It sounds like your problem has less to do with age difference and more to do with communication. If you wonder why he's with you, your best bet would be to ask him. The same goes for taking you seriously. Since you apparently have not asked him these things, there must be something stopping you from doing so. What is that thing stopping you? Are you worried that he may tell you what you want to hear just to keep you around for a while? If so, then you have a trust issue, and you should think about why you don't trust him--does he act trustworthy? Has he been trustworthy in other past relationships? Bottom line is that there is a communication gap between the two of you. If you are serious about the relationship, then you must establish clear communication or it will not work!

Were you thinking about him when you were four? He was 18 then, too! It's too big. What can a teenager have in common with a 30 something anyway. Stay within a reasonable gap. Maybe 2 years down to 5 years up. 16-23.

There is an 11 year age gap between my husband and I, and I was 19 when we met, so I know that relationships with big age differences CAN work out. However, based on the things you're worrying about, I think that YOU may have a problem with the gap. If you two are serious, the age difference shouldn't really matter. It never did with my husband and me--we rarely have trouble seeing eye to eye, and when we don't, it has nothing to do with him being older than me. It IS possible that he takes you seriously, and that he cares about you, and wants to be with you for reasons other than being able to brag about his hot young thang. Obviously I don't know either of you personally, though, so I can't say any of those things are for sure. If you feel that you're mature enough to be with someone so much older, you need to sit down and have a serious conversation with him, not only about the worries you mentioned but about the trust issue you seem to have, as well. Also ask HIM how he feels about the age difference. He may not be honest with you, but all you can do is ask. If you're concerned he doesn't take you seriously, and he doesn't make it clear WHY he's with you or that he cares about you very much, I'd say dump him. In a good relationship, these things shouldn't really be issues once you get beyond the first few weeks together. If you two aren't meant to be, it shouldn't have a whole lot to do with the age difference.

My question would be, not regarding if he takes you seriously, but why is he dating you and not someone closer to his own age. This doesn't sound healthy to me. If you were 25 and he was 39, it would still be weird, but would be a little better.

Yes, it is possible. Anything is possible. I think you should be cautious, though. Look at his actions. They will give you the answer. Does he take you seriously? Does he ask your opinion on things? Does he show interest in what you think, how you think, and what is important to you? Does he make choices giving your feelings the same consideration as his own? This will tell you more than anyone on this site ever could.

He is super freakin stoked that he gets to sleep with an 18 year old every night. Yes, he is a perv practically a child molestor. I can understand about a 5 year age gap, but 14 years difference? Are you serious? He is trying to re-live his adolescent years again. I'm willing to bet that he constantly checks out your friends, too. Well, if they are "hot", that is. He actually is old enough to be your father. Would you sleep with your father? I DOUBT IT!!!

yes it is posible that he cna take yu seriously! my boyfriend is 24 yrs older than me and i feel he takes me very seriously!! we are in love and we've been together since 07...and we still feel like we just met!! ...

dont worry about it hun i am 17 going out with a 33 year old alls he wants is too look after you protect you and treat you like a princess so enjoy life and be glad your with someone who loves you because thats all that matters!!!