Forget? No Get Over? Absolutely

Diana's answer is short and sweet, but very true. I can only speak for myself, but 15 years later I still can't free up the space in my brain my first love is occupying which is rather unfortunate. :)

I think the main reason why people can never seem to forget that first love is because it was such an emotional time, not because they still love that person. It's very traumatic each and every time you lose a love, but you'll always remember the first one.

Its very true. its because of associations. the time, the place, the events, the very first things you did together. your music, your special song, all are embedded in your memory banks forever. memories never, i repeat never, go away. it may have been your first real kiss, first real date or first real time to share yourself with someone else. electric shock will never erase those memories. maybe god intended it that way for the bad times in our lives.

Well you can basically say that people do not forget their first time doing anything. With strong emotions, such as love, is of course the same and stronger.

I think that people usually remember the name of their "first love", even if they cannot recall anything else. It's not much to retain, but your "first love" is unimportant when your current love is the one that really counts.

I believe that you will never forget it. Apart of you will always still love and like that person.No matter what happens. It depends on how strong your love was and what happened to cause such a breakup. Myself. i knew it was true love. But we broke up because of my age. It hurt like hell. Its been a year and everytime i see him, i still get all those feelings. I've learned to live with it. I try and think about the reason's it was for the best. I'm still friends with him. That also helps. I had like a grudge , because he broke it off. But not anymore. I kept telling myself it was for the best. So basicly; You never get over it. But you learn to live with it.

The majority of people will probably not forget about their first love BUT maybe in time they will...when they reach to the age were they start to forget, ofcourse. Sometimes they might have some kind of injury with their head/brain and wont remember their first love...or anything at all. All I could say is yes, it is true that "most" people wont forget about their true love, unless something unfortunate happens to the part of the brain where memory is stored. I hope this answered your question, take care.

I am now 53 and still cannot forget my 1st love after 30 years. We dated through high school, married early and divorced after 2-years. I am now married to a wonderful wife & 2 teenagers and have a great life. But the thoughts of my 1st love still haunt me and always will. I even still remember the scent of her body. I have delt with my regrets but the thought of her still enters my mind often.

How true, yet, unfortunate this is. Thirteen years ago, I ended an engagement with my long-term high school and college boyfriend (seven year relationship). Nearly nineteen years to the day that we first met, I have not conquered my feelings for this individual. We are both married with children. We still communicate sometimes. I have many regrets over ending that relationship. I have regretted it all these years later. I have had relationships with (and married) men with similar personalities to my first love. We have communicated over the years. I try to resist doing that because it's doesn't change anything and it's not fair to our spouses and children. Other times, I remind myself that it's easy to remember the good times and forget why I ended the relationship. Are there other people out there that live with this problem? Does this improve with time? I apologize for answering a question with a question...

Yes it is very true. My real first love left me and it took me a long time to move past it but I have ....having said that I will never forget him or how much I loved him.

true... literally. me n my first love dated for 3 years... and ill never forget him. he showed me alot in life...

I will never forget her ,yet, I was over her MANY years ago. I am SO glad at this point in my life that she & I didn't work out. Sometimes it's really a blessing that we don't get everyting we've wished for.

Yes, it is. I remember mine; Her name was Jenny. Wait, no, or was it Nicky? Hmmm...

Yes, it is true. I remember mine. I wonder how he is doing these days and if he's happy.

When he smiled i would feel like smiling and my heart broke when i saw tears rolling down his face

yes. first loves are unforgetable..but that wont make you stop from finding other love..and moving on..my first love..he was so dam goodlooking,,parents had money, she sang in a band..i thought my life was over..no some 15-20 years later..hes bald, fat,divorced, not singing, and barely making the bills..i dont regret but will never forget

never forget? well i dont forget many people...but in that way sure I've forgotten him, pshh

I don't know how it's possible for a living person who doesn't have memory loss to forget the first person he or she loved in a romantic kind of way unless it wasn't love at all. So, yes, I do believe that it is true that most living people can never forget their first loves.

I haven't.

I haven't, and it's been 30+ years.

It's been 19 years and I'm going to say no. I'm happily married, but yeah occasionally I think about him once in a while.

i have never forgotten mine and i dont know anyone that has. so i dont think so

i dont think so! I still talk to mine!

It's been 40 years and I am still in weekly contact with him.

No, not ever.

I have loved a guy for 8 years. he is married now and i am seeing someone else. the reason we broke up was coz of different cultural reasons. but i still love him and will do so til the day i die. no i dont think u can get over ur first love. my fiance is great. hell he loves me alot and so do i but i still feel that my life would have been very different if otherwise. well its life. it took me more than 5 years to get over him but sometimes when i think of him i still remeber him. everything abt him. forgeting is not the issue how to get over him was. life is funny sometimes we tend to lose the people we love the most.

No never.

I never will. I remember it very, very clearly.

I wish I could forget her, but I can't.

Yeah, because the love i have now is far better, deeper, and stronger :)

no! im very sure you cant. it has been 22 years and there are times when im back there with her. trying to figure out what happend wondering what if. i hope to talk to her one day.... the first cut is the deepest for sure. im married and happy... but from time to time i still wish

Unfortunately, there is no way to erase thoughts of your first love - its the most purest, innocent and unconditional love there is. We love the other irrespective of their flaws and are willing to undergo any trial or tribulation with/for them. I was with my ex for 7 years - from the age of 19 to 26 - essentially, i believe we grew up with eachother and thus, grew apart at the same time. I think everyone remembers their first love, the way they smell, their touch, the way they've looked at us and although you are completely and utterly happy in your life, have found love elsewhere, there will always remain a void. What is important to remember is that there is always a reason to tear two people apart and its usually something significant. Its easy to remember the great times, but its essential to remember the bad since those are the reasons why things ended in the first place. My ex and i are both married now, I have a child and he has one on the way but a day does not pass when i don't think of him! Sorry mates, i think we're plagued/blessed with the memory of our first and purest loves for all eternity!

probably I know I couldn't

I can never forget my "j-bub". It was the nearest thing to unconditional, pure and accepting love and good friendship also. Even though she said she loved me very much, she was always insecure and deep down was convinced that I was "too good" for her. I failed to assure her otherwise. In the end, these doubts (and the insiduous influence of certain other males) got the better of her and ultimately with an act of will, she forced herself to leave me. I was helpless to stop it. It was traumatic for both of us. That was 3 years ago. I am now in a different relationship, which is amicable but deep down, there is something missing. The empathy and mutual identification of the first love is lacking. I understand my first love has moved on, yet I still think of her and pray for her every single day and hope that some day, somehow, some way, she will drop me a line or send me a message, just to say how she is doing and she would still like to keep in touch once in a while. (By the way, I dont intend to be unfaithful to my present partner - the old one is purely platonic now). I hope that by some freaky conincidence she can read this, as I have no other way to contact her now. Chooklet

well i wont forget her ,ever.

I don't think it's possible to ever "forget" your first love, i feel like when you really love someone that love will be with you forever. Always remember people come in and out of your life for a reason.

I don't know why people make the first such a big deal. I mean yes, I remember him, I really liked him at the time...but the boyfriend I really was affected by was later. It depends on the person. But do we really forget anyone we were close to? Let's look at what forget means. It means for ones cognition or memory to entirely avoid any recollection of any experience or person. How often does this occur? Do you ever forget your first best friend? No. But it doesn't always affect you like it once did. There's a first time for everything...doesn't always mean those first times are the best.

first time may not be the best...but we could not forget the first love

Yes and no Yes if it is an one sided love no if it is true love

No, but that's a good thing. At first, the memories will be painful, but time heals all wounds. Looking back you see the differences between that first love and later ones. If you're lucky someday you'll have true love to compare them to and see how they pale. They build up who you are though, and affect the way you create relationships in your life. So value love lost, even in its loss, for it is truly better than to never have loved at all.

Your first love will always have a place in your heart. You still need to try to move on in your life. Don't make contact with him/her as this makes it more difficult for you to let go. I know it is very difficult to believe, but you will find another (however, not until you close this door and are able to open a new one). Let this chapter of your life pass - and consider it a life experience to help you get through the future. Remember for the good times, but don't let it hold you back from future happiness.

I sure can't. And I am trying every SINGLE day.

u never do..... but new a new love can acupy the mind... and the old one will advenchualy just be a reference...forgetting is somthing u dont want to do becouse there is something u dont want to let go from.... putting it away for a wile seems to me like a heathier alternitive..

I am much older now and I still haven't forgotten my first love, I remember everything like it was yesterday, I loved him so deeply and we broke up before we graduated from Highschool, in every relationship that I have ever been in, I never forgot him, I thought of him often, it would drive me crazy that I couldn't just forget him! Now we are friends after years and years of not seeing eachother, he has thought about me over the years as well, but I have been married over 10 years now, I am with a wonderful guy who loves me very much! But it still is hard for me, I can't and wont forget my first, I've tried for years! It is nice having him back in my life now, it's helped fill that void when he was gone altogether, I would rather have him as a friend than to not have him at all :-) It's nearly impossible to forget your first!

No First loves are special and forever etched in our hearts. They are very special. Reason they are extremely hard to forget!

I wish i can forget him.

no but as time passes you end to forget the bad remember the good. my first love absolutely broke y heart in 1975 but in the past 5 years i have seen her occasionally and while we are not close friends it's interesting to be back in touch

I won't call Him my 'first love' He was my only Love...it was real and true. I will always remember him...and he'll always live in my heart.It was beautiful, nieve...and I learnt a lot.

I remember the boy but I can't remember the feeling anymore (I got this line from a song) :D

Yeah, it's possible, but I truly believe everyone remembers their first love, someway, somehow or another. People may say they don't because they don't wanna think about it, etc. but we know it's there.

We? I'll kick your bum if its the same guy : )

your not supposed to forget them, its impossible you can move on tho

I don't think I could, I never have.

I think we remember for he/she being our first love. But there are no feelings there for that person. It's just like everyone remembers their first car...it's about the same.

Its impossible to forget first love. No arguments here. I am in love and I am sure if I am not able to get her, I will eventually lose self respect. I am sure I will not be able to love any one else as much as I loved her. This is pure and unconditional love I have ever experienced. I dont in which street of the world she will be in, but I will still remember her. There isnt a single moment that I have not thought of her. Its just too deep to express with the help of words from keyboard. First love is something to be experienced and felt. When I earlier saw people taking extreme steps, I thought they are fools, but I am on the same route now. And memories just bring in more pain, nothing else. Tears cant be controlled and the heart is always heavy, no running away from this fact. First love is first, and nothing can come even close to that. Second love is always secondary. Even if one is lying on death bed, the memories of first love brings tears in heart. Get over/forget, etc. tricks are just not digestable. Pray to god that one gets his/her first love.

Its impossible to forget first love. No arguments here. I am in love and I am sure if I am not able to get her, I will eventually lose self respect. I am sure I will not be able to love any one else as much as I loved her. This is pure and unconditional love I have ever experienced. I dont in which street of the world she will be in, but I will still remember her. There isnt a single moment that I have not thought of her. Its just too deep to express with the help of words from keyboard. First love is something to be experienced and felt. When I earlier saw people taking extreme steps, I thought they are fools, but I am on the same route now. And memories just bring in more pain, nothing else. Tears cant be controlled and the heart is always heavy, no running away from this fact. First love is first, and nothing can come even close to that. Second love is always secondary. Even if one is lying on death bed, the memories of first love brings tears in heart. Get over/forget, etc. tricks are just not digestable. Pray to god that one gets his/her first love.

Unless there were hundreds ... How do you forget any? >♥<

I feel bad not to express my love towards my first love. Though i got a proposal, i ignored it completely. It is custom in my family, to marry only the person whom our parents choose for us. So i never encouraged such feelings. He was very loving and caring person, always wanted to support me. It was his love at first sight. I wanted to say the magical 3 words to only my hubby , which i did. But somehow there is some pain, i cannot forget that past(infact it grew stronger after my marriage). The reason: My hubby also had his first, where he and his ex were together for 2 years. Now hes is over it. He is never able to express his love openly to me. Its baffling and i am suffering. I wish god only one thing, to give me lots of love towards my hubby and take away all such bitter or inevitable feelings. somebody Please get me off of my heavy heart. I am not crying physically but mentally yes.

i dont know if im ever gonna forget my first love im still with my first love and i dont kno if ill survive lol

I used to love a one person who has been very important in my life and he was my first true love. We've been for morethan 5 years on and off... We broke up because we could not udnestand each other but we both know that we still love each other until now. I was 21 when I met him and I was 22 when we became bf's and gf's. I've heard that he has many gf's now and he had family already though he told me that he was divorce years years ago. Until everytime I am hearing a news about him with girls, i feel jealous and hurt. I am kinda missing him but the truth I don't want to be with him anymore! But I don't know how not to be affected of everything he do. I belive that First love never dies!!!! He will be inside of my heart until I get married too and settle down with my own family in the future. Even he hurts me many times I accepted all his mistakes and forgiven him already because I know that human will never be perfect! I hope my all kinds of feelings for him will gone the soonest because I still do thinking of him!