A guy who dumped you when somebody else came along? No, I wouldn't want a boyfriend or a friend like that. If I were you I would just say thanks, but no thanks. Therefore, you don't have to worry about how you act around him. Plus, his new girlfriend might not take kindly to you being friends with him. This is nothing but a lot of trouble. He doesn't really seem to know what he wants and you don't need to get tangled up in his mess. Move on. Hope this helps :)

If you want to stay friends and you think you can be just friends, then stay friends. You don't need to complicate things. Just because he broke up with you for someone else doesn't make him a bad person and doesn't make him someone you shouldn't be friends with. Should you only be friends with a guy after a break if he becomes a monk and never has another relationship? No, of course not. The point of relationships is to get to know people. Get to know them, if you are incompatible, then fine, get to know more people...it's fun and a great learning experience.

No, don't stay friends with him. He said you can still be friends for two reasons: 1. He feels bad and said you can still be friends, not to hurt you more, or 2. He wants to stay friends in case things don't work out in his new relationship. He'll always have you to fall back on (until the next one). Don't put yourself in this situation. Now more than ever, it's imperitive to step back and let him feel how life would be without you. Also, showing him you don't need him, will make him respect you. I recommend reading either "The Rules" or "He's Just Not That Into You". I read both after my last breakup - and feel more in control and never felt better about myself. Self-Respect, Dignity and High Self-Esteem is crucile for women (especially this day and age). If this guy by any chance is your destiny - HE HAS TO COME BACK TO YOU!

Honestly I've had the "friend" conversation over the past two relationships and it doesn't really mean they want to be friends. It is just something they say so they don't feel as guilty for leaving you/breaking up with you. Both times I agreed to be friends and I ended up being the one to call and to invite them out for "friendly drinks" which they always accepted but then found an excuse to cancel. I started feeling like a stalker. The last one called me a couple of months after the "friend" conversation - he had said he wanted to be friends because he was no good at relationships and didn't want to date any one ever again. Anyway, his call was to explain to me why he wasn't keeping his end of the "friend" bargin - because he was seeing someone new. Don't waste your time. You can't go back to a friendship once you've been romantic with someone.

I think the important thing is to decide how you feel about the relationship. If it ended badly, but you are truly able to forgive, or it ended amicably, if you are able to support your ex in their new relationship, than a friendship seems possible. But being honest with yourself is key. If you are pursuing the friendship to stay close in case the new realtionship ends, and frees your ex up, you should cut your losses and rely on your current friends for support and comfort. Good luck!

I hate to tell you this, but it sounds as though he's looking for a back up plan in case this other girl doesn't work out. I've seen this before. Don't carry hard feelings toward him or anything but move on. If he had broken up with you THEN started seeing someone else afterwards then it would be a different story, but he broke up with you for this girl so that could be a dangerous situation. If you are truly over him then maybe you two could associate once in a while, but be sure you have resolved all "romantic" feelings about him if you still decide to become friends. Good luck and let us know how things work out for you.

you can be a friend to him only if you feel comfortable doing that but if not don't force yourself to do that fast because obviously you still have that feelings for him and that makes you not pretty well. we have the same experience but the only difference is that after he broke up with me i was totally fine and the next day he was the one who is nervous seeing me and be at the same place with me lol :p you see you can only be "friend" with your ex partner as long as the feelings that you have for him/her is totally change or gone.. give yourself a treat, go find another friend and just go back to him when you are ready for what he is offering :)

Chuck him. he wants you around as a fall back. Heres your reply- "Love ya, but I gotta move on"

if i were you i would tell him where to go. why would you want to stay friends with someone like him. if he was your friend before you got together and you have the same mates then it will be pretty difficult because you would all hang out together but if you have your own sets of friends i dont see a reason why you should stay friends with this guy unless you want to.

why bother ? just move on, its his loss.

If he is dumping you simply because another girl comes along that is pretty pathetic. Personally I wouldn't want to be their friend but I may stay as a distance friend. It more how you feel about the friendship

I know this question is years old, but I can't help asking - is this the same guy who threatened to kill himself if you broke up with him?

Did he have a good reason for breaking up with you? Be honest. If he did, then I think it's petty not at least be friends with him... But I'm thinking he didn't have a good reason, or at least didn't act when he figured out his good reason. If he left you "for another girl," that means that he was using you as something to be his girlfriend until something he really valued came along, OR he figured out he didn't want to be with you and went hunting for other women while he stayed with you. ("Accidentally" falling in love is BS... it's a confabulation people use to justify doing this.) Either way, it says A LOT about his character. You're just something to maybe be his girlfriend if it doesn't pan out, and he doesn't value you as a person, which IS WHAT FRIENDSHIP IS ALL ABOUT. So, I'm saying no. Treat him like the dirt bag that offended you as he did. I'm not saying slash his tires, but he treated you beneath the dignity you deserve as a standard human being... caused you avoidable pain you didn't deserve... and you should treat him as such. Unless, of course, he had a good reason... but it'd be pretty coincidental to meet and get together with a girl an hour after he figured it out. That's how I see it.

This most likely means he still has feelings for you. I can not give you an accurate answer without all the facts. Some guys always do this. It is not easy to do. Is it worth to you? I have one life long friend that is an X. We are not close but we exchange cards,emails and occasional phone calls. It did not come easy. Our break up was mutual. We were still in College.