You move on and let him go. Nothing good will come from you pursuing this.

sounds like the office plot

Stay out of it....you missed your chance.

back off... you missed your chance and if he REALLY loves you, he'll call it off and find you.

You leave him alone. You had a chance with this man and you weren't ready. He moved on and found the woman that he wants to spend the rest of his life with. I'm engaged and I'd be pretty pissed if one of my x's came back to him saying "Oh my God, I wasn't ready then but I'm ready now take me back!" Get over him and don't mess this up for him and his fiance! I know if I were her and I found out about you I'd be ready to kick your butt!

I have seen this movie before, Julia Roberts. Go do another movie.

It seems to me you just want him because he is now less available to you. Leave the man alone move out of his sphere. If he means that he wants you he will break off his engagement without your help.

Let me put it this way to you. If it was solely your responsibility to do the right thing here, and your chief concern was the welfare and happiness of the other two people involved, ahead of your own interest, what would you do? Keep in mind that they must come before yourself in this instance. Its not fair to his new fiance I'm sure that you realize! How would you feel if it happened to you??? What do you think the old flame should do in that case??? If he loves you, and its meant to be, it will be. If not, leave him alone to enjoy the life that you chose not to be part of.

He's not married yet. I think that he should make a final decision now between the two of you, and not after he's married. If he is that indecisive, he should not be getting married. If he truly loves you and believes you are the one, I would ask him. +4

Find another man. HE is no longer "ready."

Sweetheart you gave up any claim to him the day you decided you weren't ready for a comitted relationship with him. He has someone else now and even if she isnj't yet his wife you need to back off and find someone else. If you choose not to heed this advise you will regret it somewhere down the road.

back off and leave them alone - you only want him because he doesnt want you anymore, and youre just trying to prove something, grow up and go get your own guy

You've got to be kidding me. You know exactly what to do. And it doesn't involve being their flower girl. And how very nice that he wants to be with you while planning a wedding with another woman! How could you possibly resist a man with such fine morals and character? Please lady! Get your head out of your posterior and move on down the road.

sounds like you're annoyed because he got with someone else because you weren't ready and he moved on and found someone else and loves them and is not interested in you. oh well, you missed your chance. time 2 find someone else to go out with too bad you had your chance and you blew it. plus 3 to help you out

Leave him alone.

if he still wanted to be with you then he should not be marriing her. if he would marry her dispite that he shouldn't is he really the kind of guy you want to marry?

Your situation reads like a synopsis for a bad Grade B movie. I've read all of the other answers and comments related to those answers, and I'm surprised that not too many of them have concentrated on the poor gal who is gonna get married to a dude who doesn't love her as much as he loves you, and that's really sad, because this gal is entering into a "rebound" marriage as his second choice. If she knew about that, I bet she'd call the wedding off, immediately. I would, if I was her and found out about this discussion. Some folks just have to have "the forbidden fruit," and the fact that it IS forbidden, is what makes the unable-to-have person that much more desirable to the person who wants him/her. When he wanted you, you didn't want him. When he found a "second choice," you all of sudden wanted him. Respectfully, I think you want him, only when you know you can't have him, and that if he suddenly dumped the unfortunate gal to whom he is now engaged and asked you to marry him, you would again change your mind and say, "I'm no longer interested." I agree with many of the others who have advised you to forget about this guy, cut your losses and move on to another guy. But, I'm thinking that you won't do that. It's my belief that the guy will go ahead and marry the other girl, then have you on the side, as a mistress. He'll have two women in his bed, but not simultaneously. What a mess...

He has MOVED ON! He says he wants to be with you, IN THE PAST! He feels bad for YOUR feelings, and is trying to make you feel better by saying that. Unfortunately, that STRINGS you along! CHIN UP, WOMAN! THIS WAS NOT MEANT TO BE FOR YOU AND HE. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS. CUT IF OFF IMMEDIATELY FOR YOUR OWN SANITY!

I am in a very similar situatiom. A man asked me to marry him and I refused because he was fifteen years older than me even though I was very fond of him. A year later he met this other women who he recently got engaged to-suddenly he is irresistible. I tell myself its the concept of forbidden fruit and refuse to message or talk to him but I feel like I am dying inside. I reallly want him-pathetic! I have decided to stay away, I am stronger than I give myself credit for and so are you. We can get through anything-just stay strong.

Well, he is engaged? Have you thought of the feelings of the woman? Poor woman! If they are planning the wedding, how could he care for you? Sounds like you are someone to use up because he is an insecure loser. When you say he asked you before..was he engaged then too??

Tell him how you feel. But before you do, do you just want to marry him because he is marrying someone else. If so, you're scum.

Can't have it both ways. How would you like to be this guy's poor fiancee who is planning a wedding with a guy that is already two-timing her?