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by Millenium - The Mysterious M. . . GONE! on September 24th, 2009

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I've never understood how "abused" children grow up to be abusers themselves! Don't they REMEMBER how hurtful emotional, mental and physical pain is? Wouldn't they NOT want to do that to someone else; ESPECIALLY their OWN CHILDREN?

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  • by Eileen on September 24th, 2009

    Eileen

    Your theory does make sense but remember a child that is abused in life only knows abuse. Just like a child growing up in a loving understanding compassionate home knows that. It's a cycle, not true for all but for the majority it is a cycle that is known.

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  • by Brian I on September 24th, 2009

    Brian I

    I think it's based on learned behaviour - the only type of behaviour they know intimately.

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  • by stagood on September 24th, 2009

    stagood

    What you say makes sense, they don't all do that, I know I don't. You hear about the bad ones...+5

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  • by Sir yhvhash on September 24th, 2009

    Sir yhvhash

    Remember that abuse victims have different ways of coping with their abuse. One way is to believe that they deserved it. That belief makes abuse a legitemate action for those who do the same things the victim has done.

    A similar thought process views abuse as a beneficial part of making the victim who they are today. I "positive" outlook that only thinks "positively," even about negative things.

    I certainly don't justify abuse or hold guiltless any that perpetrate it - but a modecum of understanding is helpful when considering these things.

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