If you thought your significant other of 4 years whith whom you live, was going to dump you soon, what would you do? Would you sit around and wait for it to happen and see if you are right? Would you dump them first? Would you be the one to bring it up?
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Penny The Wise
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If I had the privelage to be with someone for 4 years, I would definately bring it up first. I don't care about all the other stuff (pride, being embarassed, getting feelings hurt etc.)4 years is too long to let it all go.
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If you've been together four years but are thinking like this it's possible there's no dumping to be done. Trying to decide whether you should dump before you get dumped is a tactic assessment. If I was in love with my partner and thought I was about to be dumped I'd be heartbroken, I wouldn't be trying to figure out tactics, I'd be trying to work out if I could save my relationship. It sounds like you're as fed up as he is. If you're in a bit of a war perhaps you need to have an honest heart to heart about whether either of you want to carry on, and if you do how you're going to get out of this state of mind about the relationship.
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i would probaly whait a little while and c there behavior, depending on that i would bring it up or brake up. if u dump them and u were wrong people would get hurt for no reson but a stupid suspition
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I would talk to him. These types of things need to be discussed in a relationship.
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Seems like you've already decided ending it is best. Are you sure you're not just looking for an excuse?
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if it was me i would be taking note of their behaviour for a while and see how they acted around me. i certainly wouldnt dump them first because you may be jumping to conclusions and u have been together a long time so would be a shame to throw it away over a misunderstanding. if i noticed strange behaviour i would then talk about it
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I'd wait it out and/or bring it up. I've been in relationships where it's hard to tell what's going to happen... Where the other seems to want to break up, but when confronted on it, they say otherwise. I was in one of those for a very long time before it finally broke up, when she could give me a reason. It's really a sign of insecurity in a relationship when you are worried about this. If you have real reasons, then it's quite possible they might. If not, and you're just worried, you COULD push them away. Be VERY careful here, if you wish to remain in the relationship. Then again, you ask if you should "dump" them first, rather than "break up". That means you've been thinking about it. Do YOU have valid reasons for doing so? Are you SURE you want to be in this relationship? If you wish to remain in it, bring up that you feel you're growing apart and you fear they wish to break up with you soon. Ask them. If they say, yes... Then you know. If not, then you have a decision to make, don't you?
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I would bring up your fears with them and ask them if your assumptions are correct, also ask them why.
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IF you believe that there is a problem in your relationship that is going to cause your s/o to LEAVE and/or break up with you ; OF COURSE , you TRY to get them to sit down and discuss it with you .... IF you really care about the relationship and want to SAVE it .
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Yes, I would bring it up. I don't do limbo very well.
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