd you continue to call her? Keep the phone calls to a minimum - and make sure that if you're interrupting something that the topic of conversation is important (and brief!). Only call her again in an emergency. If you don't make your calls a nuisance, she'll be more likely to answer them.
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I pretty much agree with everything everyone just said. C'mon, shes out with her friends? Why do you need to call her then? Were there any signs of cheating or are you just nervous? She's your girlfriend...trust her.
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Can you say 'self-fulfilling prophesy?' If you harass her when she is not with you, you are only pushing her away and into someone else's arms. Everybody deserves down-time from their main relationship. She was out with friends and deserved to enjoy iy.
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While I agree w/ a lot of these comments about trust, security, etc. let me complicate the issue a little bit. You may also consider the context or the frequency of these events. Since I don't know you or your relationship, this may not apply, but is this a one time isolated event? how often does she hang out w/ her guy friends and ignore your calls? If she's always hanging out w/ her guy friends instead of spending time w/ you then perhaps there's an issue. Also, does she ignore your calls when she's only out w/ the guys or just whenver she's out w/ friends? If that's who she is, then you'll have to accept it, but if not, then maybe... you need to have a talk. I think it's ok to discuss expectations. I think establishing mutual understanding and respect is key to a healthy relationship. my 2cents...
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uhhh well you might be worrying to much but it seems she was drunk cause she cant remember why she didnt call you back? i wouldnt blame her unless it happens several times
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id seat her down ask her did you cheat .and if she says no upset ya no she telling trueth if goes mad screaming abuse at you she lyin. ask her friend if ya still dont belive her
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Pck a winner, Not a looser, Or in some others bed, Your going to loose her.
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She put herself in a good position to cheat and then ignored your phone calls. You don't yet have to determine if she cheated or not. You need to determine if it is worth it staying with a woman who is not interested in proving her faithfulness. I have had women who check up on me and I am not mad at them for it. I want them to feel comfortable,secure and safe. I am willing to accommodate an atmosphere which makes it so that they do not have to worry.
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