If an old relative lives alone and her mind as well as her physical health is slipping and her son thinks she should seek assistance(not removed from her home)but her daughter thinks she's fine alone, what would be the proper thing,in your opinion, to do?
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The son and daughter should help her out. What type of assistance do you mean, A live in nurse? -
I think, as long as she's not removed from her home, she should get assistance. There's no harm in it.
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Nice daughter. I think she needs assistance at least. Most elderly people would wish to stay in their homes, so I am in favor of the assistance in the house. The daughter is cluless or selfish.
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There are various pop-in services. Nurse just comes by, makes sure the person is up/about/feeling okay, checks that the meds have been taken, maybe walks the icy stairs to go get the mail because grandma/grandpa can't.
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My great-aunt's family is currently in this position and my family was in this position a little over 2 years ago. It is a very hard thing to deal with and should be done so with care (especially if the elderly relative is as stubborn as my family is). It is amazing how quickly an elderly person can deteriorate. We watched my grandmother lose her ability to take care of her self rather quickly, and I am glad that we were able to do so in the comfort of our home. We had my grandmother come and live with us for the last two years of her life... and while for most this is impractical, I'm glad we did so... we didn't have to be constantly asking if she was alright... knowing we may not be getting the whole truth from her because we saw everything. It was also very nice having my grandmother around.
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What I did all the way to the end was vist at least twice a week to do something (cut grass,etc.)or just keep him up on my life. I brought him close to me like a brother should be and it kept his mind working. I did this for 4 years and dont regret one minute of it! Grandad died in 02 I was there when he drew his last breath..
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Ask the Mom what she wants...then go from there.
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Rock paper scissors? But really, assuming the son is not being to over protective, they should get someone in there to help out a bit with the harder stuff, or maybe he could just do it himself.
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Get a "professional" opinion so the onus is off the son and daughter to make that "decision"!
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I hope my children will give me the dignity of a bullet to the brain. ok maybe not, but I hope god sees fit to take me out before I am invalid.
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get a doctor's assessment (unless either the son or the daughter is medically qualified in which case go with their opinion).
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if you want to help, give them both the number of the local county office on aging and have a social worker come out and interview the old lady to see what kinds of needs she really needs ...
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