Are you one of those people that dont believe in putting family in a nursing home?

i would try not to, but there comes a time when they need constant care that you can't give them at home. eventually you have to make a decision thats best for them and for you and your family.

If I physically can't or unable to care for them.........I'll be forced to use a Nursing home.

Absolutely!
I don't trust those places!

The way I see it is they wiped my ass and fed me when I was a helpless baby so it would be shameful and ungrateful if I didn't do the same.
I would never send an elder family member away because it was inconvenient for me to deal with them.

Hell no my dad will do just fine.

i am indeed one of those people. i would never put anyone that i cared about in a nursing home.

The insightful answers so far are ones I cannot match.

I made this promise to my mother several years ago.

She made me promise to never put her into a nursing home. that, she wanted to go out the front door of her house.........feet first.

I promised.

She is 92 now, 98% deaf and in a wheelchair. she cooks for herself and is very alert.

I am making good my promise to her, but i am not sure how much longer i can keep this promise.

Its entirely up to her.

My parents put me in a nursing home when i was 23, motorcycle wreck learn to walk again, but they just couldn't deal with my injuries, i felt bad that they felt bad, kinda. They would come live with me before i would ever send them away. I have lived there already, and when i got to prison i though my god. It's the same feeling. Hopelessness. Despair. Loneliness. Ended only by death. Prison actually wasnt as bad...

Yup, quit my career and moved in with my Daddy to take care of him, he may only have a few years left and I'm not letting him rot in no home but his own!

I think every family would say they would whant to look after there elders at home,but a lot of the time this can't happen,Sometimes because of the nature of an elderly persons mind or body they cant be left alone and need an eye kept on them all the time.
In most families both parents have to work now to pay for there debts eg Mortgage and Loans etc,and cannot be about to look after there elderly relations,so thats where the need for nursing homes comes in.
Its not the best soloution but one of our own making to fit in with peoples needs to run their lives and not have to worry about the elderly.

Yes, and thankfully it's never had to come to that although it's come close.

I absolutely WILL never put my family in a nursing home. First of all my grandmother worked in one, second I spent much of my holidays doing community service runs to homes for 4 h. As far as I am concerned those places aren't fit for humans. Such despair, and misery,

If she has the money to pay for someone to come in and do what you are doing from time to time, get her to do it. It's waaay cheaper than an assisted living center.

I was all for taking care of my dad until he died, but as soon as he started accusing me of stealing from him, I told him he had to go to an assisted living center. Unfortunately there are many attorneys who are too eager to sue because of situations like this.

This instance and others are things that nobody planned on when we agreed to care for our folks until death. I remember many times I promised my kids I'd do something for them, but at the last minute I had to appologize because things have changed and suddenly I can't keep my promise. You give it your best shot, and then do what you have to.