Well if you are snooping around in his stuff then that shows a lack of trust that you have for him and if he is cheating on you than that shows that he is not committed to the relationship. with these kind of ingredients mixed in the pot of relationship, disaster will usually be the outcome. but first you have to ask a couple of questions: How long have I known this person? How long have we been together? Is the evidence I found legit? Do I trust this person? If I do then why would I be snooping around In his stuff? Was he trying to hide it from me? As far as coming clean you should tell him what you came across and see if he can justify those things. Watch his body language and eye movement. Men who are caught up usually give themselves away by those things. Overall though? you should come clean and tell him what you did.

You don't "confront" people, as it will be interpreted as hostile behaviour. Nor, in most cases, should you snoop through someone else's personal belongings. Relationships are built on trust. Without trust, there is no relationship. You raise your concerns about his fidelity in a civil manner and see what his response is. If the response is negative or hostile, then you can bring up the subject of why you think he is being unfaithful. If you only "think" he is being unfaithfull *after* you have invaded his privacy, then you do not have sufficient proof one way or the other.

First of all, let me start by saying - you get what you deserve. if you look for something you can't be mad when you find it! second of all, you should have left when you began to have feelings of mistrust instead of waiting around to have some kind of final battle like some kind of lame ass movie. you should have just started packin your stuff and when he asked you what was going on, you should have simply replied " I don't trust you therefore I'm leaving!" nothing else. that's it. no huge arguments, no crying, no guilt, nothing. just leave. I hate people...

I FOUND BLOOD STAINS ON MY FIANCES BOXERS AND THIS HAPPENED SATURDAY MORNING.. HE WAS SLEEPING SO I WENT ABOUT MY BUISNESS AND IT IS NOW MONDAY AND I STILL HAVENT SAID ANYTHING ABOUT IT. I AM DYING INSIDE AND I WANNA TELL HIM AND I KIND OF WANT TO END THIS.. BECAUSE I DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER. THE BLOOD IS DEFINITELY NOT FROM ME BECAUSE OF COURSE I WOULD KNOW IF I BLED WHILE WE WERE HAVING SEX.. AND MEN SURE AS HELL DONT GET THERE PERIOD SO THERE IS NO REASON FOR BLOOD STAINS ON HIS BOXERS. HOW SHOULD I CONFRONT HIM?

Maybe if you come clean, it will inspire him to do the same.

I would come clean. It may stimulate some real communication which could be a way to solve some problems you are having in your relationship.

I would come clean and let him know what you found, what motivated you to look, and how you feel. When you approach him about it make sure you do it calmly. When you add yelling and "extra" emotions to the mix, you get a fight. What you want here is a conversation.

well, maybe, but he is not the one that asked the question. she is. she snooped and therefore she is wrong. the rule is this: if you can't trust someone, then either confront them or break up. if you feel they lied to you, then break up. the main point is (just in case you are so stupid you still can't figure it out) that snooping is in all cases wrong and uncalled for. that's it!! and that lame ass statement one of you made about how women don't look unless they "feel" there is something to find is exactly that, lame as hell. women are emotional creatures, not logical creatures. they will "feel" the need every time he's not looking directly at her. feeling the need does not in any case justify going through someone's private things. and yes things are still private no matter how long you have known or been with that person. let's dumb this down even more for the really stupid people. how would you feel if the government could do what you feel women just do when they "feel" like it. horseshit!!! be a woman and stand up on your hind legs and walk out like you might be worth something for once in your life!!! to everyone else who understands, sorry you had to see that... i'll make it up to you in some other postings...

man oh man I hear and feel ya all. I am in the same spot, I asked about all of the material I found and straight up said I just had to know. Of course he had some lame excuse for every little thing, like the picture I found that had his sweatshirt laying on a chair behind a naked girl in a bed, but he left it in a buddy's car, his friend brought it in the house and later took pictures of some girl he picked up...was the friend also sending the picture to his phone, man I am still with this guy too how stupid am I??? 9 times outta 10 if you "feel" the need to snoop your going to find something...do what I didn't and save yourself the emotional rollercoaster and go...fast...runnn

yes

From what I read of your post what you found was on his person at the time so I wouldn't call that snooping. What I would do is sit him down and tell him you've come across some things that are a little out of the oridinary and you would like to talk about them. Then lay it all out. If he tries to get pissy and make it your fault for "snooping" or that you're nuts remind him that you're in a relationship together and while there is privacy there should never be secracy. It's the secracy that is the issue that lead to any snooping.

If you know for sure do it, if you just think as you say wait for more proof...JMO

You probably had a feeling or else you wouldn't have snopped. So tell him, whats up you have a weird feeling. Or just come clean, tell him you know it was wrong to snoop but thank goodness you did. He's in the wrong, not you.

Why? He hasn't. Dump him.

omg yes. i would but i wouldnt just say hey i know you cheated on me. bla bla bla, i would act smart about it and corner him into telling me himself. ask him smart questions about it. either way if u found out his cheating why are u still around???????

Answer from a guys perspective: Here's what's going to happen. You'll confront him, he'll turn the tables and make the fight over you snooping and not his cheating. Take control of the situation and keep the focus on the cheating. Don't let him make you feel guilty about snooping. I'm assuming the only reason you snooped is because he gave you reason to suspect something. Be strong, cheating is horrible and should not be tolerated!!! So to answer your question... Confront him about the cheating, get that out in the open first. Then come clean about the snooping, if necessary.

No. You should just break up with him, avoid the drama and find a guy who will treat you better.

hi i no who u are and yeshe has cheated coz he cheated with me im realy sorry yes he did make me bleed now i am pregnant i am realy sorry its bin going on for a bout 3 mounths now and im 2 mounths pregnant with his baby

I would get rid of him without an explanation.If he has any intelligence,he will know why.I don't think you owe him anything.Good luck ;)

If you only THINK your boyfriend is cheating on you rather than KNOWING than you need to compile some more concrete evidence in order to confront him. Generally if you have suspicions your more than likely going to uncover something. The last thing you want to do is confront him without having proof. You will give him the ability to make up some story and try and turn it around on you for snooping through his personal stuff. I understand relationships are built on trust, but if you feel he has violated your trust than you have the right to "snoop". Do not confront him until you have solid proof that can not be manipulated. Good luck and hopefully I helped you out. If not feel free to visit my site at http://www.thecheaterdetective.com I have some free videos on how to help you do some detective work on your own to uncover the truth. Chase