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by Shopping_US on September 8th, 2009

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My son is 14 and he and his girlfriend are very close and sometimes seem as if they are thinking of sex. I'm not sure at what age to provide contraceptives? I'm not sure what to say about the consequences of early age sex?

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  • by Anonymous on September 8th, 2009

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    talk about pregnancy and how that stuff could actually happen. then make him promise he won't, aks him to pray to god he won't do it. so if he tries he'll feel really guilty.

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  • by randomness - is now a Maestro on September 8th, 2009

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    First thing, if you think they might have sex, give them condoms, and tell the girl to get on the pill. If necessary, take her to the doctor and put her on the pill. The most important thing here is that these kids don't get pregnant, or get STDs. Encourage them to go and get checked for STDs if they have had sex before.

    You also should talk to them about sex, and the ramifications. Tell them about STDs, tell them how to protect themselves, and tell them about pregnancy. Leave out none of the gory and gruesome details, they need to know the facts before they decide to do anything.

    There is no right age to provide contraceptives, you just provide them whenever the kids are going to have sex. What if you didn't give your child contraceptives because he was too young, and then he ends up being a 14 year old father?

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  • by Anonymous on September 9th, 2009

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    well i will tell you from experience,you have to talk to them and whatever you do make sure the girl has birth control and he has condoms ,my sons ex girlfriend was 15 and pregnant not a preety thing but the baby is my grandchild whom i will do anything for.good luck and do the right thing.

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  • by Anonymous on September 8th, 2009

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    As the wicked witch of the west would say, these things must be handled delicately. If you confront your son in an accusatory manner and he's actually not having sex with his girlfriend, you may push him to do just that. Furthermore, a confrontation will encourage him not to talk to you about his life, which is exactly the opposite of what you want. Instead, have a general conversation about the consequences of unsafe sex. You may also want to leave a box of condoms in the bathroom cabinet where he can find them. Then if he does decide to have sex, he'll be able to do it safely. He is getting beyond the age that you can easily control him. All you can do is teach him about consequences and good decision making, then hope that he puts your teaching into practice.

    ETA: There is one positive aspect to the situation. Even if your son is active, at least he's in a monogamous relationship with someone that he cares about.

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  • by troubled_senario on May 1st, 2011

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    The age you should think about putting a girl on contraceptives is just after she has her first period. Talk to the girls parents and see if they will take her to the doctor and decide which type is best for her.
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    Once anyone starts having sex as you know I am sure it isn't stopped in most cases. Preventing pregnancy for the young is the best solution today. Yelling at them and threats will do no good if they are sexually active. Sex at their age is quite common and I am sure you have some vivid memories of your own as well.
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    If they are having sex, then you and her parents should provide a safe place for them to do so, usually their bedroom and left undisturbed. This may be hard for some parents to do but it is better than out on some back road where they are open to whomever comes along.
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    There is no problem with early age sex. Not that many years ago 14 yr old young people were married and had children. Even Mary the mother of Jesus was about 14 when she had Him. Contrary to common thought God gave us sex to be enjoyed and pleasurable and also for procreation. There is no place in the Bible that prohibits pre-marital, post-marital or even extra-marital sex as long as it is consensual and is not done as worship of other gods or goddesses.

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