My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship; she is starting grad school in a few days, and she says that she wants a change of scenery because she's been sitting around the house lately. So, she goes to a party that she wasn't sure she wanted to go to in the first place because there were people there that she didn't want to see (her ex boyfriend from high school being one of them). I thought it was weird that they connected again after so long, especially after she expressed a great deal of dread in seeing him. I encouraged her to get out and have fun, but this quick reconnection with her ex is creepy. First of all, I was fine when she said he was married, but I got nervous when she told me he was getting a divorce. I don't understand; she hasn't talked to him in four years, and they become best friends after one night at a party? Now, for the last two weeks, she's been hanging out with this guy and his friends (whom she seems to get along with) almost every night after work, and even when she doesn't have work. She seems to be so excited to go over there, but what bothers me is that this seems like some kind of boundary that has been crossed. She says she's going to a party, and it gets me even more nervous because she says that she spent that night at a friends' house while her ex was there. What also bothers me is the fact that she says that she wants to get as much social time in as possible before grad school classes start up. I have no problem with my girlfriend hanging out with other people. I trust her, but I don't trust him. Why would I? He's another male taking up her time; he's in pain because his wife wants to divorce him... why would I trust him? Then again, I should only worry about trusting her, right? I just feel weird because I'm not comfortable with her hanging out with him so much. If it was every once in a while, I could understand, but every night for the past two weeks is too much even for me. Maybe it's because we're not physically together, so I don't take precedence in her life, but I would think that there would be some type of boundary. I don't hang out with my ex girlfriends every night, and we're on very good terms. I want to tell my lady how I feel about it, I'm trying not to seem like a jealous boyfriend or that I'm telling her not to spend time with other people. I'm having a hard time dealing with this; should I even be upset about this? Should I just leave it alone and trust her even though I don't trust him. Am I being unreasonable or am I right on point with feeling this way? It just bothers me so much! What can I do?

There are none so blind as those who won't take the blindfold off. Are you kidding me? Get rid of this lying tramp. NOW. She's so playing you.

It's so hard to see when it's happening to you. Sounds rather obvious to me. Barren, this isn't being jealous, this is "Do YOU see what I see?" Yes we do! Don't put up with this nonesense! You are tooooooo nice!

Shes screwing him man. Every night for the past 2 weeks, are you kidding me? You better settle it. and if you really trust her so much to where you think its not happening, next time go out with them. I garuntee theyll act distant and awkwarsd while your there. if the dont and are freidnly with eachother youve got nothing to worry about. but as it stand now, you better start packing her stuff.

You guys seem very sure about your answers... could you be a little more specific?