by Babigurl09 on March 19th, 2007

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Im 15 and he is 19 turning 20 in May, he says wait till im 18 and hes 22 cuz it sounds better, we promised to not be with anyone else till then..i think its a good point...would you wait?

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by unknown on April 14th, 2007
Yes it is a good idea to wait. You are too young to be in a relationship, especially with someone so much older than you are. You will change a great deal in the next few years and you can't say what you will be like in 3 years.
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by Redhawk on April 14th, 2007
Oh YES! I "thought" I was all grown up and knew "it all" at 16 simply because I was graduating at 17..skipped 11th grade..my Dad died when I was 16 and since my Mom didn't drive I had to assume A LOT of responsibility, getting her to work, me to school, helping around the house, grades kept up and so on...I really thought I was an adult because I had SOME adult responsibilities!

I was very in love with my B/F who was 4 years older than me. We were both virgins, we decided NOT to wait. In some ways I have no regrets, we became sexual when I was 16, engaged when I turned 18 and married when I was 20. The marriage lasted a whole 5 years. Then, due to things not being what I THOUGHT THEY SHOULD BE...I left him for another man...

The point is that at your age, there are many life experiences you have yet to go through, to learn from, to experience! We all change, most of us are changing continuously as we grow, experience life and age...BUT...as we grow, we also learn how to better negotiate, how to get what we need without taking away from our relationships in ways that HARM ourselves and those we profess to love.

My Ex and I are still friends, pretty good friends, considering we now live about 3000+ miles apart, but anytime I'm in San Diego, he always makes time to get together with me, and we hang out some, go out to eat, talk and catch up on stuff...but what if we had done things differently in the beginning? We might still be together now...I'm happy now, I have a good life, a loving partner, family...but I sure will never know what alternative life I might have had...that's gone.
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by Jade on March 19th, 2007
There is nothing at all wrong with waiting. I think it is probably a very good decision. I wish I HAD waited.
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by bagless77 on March 19th, 2007
I would certainly say that I would wait and have said this in the past. Unfortunately, hon, the chances of you guys not being interested in other people in 3 years is quite unlikely. Live your life.
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by puppylover on March 19th, 2007
Yes I would wait at 15 you have plenty of time for making good decsions and it sound like you are on a good start.
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by Tex on May 20th, 2008
No. Waiting is going to kill you. In those 3 years, he'll have changed so much, as will you, and y'all might be worlds apart. It definitely would be better, (and legal) if you were 18 and he was 22, but he, in the mean time needs to find someone his own age, as well as you too, need to look for someone closer to your age. Also, you're just 15. You shouldn't be worrying yourself to death over a guy just yet. You should be out having fun with your friends. I wouldn't make such a HUGE promise because that is a LOT of time in between and you both are so young your minds will change so much in that time.

Good luck.
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by emo kitty on May 20th, 2008
i think that if you should just go for it because if you really like this guy you would want to stay with him not wait just so that he could get tired of waiting for a realationship with you that he just gives up and finds someone else then your just screwed then and because you did like him alot then its just going to hurt you
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by Sandra havent been here since forever on May 20th, 2008
yes i think this is a good idea and you two could remain friends but i dont know about the whole not seeing anyone eles because usually guys cant always do this plus you need some experience with other guys your own age but if you guys think you can make it for 3 years then i say go for it, if he lasts you'll know he really cares for you and if not maybe you'll learn who he really is
i am 20 turning 21 and my fiance is 23 turning 24 and we have a great relationship i am much more mature now but when i met him when i was 18 i still gave it some time to get to know him as a friend first to see if he was worth having me and then after a year i knew that he was
good luck to you and your guy
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by Anonymous on May 20th, 2008
Its a great idea to wait... but I am not sure that keeping a three year promise is such a good thing. A lot of things happen in that time frame. I would play it by ear.
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by casspandra on May 20th, 2008
Absolutly, and if you both make it you will know he was worth the wait.
But just for making responsible decisions I'll let you off a bit.I think 17 and 21 sounds ok.
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by Babigurl09 on April 14th, 2007
i didnt mean wait for sex i meant wait to have a relationship with him!!
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by Sheriff Raff -Answerhag on April 14th, 2007
Grow up first, all a boyfriend will do is knock you up and saddle you down with a kid.
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by thats.just.me on April 14th, 2007
i would wait in the sense that i wouldn't do anything with other people, but i would broaden my horizons a little just to make sure that i had the right guy, and i wasn't making a mistake.
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by Halskiisaklink on April 14th, 2007
Not if my partner doesn't want to.
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by purelife on April 14th, 2007
Why wait? I am currently right now witnessing the same situation. is it so wrong to go out with someone that is 4-5 years older than you?
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- It is when one of the people is only 15.
  
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  by unknown on April 14th, 2007
- And? I don't see whats wrong being with someone you love. I thought that Love shouldn't be judged by how much age difference 2 people has, it was suppose to be how much these two love each other. No?
  
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  by purelife on April 14th, 2007
- No. If that were true then there would be no reason an adult couldn't be with a child. The difference between the maturity of a 15 year old and an 18 year old is very big. It only gets bigger the farther apart the age difference is. When you are a teenager it doesn't appear to be that way; but, as you get older you begin to realize that there is a vast difference between a 15 year old and a 18, 19, or 20 year old.
  
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  by unknown on April 14th, 2007
- So...are you saying that there will be no future between a 15 & a 19 years old?
  
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  by purelife on April 14th, 2007
- I'm saying that it is very unlikely that a person of 15 will still want the same things when they are older. It is just how it is.
  
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  by unknown on April 14th, 2007
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by Ankhorite on March 19th, 2007
Yes, absolutely, wait. It's a good test of your relationship, and it gives your body and your heart a chance to catch up to your plans.

It's a really good plan. Just hold off; this spares both of you so much worry about contraception and other choices you really don't have the resources to make right now. :)
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by Anonymous on March 19th, 2007
Yes I would wait if he truly loves you he will wait for you.
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by Tinkabelle on March 19th, 2007
Yes, I'd wait- but not because he thinks it's a good idea and you think it's a good point. Above all else, you should WANT to wait until you know for sure that you're ready.
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by singwell-is off researching a lot on March 19th, 2007
yes, wait...a lot can happen in three years.
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by brainsick_cow on March 19th, 2007
no
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by justme32 loves the weekends on March 19th, 2007
If it was true love, yes I would wait.
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