This am i found my partners trousers on the floor & that the history on the comp had been erased. i know that he has look at porn before & it has caused fights in the past before, & he knows how i feel about it. ive had enough now & don't know what 2 do

This am i found my partners trousers on the floor & that the history on the comp had been erased. i know that he has look at porn before & it has caused fights in the past before, & he knows how i feel about it. ive had enough now & don't know what 2 do

This is simple and has been answered many times and by many experts. Men view porn because they crave visual stimulation, similar to the way women crave emotional connections. It is hard wired into our respective brains. It has nothing to do with you, or how you look or what you do together in bed. It is also perfectly natural and healthy to masturbate even if your sex life is perfectly fulfilling to him. Even men who have partners with extremely high sex drives and who have sex nearly every day will still find alone time to masturbate.

As long as he does not 'chose' porn and masturbating over a healthy relationship with you, and long as you are getting your sexual needs met, and he is not turning down sex with you in and instead sneaking off to masturbate, then it is perfectly natural and normal and COMMON.
It is his duty/obligation/responsibility to keep these activities private.

Most women do not want to walk in on this behavior, or even be reminded or aware of his deeds, so he needs to be more discreet. Demand it. The same way you would demand he closes and locks the door when he is in the bathroom having a bowel movement. If he continues to be open and flagrant, like leaving lotion or used tissues next to the computer, or listening to porn loud enough for you to hear, then he is just a disrespectful jerk, which is a different issue.

Forbidding him to look at porn is not fair, nor will it work. You just force him to lie about it. You need to let it go. It is not about you.

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