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Feminism is about the right to make choices.
If you want men to be high-status breadwinners, that's your prerogative.
I would, however, oppose any attempt to shape law based on that principle.
I believe that feminism used to be about moving towards equality. Today it is my belief that most hard core feminists actually oppose moves towards equality as that would mean equal rights for men, which is something they do not endorse, they are only interested in equal rights when it is of benefit to women.
Inequalities against men, however, are downplayed, outright ignored, or argued to be justified by the twisted rhetoric of hard core feminists who are almost always misandric to the extreme, hence their "hard core" status.
True feminists believe in equal rights for women and men .. with both having the same rights and responsibilities.
I think a successful relationship is where a couple is partners .. having equal say in all decisions. No one should be the "boss". They're both adults should work together towards common goals.
If one person is always "in charge" .. the other can become too dependent or even resentful of the other. That is not the basis for a satisfying, long lasting relationship IMO.
I have long been a staunch advocate of women's rights and I have never been comfortable in a male-dominated society. I have never been able to understand why the word "masculine" should be synonymous with "strong" or "dominant" any more than I can understand why the word "feminine" should be synonymous with "weak" or "submissive". As it happens, I like women who are strong and dominant, but that's my personal choice and the truth of the matter is that either sex can be "strong" or "dominant" and either sex can be "weak" or "submissive". These qualities are all in the mind, not in the genitals. There is no cut-and-dried rule about it, it is whatever the individuals involved feel makes them happiest that really counts, isn't it?
If a couple decides to have kids, I think the woman should stay home to raise them, they are the ones gifted with nourishment. They are the ones with the mental wiring and the toughness to pull it off. Men cannot raise children the way women do, let's never misunderstand that.
If there are no children involved then It's all equal. :)
I'm all about equality.
That's why I hate the middle east by large...... they remind me of our own Christian dark history.
When we burned women for being "witches", it's no better than stoning a chick.
But women aren't omnipotent, they have just as many faults as men do, but seemingly in different areas.
We do compliment each other..... together we barely function
Hard core hell no! You can keep those crazy b****es away from me. To me they ruin what feminism even stands for. I'm good with equal rights but I'm by no means a man hater. :)
I am married, and both my husband and I are equals. I'm not one to take orders well. I've never been the submissive "yes sir" type. It's just not in me.
Having said that, if this is your cup of tea, all the more power to you. It just isn't my thing.
Feminism is about having equal rights as men and making your own choices. If you want your man to be the head of your household then that is a choice you make. So long as you are not suggesting it be made a law I am fine with that. To each their own.
I believe in equal rights so go ahead seduce me. You don't have to try too hard I'm easy.
H to the no! If it were about equality, I would say yes. But, feminism is about misandary and female superiority. If it were about equality, it wouldn't be called FEMinism.
No I don't consider myself a "feminist." I think feminism is one of the most destructive forces in the modern world. But I do consider myself a feminist in some ways: I support women having equal opportunities in the work force and in education. I also am against the objectification of women.
I'm a member of NO MAAM.
I believe that a relationship should be based on equality as well, and no I don't meant that the man should have power over women. All I'm saying is that I don't knock those women that choose to be stay at home wives/ mothers because it seems like that practice is looked down upon in today's society.
I'm all for equality in a relationship and I think a woman should have her own independence, but I also think that men are the head, as that stems from my personal religious beliefs.
I'd state my opinion, but someone's already done it for me.
How can anyone be? With the "ist" on the end the word itself is NOT anything good.
Yes because I choose not to subject myself to mens' power trips.
Yes. I think women should have equal rights. Rights of contract, property rights, voting rights, workplace rights (including maternity leave and equal pay).
For reproductive rights (including access to contraception and quality prenatal care); for protection of women and girls from domestic violence, sexual harassment and rape.
I can see how people who otherwise believe in the equality of women would have an issue with abortion rights, so I'm purposefully leaving that out of the answer.
But I'm against misogyny and any other forms of gender-specific discrimination against women.
Most people, agree with most of these things. Some have issues with the whole reproductive rights, on religious grounds. Some people have issues with things like maternity leave, but on the whole, these are things that not only do a majority of people believe in, but many take for granted.
So to everyone who says "I think equal right for woman are good, but I'm not a feminist and I think feminism is bad"--what on earth do you think feminism is? Not shaving your pits?
Your man can be boss and take charge as a house-husband too you know.
i think youre right but i dont want any man at all
I believe in as much equality between the sexes as biology can allow, which is a Hell of a lot more than there is now. Personally, I don't think I could tolerate some weak-minded woman whom I have to tell what to do and think.
I think that's all fine. However, it really comes down to individual couples, the dynamics of their relationship, and what will work best for them. So, your views sound solid but everyone should guard against rigidity because once you meet someone you really want to be with, flexibility is extremely important.
I think it's fine if, in your relationships, you prefer for your man to be the one in charge. But that's just your personal preference... it doesn't mean that's the natural order of things, it doesn't mean that's how it always "should" be. In my opinion, the person who "should" take charge in a relationship is the one who both partners have agreed will do so. The sex of the person is irrelevant. If you have a strong alpha female married to a shy, introverted guy, then she's probably going to take on the "head of the household" role, and there's nothing wrong with that.
And then you have relationships like mine, where no one is really "in charge". and the duties are pretty evenly divided but not along gender lines. That's what I prefer.
I do support equal opportunity for either/both genders. But, due to cultural development since the beginning to time, and perhaps physical differences, I recognize that there are certain tasks that are best performed by most women and some by most men.
For example, I don't think that most men can perform the noble and critical task of raising children on a moment-to-moment basis, i.e., mother's love, that most women can...and do. And it has long troubled me that this thing called "feminism" has seemingly diminished that amazingly unique gift. My Father could never have achieved that which my Mother did in my early developmental years. And I beleive that to be the case in the vast majority of families worldwide.
Just an opinion.
some men carry the boss thing to far and it goes to they're heads. This happened to my dad he thought since he was provider and head of the house he can become a dictator and rule every aspect of it and it just made us hate him rather than like him. There needs to be a balance and each persons opinions validated. Most women now days say they don't need a man and can make there own money. Then later turn around and get a man.
What is a 21st century housewife?
by Answerbag Staff on December 12th, 2009
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Just about everybody agrees that women earn less than men for the same work. But is it really true?
by Unicorn Man on June 28th, 2011
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Have you ever known a feminist who was angry at most or all men?
by Amorphous Blob on August 6th, 2011
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I feel like I'm always wearing the same thing, I always cover my legs. I don't have sexy legs or remove the hair
by beli.dee on September 25th, 2011
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Is the new transformers film sexist?
by Isaac on July 31st, 2011
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Good answer.
by Gingerminx on October 30th, 2011
I am independent, I have a job, my own car, my own place and pay my own bills, but I don't see myself as weak just because a guy is offering to pay for my dinner or open doors for me.
That's the point I'm trying to make. Some women think that they will be seen as weak just because they have man that is somehow providing for them .
I'm not saying a woman should be dependent on a man, yes sir, no sir or some kind of doormat. I just think that a lot of women nowadays look down on things like that. That was the point I was trying to make, but good answer.
by Anonymous on October 30th, 2011
@jade - There may be "feminists" who view you as weak or giving in to the patriarchy or whatever for letting a man buy you dinner.
But I have also encountered women who would claim the mantle of "feminist" who want equality of opportunity, equality of pay, equality before the law, etc., but also expect that a man will always pay for dinner.
In other words, they want the increased opportunities of feminism, but they also want to maintain whatever privileges women were able to carve out in an admittedly male-dominated society. That's not kosher in my book.
If the guy wants to buy you dinner, and you're OK with the man buying you dinner, I hope you both have a great time. But if you never offer to reciprocate, or give a man grief if he asks that you share mutual expenses, then I'm going to object.
I know that as a society we're going through an adjustment period where we're figuring out how to balance out gender roles. But just as a woman should be allowed to be CEO of a company and not have her decisions questioned as "Oh, she's just PMS-ing today", men should be allowed to be house-husbands or taken out on dates by paying women without encountering derision.
by Old School on October 30th, 2011
Well said, Old School.
by Andy B has left AB on October 30th, 2011
Totally agree Old School.
by Gingerminx on October 31st, 2011
I agree with you too, Old School. Very well-balanced and rational perspective.
by Wombat99 on October 31st, 2011