I've been talking to a man online and on the phone for awhile now and we have plans to meet up. We click very well, but I see he sent his pic to a woman and seems to enjoy the attention he gets from posting pics online also. Should I even bother?

Hi,
thank you for taking the time to answer. We have discussed this. He wants to have a relationship, so I know that. I know we arent dating yet so it's not even a matter of being jealous. It's just that I have seen small things like this before with other people and I chose to ignore them, because I thought I was overreacting, but it turns out they were red flags and I realized later on that I should have followed my gut. At the same time I don't want to pass up a good thing. He makes it clear he doesnt like if I send my pic out, and thats not something I normally do anyway. I just feel if youre planning to meet someone and have plans to see eachother, it's kind of messed up to send shirtless pictures to someone else and obviously seek attention from other women online that's visible to me. Not sure what to do.

Only if oyu want ot get your heart broken. I say Run, this guy is a womanizer. Last guy I dated I met from the Internet the same way and he was flirting with all kinds of women there, but claimed I was the one he wanted. Well needless to say we hooked up and even ended up living together. Thought everything was fine, until I found out he was still communicating with the other women from the Internet by email and phone. Told him I didn't like it and wanted him to stop. He agreed, but lied and kept on and some he had already met and slept with before me. It Really hurt. He is gone today by his choice unexpected, so I suspect he ran off with one of them. Don't trust him girl. He's up to no good when they need that much attention from the opposite sex. If He was really happy with you he would only have eyes for you.

To meet as a friend is ok . To have a serious relationship NO.

No

Have you talked about what each of you are looking for in a relationship? If you feel a connection and are interested in meeting him in person, this is something you could ask him. It sounds as though things are in the very initial stages, and though he is contacting other women online now, that may change if an in-person relationship is established. I would tread cautiously. If he is just into chatting to and meeting multiple women from the internet, this is not a hard thing for him to hide. If you meet him and things go well, still do not ignore signs he has not stopped the online thing. There are usually red flags. Please make sure you meet him in a safe public spot if you do meet. It is a good idea to let someone know what you are doing and where you are going. Lots of great relationships have started online, but there are still some dangerous people lurking around on there. Good luck!