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by anonymous on September 27th, 2009
In the early stages of recovery, anything that takes your mind off recovery jeopardizes it. Sex certainly does that.
Another way to look at it is that preying on the newly sober is not very sober behavior.
Which country are having lots of alcohol in order to forget their worries in the world?
by xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx on January 15th, 2011
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So if alcohol makes you sleep, and sleeping is good for your health.. that makes alcohol good for your health, riiiiight?
by Dio_G on September 7th, 2011
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Are there any alcoholics out there who find themselves dulled and life too boring without drink and how do you beat the feeling?
by Dexterdamuz on July 19th, 2010
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Which country comsumes lots of alcohol in the world?
by xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx on December 5th, 2010
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How began the tradition of AA members introducing themselves by their name and stating that they are alcoholic?
by existence on September 10th, 2010
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I don't think 13th stepping is good, or wise, but I'm trying to understand what principle it violates if it's two consenting adults. There are so many ways to jeopardize our recovery, why is this one unique?
The reason I ask is because I don't think it is selfish manipulation all the time (for instance, if it were two naive newcomers, as opposed to someone with time taking advantage of a newcomer.) In those circumstances, it doesn't seem as manipulative and selfish to me.
by Sir yhvhash on September 28th, 2009
Newcomers are unbalanced, and 99% of the time, they don't know what's best for them. 13th Stepping just enhances the unbalance instead of helping to even things out.
I'm not sure there's a principle of the program that's being violated.
by anonymous on September 28th, 2009
Thanks for your time, that was a very good answer. It will help me when sponsees inevitably question the suggestion.
by Sir yhvhash on September 28th, 2009