Do You believe a person can be changed without being rejected by people He would like to relate to? (without it taking decades or forever)

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• That's what I was asking for.
  Can a person get motivation to
  change, other than to not be
  rejected by people He would
  like to relate to?
  
  If so... then what kind of?

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  by Anonymous T on August 25th, 2009

• I don't see rejection as a motive for change. It is up to you how serious you are and how quickly it can be done. I think it is self-induced for yourself. You have to want to change only for you, and do it. If you do it for any other reason, I don't think it will be permanent. If the people cannot take a better you without rejection, I would rethink their influence or friendship in your life.

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  by dancer on August 25th, 2009

• Tolerance is limited
  in everyone. And You
  wouldn't do most of
  the things You're doing,
  if no people lived on
  Earth. So without a social
  context "changing social
  behavior only for Yourself"
  doesn't make any sense.
  You always regulate it
  to others. It's just
  a matter of, to whom?
  
  And here comes a place when
  a person could be more likely
  to change the people He desires
  to connect with than to change
  Himself.
  
  So if we suppose the person has
  some character flaw, He could be
  more likely to reject the fact
  that it is a flaw and move to
  a more tolerant group, instead
  of changing Himself.

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  by Anonymous T on August 25th, 2009

• Anony, I don't see it that way. I know a lot of people do change for others and when they revert back, all hell breaks loose. If you feel your change makes you a better person before God, that is all that matters to me. We can't take other people with us at the end.
  
  However, when we make positive changes, we get wonderful friends as gifts, who seem to be drawn to us. I wish you every desire to have all of this become uncomplicated and welcoming for you. Thx for the points!

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  by dancer on August 25th, 2009

• I'm an atheist, so Your
  explanation doesn't work
  for me.
  
  But if it works for You,
  good for You.
  
  To me the difference between
  "changing for someone" and
  "changing because someone
  or relations with someone
  made You realize something
  about Yourself" is not
  a very big one. (if it's
  permanent and non-reverting)
  
  Thanks for the answer.

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  by Anonymous T on August 25th, 2009

• If you feel like answering, what happens when you die? Nothing?

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  by dancer on August 25th, 2009

• Probably.

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  by Anonymous T on August 25th, 2009