• Just towards the ladies :) +5
  • To an extent, yes. I don't seem to be able to allow myself to be better off than any of my friends, family, or even acquaintances, often to my frustration. It is, I think, one of the reasons I enjoy being on AB so much; I enjoy answering the questions that are people's problems, and providing them with help should they need it ^_^
  • Not anymore.
  • Not me, my husband does. sometimes he's too much.
  • no im just b!tchy that way +5
  • Unfortunatley, most of the time I do. I don't take enough time for me.
  • sometimes I do
  • Nope. It may happen organically, and does often, but it's a result of my own choices of action and not a desire to keep everyone happy. Will also never look to be pleased at every turn.
  • I used to be much more of a "people pleaser" and I still am to an extent, but I am doing a lot more for myself now. I realized to have a good life for myself I have to be selfLESS not selfISH. However, when I do get a boyfriend, I know myself and I most likely will put a lot of his needs and wants ahead of mine, but I also know I can't lose sight of what I need and how far I have come.
  • Hardly. Because I am not seeking reelection.
  • No..I used to but I grew up and don't need it any more and voila! I'm cured! Happy Saturday my friend! :) ((hugs))
  • I do to a degree, I use to always be that way! But now I am more "diplomatic" I will not do anything stupid to please someone but I do tend to be concerned about others feelings and I am a giver and empathist.
  • Once upon a time I did...I'm over that now! (for the most part!) If I can, and it brings me joy to do so...I will, but..if I can not, or if it is going to cost me more in time or money than I can afford.....I'm comfortable saying NO.
  • Yep. It often brings me a lot of regret and pain, though. Trying to please everyone is useless in the end because it's your life ultimately and you need to do what needs to be done to make you happy. You can love your family and friends, but when you get to a point where you are doing things which are displeasing to you, but pleasing to someone else, that is problematic because life is not a dress rehearsal. We are here to serve God and to be happy. My grandmother wants me to finish college badly, but I have failed the same class five times and am pretty fed up with college. I just want to work and save money and if I return to college, fine, but if not, that's okay, too. That's my latest battle with trying to please someone else.
  • Yes, I guess I do. I would like to please everyone all the time, but alas I can't. So, I don't lose any sleep over it. I am what I am, love it or leave it alone.
  • I've never heard it called that before. Thanks for the diagnosis! I am trying to get over it, because it's impossible to please everyone. Also, there are some things that we shouldn't compromise in order to please others, such as deeply held beliefs.

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