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susanella
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deal with some stuff, don't with others I HATE my neighbor, but he's my only ride to school besides the bus
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First I want to say that I'm not able to do this myself, but I think it's the right answer. Don't give them power over you by letting their mere presence get you all angry, stressed and stirred up inside. They won't know they're upsetting you, but if you feel like that when you are around them, they ARE exerting a kind of control. If you have to talk to them, remind yourself to use a neutral, controlled tone of voice. And be careful to keep your statements and questions free of words -- especially adjectives -- that could trigger a bad response from the person. If you have to work together, just be businesslike and don't assume the other person is trying to sabotage your work (unless it's true). That's about all I can say without knowing why you hate the person.
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Be super professional, like "I'm just here right now to do what I'm doing." If they try to act friendly, treat them like you hate them, but then stop when they stop. If someone else wants to state a personal opinion about them, feel free to give yours. Some people like to act pleasant and carry on anyway, but if you truly hate this person, you're betraying the values that they betrayed to win your hatred. If you try to keep it inside yourself, the resentment will kill your self-esteem.
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Pretend like you dont care. Make small talk. Talk to them but not a lot. Never act mad about anything they do.
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I will let go of the feeling... it is very energy consuming to hate... and difficult to hate for too long anyway
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Comparmentalize your hate and hide it until you have a chance to kill them. lol! Serious answer: Stop hating them. They're human. Pity them.
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change your hate to anger and work it out at the gym.
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Realize that YOU are the problem.
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Give them 'good-face' but make minimal conversation, if any at all. Eg. Family Member
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i remain professional, go to work, do my job and leave.
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it is very hard to be worthy of my hate... vandals and slavers are the only people who can generaly claim to have my hate. however slavers encompases more than just people who hold guns to other peoples heads and say "dig". slavery by education exists on the UT/AZ border where fundies deny daughters the ability to know what life outside the compound has to offer. and then there is economic slavery which has gripped america so tightly that people can't quit their second job because neither pays well enough to support them, economic slavers being the 7+ figure executives who's employees can't afford to live on 40 hours per week. I, like many americans, work for my enemy.... who should also be declared enemy of the state because their economic stripmining efforts have destroyed the american economy. low wages are not the result of a poor economy.... they are the CAUSE of it.
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Look through them, continue with your day, and think of your favorite song. I am reminded of a quote, yet unfortunately I have forgotten who it's by...(feel free to remind me if you know) I'll paraphrase it: If you hate someone, the only person it hurts is you, because they probably don't know it, and they probably don't care.
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That's why you should never date someone you work with!:):)
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In the practice of tolerance, one's enemy is the best teacher.
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what u do is this: when there next to u but talking to someone and not paying attention whisper i hope you grow old and dye alone or i wish i could slap the crap out of u right now if he/she turns around look the other way or say what?
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Well what I do is talk the person's ear off, so it's like every time we run into eachother she has to deal with me talking and talking and talking until finally she's the one trying to avoid me. :-)
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Can't beat them..join them! It works out besides I do not hate it's too much negative energy...it can drain you!
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I just don't like them for doing me wrong so bad! I work with my ex and 2 of my ex close friends aha! I just in there do my job. I hear people that smack about all the time u just have 2 remember this is just work just work no one fucks with my chedder!! Lol smile be happy like nothing has ever happend trust me its hard but why get all worked up over people that are nothing worth nothing they just fed off makeing other missibral!
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Define "have to see".
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Not an easy one. Maybe work on moving the hatred to indifference. Easier for you on the emotions.
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:) Grin & bare it! :(
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I ask God to help me love them and I make an effort to love them.
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Try your best to ignore them and trash on them whenever you can get away with it.
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