Why wont my boyfriend watch porn wiht me? i told him i want to watch it wiht him and i like it. instead he masterbates and watches it at home, denying it to me. he says he loves me nd he cares about me then y is he hiding it 4rom me. when i like it to?

Lust is not love, and neither is infatuation. It is most likely that your boyfriend genuinely loves you and respects you and doesn't want to include that into the relationship because it will destroy it, it's not healthy. If you actually love someone you respect them in every way even sexually.

Actually, looking at porn is very destructive. You can't possibly keep looking at it and not get addicted, it's just not possible. It's one of those things where the more you have it the more you want it. Also, people will tell you that it is good for your body, but I would argue there are other things to consider, like your sense of morality (spirit?) and your brain. Look up the chemical effects, it's really not good. The chemicals from making love are quite different than the neurotoxins that are released when lusting at porn. It is an insatiable appetite. Looking at it will only fuel the need for it later because it works much like heroin and is almost impossible to break the habit of. It actually kills the receptors of the happy chemicals in your brain like heavy drugs do and you form a dependency, and that is where addiction comes from. If you keep looking at porn, you will be addicted at some point. The reason why so many people indulge further into hardcore porn is because the shock value and pain releases more endorphins and dopamine to sate your pleasure causing the next viewing to require more and more and more of the chemicals to arouse you and make you feel somewhat happy and normal after, but it isn't a lasting effect and will fade away quickly because you have damaged the receptors in your brain. To feel normal and happy without porn after addiction you have to not view it for months to rebuild those damaged receptors. Over time it's also hard to resist lusting because those neurotoxins shrink your frontal lobe (right and wrong, or moral part of your brain) if you start looking at porn.

I use to be addicted and I educated myself.

Educate yourself. candeocan.com

I'm not telling you to sign up, I didn't... just listen to the podcasts, they are incredible and easy to understand.

Bottom line, no matter what people tell you, porn is not for serious relationships or for people who say they love each other. Porn is disrespectful.

From a mans perspective, he is afraid to open up fully to u right now. Maybe hes afraid of what u may think of him etc.. Ask him to masterbate in front of u & u do the same for him.. jagg him off while watching some porn. make him feel sexually free with u. give him head with porn on... these types of things will make it ok for him