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  • you need to realize that sneaking around and keeping secrets like this is NOT the way to do it ... as "irrational" as your mom may seem, you are not helping the situation at all ... as sucky as it sounds, you need to talk to her about it ... if you are old enough and mature enough to have romantic relationships, then you are old enough to have an adult conversation with your parents ... if you can't, then maybe "dating" isn't right for you now either
  • Now, I've been down this road before because my mother was the same way for awhile. You really just need to talk to your mother about it, let her know that your mature enough to date. If you can't get enough courage to do that, then there's the lesser option. I wouldn't suggest it, cause sneaking around is worse than just telling your mother, but you can always just explain to your girlfriend. Just tell her why she can't meet your mother, try to make her understand. Most girls won't mind, if they want to continue dating you. But, if she really cares, she'll try to help you talk to your mom. You could always try bringing her along when you tell your mother, maybe it'll lessin the blow just a bit. Just make sure she's very polite. =]
  • Sooner or later, your secret will be a secret no more. then, you are really going to have a difficult time with your mother. she may never trust you again. You are going to have to level with her and tell the truth. she will appreciate it more coming from you, rather than someone else. You cannot hide this forever.
  • Just introduce them slowly to her
  • Your mother isn't necessarily irrational, just because your rationalizations don't hold water with her. She knows things that you don't. One thing she knows is that your own hormones will have you toying with a time bomb when you think it's only a little flame. Ask your GF to wait until you're old enough to get out of whatever trouble you may get yourselves into-without any help from your "irrational" mother.
  • quit deceiving your mom and girlfriends and dishonoring your mom....she does not approve for 'reasons' ..and 'irrational' to you, not other parents.....
  • Just tell your mom that shes a friend with benefits and not your girlfriend
  • its already been said and it deserves repeating - talk to your mum about it. what would the girls think if they knew you went behind your mums back with them? Girls like to get approval from their boyfriends mum. it makes us feel secure in our femaleness (that does sound weird but so far i've found it to be true)
  • You gotta make a call about how serious you are about this girl. If you wanna be with her for the long haul, or if you may even want to marry her, she's gonna have to meet your Mom eventually. Your Mom sounds a lot like my Dad; he would go completely ballistic if I introduced a guy to him as by boyfriend. I don't get what's up with that. I'd try slowly introducing them to each other, as someone else on here already suggested.

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