Have you ever had 'rape fantasies'? (Either victim or aggressor) Did you keep it to yourself or share them with your partner? How did s/he react?

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• This is the kind of answer I was looking for. A healty fantasy life, I feel, is key in a realationship.

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  by Wickels on March 23rd, 2007

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• thats why it's a 'fantasy', big difference between acting it out and actually doing it to someone who doesnt want it

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  by altgirl84 on March 23rd, 2007

• The actual act most often started out as a fantasy and is acted upon when the fantasy no longer satisfies. Why would anyone WANT to imagine themselves subjecting (or being subjected) to forcible rape? Downrate all you please people..I am not into taking an act of love and turning into an act of degradation, control and humiliation. And it says a hell of a lot about someone who is.

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  by Jade on December 19th, 2007

• I'm sorry you feel that way, but it says nothing about the person. That's unfair to put that kind of judgement on people; I know people who are incredibly moral, honest, considerate, ethical, etc who are into very deep dark sexual things. I can keep reiterating it over and over, it's the 'fantasy' not the reality, I posted another answer on this to another question, you should check it out. I'm sorry if you ever had an experience of it in reality and for someone who has I can totally understand them not wanting to go near it as a fantasy, because (my point exactly) it's too close to reality for them. As long as the participants involved are not hurting each other and it's all consensual, there's nothing wrong with it.

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  by altgirl84 on December 19th, 2007

• I came across this question following a stream of questions relating to child rape. Eg; Have you ever wanted to rape a child? Anything concerning rape is upsetting to me because I know how it feels, but that REALLY upset me. Maybe I was being a bit harsh and judgemental, I did not DR any of the other responses even though I didn't agree with them.

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  by Jade on December 19th, 2007

• What really upset you, my comment or the child rape thing? And I didn't say I down rated anything. And like I said, my sympathies/apologies to you for having experience with it and I understand your view. I just don't like it when people judge others because of things like views/preferences/fantasies, etc. To each is own, people heal their own ways.

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  by altgirl84 on December 19th, 2007

• To be honest, it was probably the child rape thing. I wasn't accusing you of the DR, there is no way of knowing who did it unless they come right out and tell you. Anyway, this is an old question and mine was an old answer I had moved on. I would have forgotten about it if I hadn't just got another neg and your old comment. Merry Christmas (or Holidays if that is your preference) to you and yours. :-)

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  by Jade on December 19th, 2007

• Thanks so much :) I appreciate it. I'm glad you were able to move on from it and I respect all your opinions. I hope you have a great holiday as well, take care :)

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  by altgirl84 on December 19th, 2007

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