I'm a straight A student on my way to law school and I make one mistake by getting a piercing without my mom's permission. My mom is freaking out like I'm doing drugs and I'm this rebellious child. Is she overeacting or just being a mom?
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without your moms permission? how old are you? seems like you have done pretty well with your life so far.. and it is your body not hers
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I think she is just being a mom
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being a mom
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Underage means mommy is boss.
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Probably a little of BOTH ... Let it go and she will calm down and forget about it .... +5
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It depends on where the piercing is. Well, your mom was just looking after her daughter. Talk to her and explain your side. And no hostility, just two grown ups discussing a problem. Show her your maturity.
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She is the mother of an intelligent son who did an idiotic thing.
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If you're 18 fine, she's overreacting. If under, naughty!!! lol. just being a mom
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My mother is just as crazy as yours...maybe even a little more. Yes, your mother is nuts and overreacting.
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Sounds like she's over-reacting, but for a good reason. Your 16 and your mom is still the boss. And peircings can leave scars forever. When you turn 18 then your responsible for your body and then you can make those decisions.
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why would any one want to punch holes in their body and hang ornaments on a wire. wow you talk about stupid that is. but go for it i don't care i won't do my body that way. thats why this is my body and that one is yours. i don't need trinkets hanging off me to inhance my beauty,i am pretty just as i am.
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If you are young enough that your mom can give your crap about a piercing, isn't it a little early to say that you are "on [your] way to law school"? Maybe you can say, I plan on going to law school after I graduate high school and finish college, but "on my way" has a much different connotation.
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She is being a mom, and overreacting because of it. You are her daughter, and obviously fairly young. You will make mistakes she hopes you never will, she may try to prevent that by "freaking out", as you say. Right or wrong, she always will have more life experience than you, no matter what. And it is not that she does not understand, she just may not want to see her girl make the same mistakes she may have made. And if you can't talk to her right now, so be it. Have your fights, yell all you want, BTW, I got my first tattoo very early, she hated it then. I am in my 30's now, and I hate it too...
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Both. She might be over reacting a little but she's also trying to be a really good mom and thank your lucky stars you have a mom like that. So many don't care and don't make the effort. There are negative effects to piercings that teens don't always think through before they get them. Best thing to do is to talk to your mom about doing these things before you do them. If she says no, ask for her reasons (calmly and listen, really listen without arguing)hopefully, she'll let you explain your reasons for wanting it. But remember if she says no, to respect that decision and realize when you live on your own you will be able to do it then. It may seem like a lifetime to wait but in reality the years you spend at home are short and chances are, by the time you're on your own, it may not seem so cool anymore and you may change your mind and be glad you waited. Remember most of all that she loves you and every decision she makes regarding you is done out of that love.
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Accept responsibility; you admitted in your question that you made "one mistake". Accept what you mother has stipulated as the consequences and know that it is better to have a parent that cares then to have one who takes on interest in what you do at all.
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Yes. She is being both. It's right in her job description. : )
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She's being a mom and part of her job is to let you know when she thinks you are making a mistake. Just be cool. She'll get over it shortly.
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While it is her job to protect you, she is overreacting. Given the number of kids that are on drugs or pregnant, she is lucky that you only engaged in one rebellious act. As long as there are no consent laws in your state regarding piercings for underage youth, you haven't done anything illegal. Unfortunately, because you have been a very studious, obedient child, even the smallest mistakes will seem very bad in comparison with your sterling silver reputaiton. The best thing you can do now is apologize to your mom, ask for her forgiveness, and just get the piercing redone when you are able to live on your own.
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Why did you not ask for permission, and what did you get pierced?
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Maybe she overreacted a little. But you're not in law school yet, so don't count your chickens and listen good to your ma.
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I don't like piercings but mom may be overreacting a bit here. If you have finished college You are old enough to mutilate yourself if you want to. Hopefully it is not where people can see it. You are heading into a profession that does not hold piercings and tattoos in high regard.
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