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. I told my good friend about my problems with cutting myself and he suggested that he will cut himself infront of me just to see how much it will hurt me and to see how much pain i feel because thats how he feels when i do it Is that a good or bad idea?

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by Sharona Magic loves the hungry on Sep 16, 2009 at 11:26 pm Permalink

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It is a ridiculous idea. If you cannot experience pain for yourself properly, his cutting himself is not going to do anything positive. If anything it is a very dysfunctional manner of showing friendship and just as goofy as anything I've ever heard of. You both need counseling big time.
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Avatar NickX2 Sep, 17 2009 at 09:05 AM
Sharona, I just wanted to avoid giving them lectures and unwarranted advice. Like they're going to listen anyways. You ARE totally correct, but it's the standard, default response. When one has been in the mental health system as long as I, sometimes you just get burned out. Drilling the basics into these kids IS important, and is a kind helping hand, but, big but (no pun) I'm offering a strong shoulder, of the two of us maybe you are the more responsible one. But what can I say. Thanks, I do believe you showed a lot of restrain in not outright critice me. -NickX2
Avatar NickX2 Sep, 17 2009 at 02:12 PM
I'm glad about the job, yea! I've been luckky enough to like every job I've ever had and left. It's the people who annoy me most and cause problems. Oh and yes, I had to run, that's why late post. Are you annoyed w/ the mental illness crowd? I avoid the worst like the plague, or at least the ones w/ social problems. the worst I can stand. The best I love dearly.
Avatar Sharona Magic loves the hungry Sep, 18 2009 at 08:15 PM
Why would I criticize you? You didn't say anything terrible. I can't imagine your job. You must be overwhelmed. Three quarters of the nation is mentally ill and I mean than sincerely. There is no way to take care of everyone. I don't think I could do it. I'm too empathetic. I don't mean I'm so concerned about everyone that I'm a martyr, I mean that I pick up bugs from other people. I used to be a massage therapist and I had to quit because when I worked on people, I would get sick. I would pick up everything about them and it wore me out. I didn't know how to properly ground myself around other people.

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by gtravels loves her life penguin on Sep 16, 2009 at 11:24 pm Permalink

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Sounds like his heart is in the right place. Hopefully he's just trying to make a point that you can get without his having to go to that extreme.
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by NickX2 on Sep 16, 2009 at 11:35 pm Permalink

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I kind of like this guy, not the best idea in the World, but the Heart is in the right place. No, you do feel pain: emotional and physical, you might be trading one for the other. Highly emotional, might even say irrational decision but the situation is so messed up it can almost go no further. I shouldn't give you ideas but the wrong cut, in the wrong place, at the wrong time can do you in good. Emotional scars can be controlled and fade to the background, your physical scars will last for, well forever. You want to go in t-shirts or to the beach sometime in the future? At least he didn't lecture you like somepeople here. So it's not the worst reaction. One more thing, plan a trip to Disneyland before anything else happens
:-) bring him along
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by Kensum1 on Sep 16, 2009 at 11:27 pm Permalink

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Lots of problems here.

First you need to determine why you are cutting yourself and stop. I am sorry but there is no need for it, I promise you someone has it far worse than you do, and if you do not believe me, come to ALabama, I will show you.

Your friend should not cut themseleves either, but that is just my view. Your friend obviously is a very good friend, just talk to him or her about what is going on, and fix it. If it is not a fixable problem, then move on. I can assure you your life was not as bad as mine growiing up and I have done nothing but learn from my experinces. You need to rise up to the challenge, and be a better person for it. Cutting your self will not solve anything.

I really wish I knew the feeling of wanting to cut my self so I could help you here but, I do not. I feel like that would make me a weak person and there are not very many emotions that make me feel really bad, but if I feel like I failed my self, I feel horrible.
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